I'm curious, what's your experience with Gaydar?
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When I was in high school I had a crush on a friend named John. He was throwing a party so we went downtown to a bar - a notorious gay bar - to ask someone to buy beer. Everyone in the bar knew John's name. Later at the party several of John's friends who didn't attend our high school showed up; these friends included a guy in assless leather chaps and a 400 pound man in full drag.
None of this clued me in to the fact that John was gay. So my gaydar .... not strong.0 -
When I was in high school I had a crush on a friend named John. He was throwing a party so we went downtown to a bar - a notorious gay bar - to ask someone to buy beer. Everyone in the bar knew John's name. Later at the party several of John's friends who didn't attend our high school showed up; these friends included a guy in assless leather chaps and a 400 pound man in full drag.
None of this clued me in to the fact that John was gay. So my gaydar .... not strong.
This the funniest forum post I've ever read!0 -
I think a lot of you are misinterpreting the point of this. Obviously, there are many more things than just gay and straight, and obviously, you're not going to be able to "tell" 100 percent of the time. Also, no one said anything about actually giving a **** whether anyone is gay, straight, or otherwise, so all you "Who cares if they're gay?!" people can stop trying to find things to be offended about :flowerforyou:
I'm offended that you are telling me to stop being offended.0 -
Obviously I don't have it because I am still in love with Lance Bass.
And I still adore Matt Bomer and Matt Dallas :blushing:0 -
I was talking with some female friends and we all agreed that there's a certain sixth sense that tells us, within seconds, when a man is gay. I can usually tell by observing a guy's walk or by his voice. Strangely, I don't experience the same "gaydar" thing with other women and I can't distinguish a gay woman from a straight one.
Just out of curiosity, who on here believes that they have Gaydar? Do you have it just for the opposite sex, or for your own sex as well?
thing about gay dar is, girls think they have it, but they sooo don't. just cause you've seen an episode of will and grace or the L word doesn't make you some kind of gay detecting savant.
sorry. stereotypes dont work. try again.
I've never seen either of those shows, and never claimed to be a savant. What were you saying about stereotypes?0 -
I do not have this gaydar. I have been very surprised in fact, at a few friends who came out. I never would have guessed.0
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I have good gaydar. With women too. I need bisexual-ar though. This one I am not so good at.0
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I have terrible Gaydar. When ever I think a guy is gay turns out he's straight and just wanted to touch my boobs.0
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My gaydar is spot on. With men I can usually tell by the way they walk, talk, dress, etc. With women I can tell by whether or not they are attracted to me.0
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I can always tell when people are gay before they even admit it or know it themselves. I was friends with a boy all through middle and high school, and as soon as I met him I knew he was gay, though he insisted he as not and that was "gross." He finally came out junior year and I was like like, no ****, Sherlock.
Same with another guy I was friends with. He was obviously gay (unfortunately that didn't stop me from having a huge crush on him, so frustrating!) but he didn't come to terms with it until last year.
My fiance's little cousin is 6 years old and I just know he's gonna be gay. Or transgender. It is just so obvious to me and my fiance. Unfortunately his parents are those types like "no son of mine is gonna be a *kitten*" and how if any of them were a "*kitten*" they'd be disowned. Sad, really.
Sounds like karma served one up nicely to the parents.0 -
My bacondar is pretty good.0
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I just live off the assumption that all women are comfortable going both ways.
NO, most of us are not interested in swinging both ways. At all. Ever. That's some male sexual fantasy.
Whatever. Females fantasize about it too.Unwarranted generalization. I love sex, but with another woman...? Gah. Ewww. No. Not a fantasy. HUGE turn-off.
Um, aren't you the one making unwarranted generalizations there by saying "most women"... right.
My thoughts exactly.
I know PLENTY of ladies who are bisexual or pansexual. Just because you might not know them all, don't assume that "most" women might not be interested in more than one sex. And there's nothing "ewww" about it, either. Everybody's just people.
Yep. Not every lesbian looks like a trucker. There's more of us out there than you realize! When I was single, most of the ladies I "hooked up" with claimed to be straight before we did the deed :-) lots of ladies experiment, more than you think, trust me!0 -
My Gaydar is horrible, even though I'm gay. Maybe it's because no one ever thinks I'm gay, so I obviously don't cater to stereotypes.0
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My Gaydar is horrible, even though I'm gay. Maybe it's because no one ever thinks I'm gay, so I obviously don't cater to stereotypes.
