Stop rolling your eyes at fat people in the gym!

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  • halflife1978
    halflife1978 Posts: 47 Member
    I'm the fat person in the gym.

    I have never had anyone roll their eyes at me but I've had the "good for you" patronizing pat on the head thing going on and it feels pretty horrible to be singled out like that too.

    I know people are just trying to be nice but I wish nobody would ever say anything, just work out and let me work out in peace.
  • Fish_Fuzz
    Fish_Fuzz Posts: 90 Member
    And while we're at it, can everyone stop staring at my junk when I do my squats, and just so you know spanx for men is IN now. For the last time they are not pink they're salmon colored!
  • IAMANAN
    IAMANAN Posts: 7
    I sometimes forget I'm not the big girl anymore. When people stare at me, I think they're judging me for being overweight and at the gym. DH pointed out the other night that all the people staring were guys, and I was wearing something form-fitting. That made me feel even worse, until he said they weren't judging me negatively; they were checking me out. :blushing:

    Congratulations on your fantastic weight loss

    Great NSV
  • misssiri
    misssiri Posts: 335 Member
    I think a lot of the time people are so self conscious at the gym, they assume people are rolling their eyes, laughing, judging, etc. when really most people are just there to get their sweat on and get out.

    I agree with this. If you really feel like people are rude at your gym, find a new one. But I really don't pay attention to what others are doing unless they are taking up the squats racks or the benches and screwing around. That is annoying.
  • K_Serz
    K_Serz Posts: 1,299 Member
    And posting a message here on MFP will correct that behavior in YOUR gym?

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  • SassyCalyGirl
    SassyCalyGirl Posts: 1,932 Member
    so much drama and judgement......
    this is why I don't go to a gym and never will.
  • semeyer
    semeyer Posts: 282 Member
    I have been accused of giving someone the 'stink eye' in the gym.

    I don't wear my glasses in the gym so I am constantly squinting to see whats going on around me.

    Sometimes there are two sides to the story.
  • NovemberJune
    NovemberJune Posts: 2,525 Member
    I'm so glad I've never seen anything like this. I always try to smile encouragingly at the overweight people at the gym because I used to be obese and I want them to know they're doing great... but it probably comes off more as creepy than encouraging. :wink: oh well!
  • kelsully
    kelsully Posts: 1,008 Member
    They're exactly where they should be! And they have just as much right to be there as anyone else.

    Instead of being a twunt, be nice. Smile. Say hello. Make them feel welcome, so they'll keep coming back.

    (Added bonus: You'll feel better too.)


    Must say in most cases that I have been at the gym...which is often enough to say this ...most people are not looking at anyone but themselves but if they are looking at those who are bigger than themselves they do so with encouragement and see those who are starting off as inspirational.

    I see more eye rolling done towards those who are muscle heads....not those who are in really good shape but those peacocks who parade around to get other people's attention.
  • fullofquirks
    fullofquirks Posts: 182 Member
    I went to a Gold's Gym in a nearby town to sign up when I was around 330lbs. I was waiting at the front desk for the employee to come back with paperwork when two girls walked past and one said to another, "I guess they're just gonna let anyone in here. Better go work out before the machines get broken by this new girl."

    I walked out and never went back. I now chalk it up to it being a college town and that it really shouldn't have matter what other people thought but I let it matter. A lot.
  • luceegj
    luceegj Posts: 246 Member
    Roll your eyes at the people that think they don't need to be there and just chat!!!!! GRRRR
  • meredith1123
    meredith1123 Posts: 843 Member
    I dont see this at my gym, at all. In fact, I find we are all supportive. There are a few vain people but they arent rolling eyes at anyone.
    sorry if you have witnesssed this. Maybe you call THEM out.. ha
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  • roxierachael
    roxierachael Posts: 81 Member
    I roll my eyes at skinny girls who pick up 5 lbs dumbbells.

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  • realme56
    realme56 Posts: 1,093 Member
    My gym (Chuze Fitness) is very easy going, helpful and not judgmental. We are all there for the same reason, just at different stages.
  • savithny
    savithny Posts: 1,200 Member
    I used to go to the pool with two housemates every morning.

    One of them was always audibly sighing and visibly rolling her eyes when one older, larger woman would come in to swim laps. The woman always went to the slowest lane, and the housemate didn't have to be in her lane, but she'd go on about how "old fat people taking up lanes" annoyed her.

    We stopped waking her up to go with us after awhile.
  • Amyp7777
    Amyp7777 Posts: 79
    I roll my eyes at people who rolls their eyes at anyone for working out. Some people use the machines, some people prefer cardio, some people lift heavy, so what? Everyone is there to better themselves, good deal. Life is too short to go on about such things. That said, I am taking a break from the gym atmosphere. I found it burned me out and I didn't enjoy going. Now I work out outside and at home. Occasionally get a snooty bird or squirrel giving me the stink eye, but typically it's a judge-free zone.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    Occasionally get a snooty bird or squirrel giving me the stink eye, but typically it's a judge-free zone.