I couldn't have told my looks alone......but I could have told once we went out.0 -
I'm bisexual. I would think that most people would not suspect it, except for other women that I was interested in back when I was dating. Now, I'm married to a man, so probably no one suspects it at all. But, when I was dating women, people would think I was a lesbian.0
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I just don't give a rats *kitten*, so it's not something I'm walking around trying to figure out. Only once in my life have I had a lesbian hit on me and not react gracefully when I told her that I was straight (not narrow) and flattered, but no thanks.
I just don't see the need to figure out someone's sexuality, nor do I see the need to flaunt it, gay, straight, or bi. I don't choose my friends by who they go home with at night--although I draw the line at kids and animals...0 -
nor do I see the need to flaunt it, gay, straight, or bi. I don't choose my friends by who they go home with at night--although I draw the line at kids and animals...
Well of course, committing a crime and intentionally harming a child or animal is not the same as adults having consensual relationships. That would be what a sociopath and rapist does.0 -
Why does it matter if a person is gay or straight?
Gaydar? How immature.
Not to pull out the protractor and thick rimmed glasses here, but there IS actually a phenomenon of "gaydar" that's been shown in quite a few studies. Everything from how someone's eyes, mouth, etc. look, to their pheromones, can let (generally women and other gay men, in particular) someone else know another's orientation in as little as half a second.
Does it matter? Well, if you're a gay man hoping to find another gay man to be with, or a straight woman trying to find a man who'd want to procreate with you, then yeah, it would matter, wouldn't it? I don't think "gaydar" is a matter of "immaturity," it's just a slangy term for a reality of human's current evolutionary state of love and sex. Loving and accepting people no matter what they are, who they are, who they want to be with, whatever, is obviously an ultimate goal for everyone.
^ THIS.0 -
Really?
Sounds like mega BS.0 -
NO, most of us are not interested in swinging both ways. At all. Ever. A few women maybe, but.... that's some male sexual fantasy.
That's a pretty big generalization you have there. You can't speak for most women, you can only speak for yourself. Just because you're apparently "grossed out" by it doesn't mean only a "few" women are into it.0 -
well...i sort of sensed it when i met my best friend in Canada..., Our parents are super conservative Asians and when her family moved to Canada in the 80's i barely knew her then.
I finally went to live with them when i went to college there...and she gave me her room , while she slept in the basement. Each time we hung out i sensed 'something' about her. We became really close friends and to this day i think of her as my sister. She finally told me she was gay , one evening when we went out for a drive to burn a particularly hideous pair of satin underpants an email penpal decided to send me:laugh: :noway: ...as a crazy fun thing to do on a Friday night:laugh: .....i think at the end of the day...i sort of sensed she was trying to tell me ...and true enough...it all came out and i wasn't surprised in the least. I was the first person she told.0 -
Lol, I live in the SF Bay Area and have a gay older brother.................I think I'd be pretty good with assuming.
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I've had a few guys hit on me over the years. If their gaydar is working correctly, they must know something I don't. Why the heck am I always the last to be told!0
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Gay here and i have no gaydar. The reason i never talk or try to hit on anyone
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I can usually tell with guys, not always with women though.0
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NO, most of us are not interested in swinging both ways. At all. Ever. That's some male sexual fantasy.
Depends on the demographic of your social circle. Only about 15% of my female friends are 100% straight.0 -
I have enough to worry about just trying to live my own life, let alone trying to figure out someone else's sexuality.
And frankly, I am not too sure about my own. Live and let love.
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Can we all just start wearing shirts with what we like on it.:ohwell: I think that would make everything easier. xD0
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I can always tell when people are gay before they even admit it or know it themselves. I was friends with a boy all through middle and high school, and as soon as I met him I knew he was gay, though he insisted he as not and that was "gross." He finally came out junior year and I was like like, no ****, Sherlock.
Same with another guy I was friends with. He was obviously gay (unfortunately that didn't stop me from having a huge crush on him, so frustrating!) but he didn't come to terms with it until last year.
My fiance's little cousin is 6 years old and I just know he's gonna be gay. Or transgender. It is just so obvious to me and my fiance. Unfortunately his parents are those types like "no son of mine is gonna be a *kitten*" and how if any of them were a "*kitten*" they'd be disowned. Sad, really.
That's a horrible thing to say to say to ANY child.
That poor little boy.
I know what you mean about sensing kids' future orientation. My sister is a teacher and gets that different vibe from a few students. One day she asked the 6-7 year-olds to call out words beginning with "G". After some kids had listed Ghost, Golf club, Giraffe, etc. one little boy suggested (in a precious voice) "The Gap?"
No one has a right to Predetermine any Child's destiny for them. Simply by thinking or believing a child is "whatever" will determine how that child is treated, hence, maybe adding confusion to who that child is or how he/she thinks of themself. STOP judging KIDS!!! Give them an Opportunity to Choose for themselves an Identity!0
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