    :laugh: That's awesome.
  • verdancyhime
    verdancyhime Posts: 237 Member
    I have social anxiety and this is why I'm stuck in a gym membership even though I don't go. I have an apartment about three times the size of a closet and I suffer from insomnia. I figured on days when I couldn't sleep I could go and hit the treadmills for a couple hours, and it would be safer than walking around town at night. It really did help- that will make anyone tired.

    Unfortunately I was kind of fast walking with a high incline, which some people who also came to the gym at 3am thought was hilarious and also thought I couldn't hear them making fun of me through my headphones.

    I really liked the bikes and some of the machines I was learning to use, but... It no longer felt like a "safe place" to me. Meh. There are options I can take at home, even with limited space.
  • alexiaans
    alexiaans Posts: 113 Member
    This is terrible!

    I could roll my eyes at a lot more people in the gym like the 20 guys at one bench working in sets. That's a whole lot of running your mouth, rest time and bull****ting IMO but opinions are like *kitten*.

    *shrug*
  • ami5000psu
    ami5000psu Posts: 391 Member
    What? I was rolling my eyes at you because you didn't wipe down the machine after you finished.
  • Susan_fessler
    Susan_fessler Posts: 56 Member
    Never ever has this happened at my gym, people are great. It is a crossfit gym and I hear they are different but it's the only one I have ever went to. Everyone is great and supportive many will cheer you on during that last round where you are ready to quit. We don't have much equipment so everyone is pretty much doing the same workout of the day. I go at the same time as some really great athletes who kick my *kitten* but they still tell me good job when I am done.

    It does seem like most people on here are saying it doesn't happen at there gym. I tend to roll my eyes a lot places because I am in my own world thinking about something and maybe that happens at the gym and people think it directed at them. If you are not happy at your gym then find a new one, you won't be successful of you are scared/feel bad to work out.
  • lcvaughn520
    lcvaughn520 Posts: 219 Member
    I'm kind of surprised by the number of people on this thread who admit to rolling their eyes at ANYONE at the gym. So what if someone is walking on the treadmill or if they're talking to other people. Let them do their thing. If they're walking on the treadmill for a really long time and there's a wait, ask them to move, just like you'd expect other people to move. The rule isn't that whoever is doing the most hardcore workout gets priority.

    Why do you have to care if someone isn't working out as intensely as you? I'm sorry, I just hate judge-y people at the gym. Get in, do your thing, get out. Unless someone is preventing you from doing that, you have no reason to openly judge or mock them.
  • luceegj
    luceegj Posts: 246 Member
    I say you are at the gym for a reason what ever that my be! Just repect that if they are respectful!!!!
    I respect big people in the gym!!!!
  • sarah307
    sarah307 Posts: 1,363 Member
    I know!! I think everyone at the gym is a winner!! because they showed up!
  • sarah307
    sarah307 Posts: 1,363 Member

    Why do you have to care if someone isn't working out as intensely as you? I'm sorry, I just hate judge-y people at the gym. Get in, do your thing, get out. Unless someone is preventing you from doing that, you have no reason to openly judge or mock them.

    YES
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
    I got a dirty look from a girl in MY weight room last week. She was unhappy that I used the squat rack (for squatz. Go figure), then pulled the bar down for deads. NEVER seen her before, and I am there religiously. Best thing to do is smile at them, it confuses them.
  • Mischievous_Rascal
    Mischievous_Rascal Posts: 1,791 Member
    Wow...I must go to a perfect gym (or at least at the perfect time of day).
  • Geojerm
    Geojerm Posts: 291 Member
    They're exactly where they should be! And they have just as much right to be there as anyone else.

    Instead of being a twunt, be nice. Smile. Say hello. Make them feel welcome, so they'll keep coming back.

    (Added bonus: You'll feel better too.)

    LOL twunt... I've never heard that.. and I'm totally stealing it for futre use... I know this was a serious post, but that really made my day : D

    I hate the gym ... I always feel underdressed & awkward... muffin tops can not be hidden in workout clothes... YEAH SPRING ... where I can get outside and be active with my family... time to open the pool !
  • cmacphee3
    cmacphee3 Posts: 278 Member
    Worse for me was when people were using me as "motivation", watching my speed and everytime they looked tired and like they were going to stop, looking at me and then going faster. Wouldn't want to end up like that fat girl.
  • ChangingAmanda
    ChangingAmanda Posts: 486 Member
    I'm happy and supportive to see most everyone in the gym. I really don't care how big or little they are or what they're doing as long as they're doing it in a safe manner. However, the ones that do get a disapproving look are the ones that show up late to class which puts everyone else behind because the instructor has to demonstrate the exercises in the circuit again. One or two minutes late as we're stretching, sure. 15 minutes late and act like we waited just for you, get over yourself and look at a clock. Sorry, it's happened way too many times the past couple weeks and just irks me.

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