Sick of hearing it

RunnerDude2013

Hope everyone had a good Mother's Day. Today was a good day for me. Family gathered around that I haven't seen in a while complimenting me on the fact that I look thinner and trimmer which is always nice to hear.

So everyone's sitting around eating desserts. You know, cake, pie, peach cobbler, ice cream, and I'm behaving and having a banana. And then it happens, the one thing that really just pisses me off, an overweight family member points a fork at me with chocolate dripping off the end and says "it's so easy for men to lose weight".

I almost let it go, I was sooooo close! Rather than telling her it was not easy for me and that I work out everyday from 30 minutes to an hour plus and that I watch and log everything that I eat. But no I had to look at her and say something like "I guess you consider exercise getting up to get seconds on desert and using that fork to shove it in your face. If you'd get off your lazy fat *kitten*, quit *****ing about it, and put forth a little effort you might lose a little weight."

After that things were a bit awkward but I am so sick of hearing it.. It's hard for anyone to lose weight. Don't belittle my success by writing it off because I'm a guy.

Stepping off my soapbox now.

bergpa

Sounds like she was jealous of your success and the compliments you were getting. While your response may have been a bit harsh, I'm guessing it was accurate. I certainly wouldn't beat yourself up about it.

jamiek917

wow. if that was me that would have been exactly what i was thinking (except im a girl), but i would have filtered it a tad- lol. i hope it ruin the day or hurt the family member too bad... but it def gave them some perspective

Synryo

People are always looking for 'reasons' to justify their 'inability' to lose weight, when the cold hard truth is that it's hard for everyone. It's not going to happen until you really buckle up and decide to make it a consistent priority.
I would've been upset too. She wasn't just making excuses for herself, she was trying to take away from YOUR success. I would've been mad too.

orangesapphire

That is hilarious. Good for you. What was her response, by the way?

just4nessa

Wow! I probably would have been too distracted by the chocolate dripping off her fork to formulate that good of a response. Kudos to you for putting her in her place and for your awesome success!

MyChocolateDiet

I would have laughed my head off if I'd been there. BTW, were you wearing those shorts?

lazatin

That is hilarious. Good for you. What was her response, by the way?

WhAT DID SHE SAY?

BinaryPulsar

WHAT DID SHE SAY?

^^^This

Mrswheels01

LOL...awesome!

IzzyBooNZ1

LOL...awesome!

That was my response as well !

ohmscheeks

That is hilarious. Good for you. What was her response, by the way?

I wonder this too, I mean I imagine she cried... Or at least got seconds on dessert...

GeekAmour

Brilliant.

vixtris

WHAT DID SHE SAY?

^^^This

i also want to know lol

glovepuppet

guilt reaction to you eating fruit while she stuffs her face.
she prob'ly cried when she got undressed that night.

CaLaurie

You said what I imagine we all have wanted to say at one time or another - male or female. Good on you! And you gave me my giggle for the evening. Thanks!!!! :laugh:

geekgirl_2012

I've been thinking about this topic lately... not just regarding men, though. Although, I'm confident you hear this more than me (a woman). I'm really surprised by how it is "so MUCH more difficult" for others to lose weight. Seriously??? Everyone seems to have an excuse, a story, or some lame reason for why it's so much more difficult for them to lose weight in comparison to everyone else. I find it annoying as well. But then I realize... they're just jealous! Ha!

mmddwechanged

I wish I were as good as you at saying out loud what I'm thinking in my head!:):flowerforyou:

workaholic_nurse

You said what I imagine we all have wanted to say at one time or another - male or female. Good on you! And you gave me my giggle for the evening. Thanks!!!! :laugh:

^^This^^

LittleMsEva

Don't let ANYONE tell you that. Ever. Sometimes It's better to let it all out rather than bottling it up, you sure did tell her. That'll teach people to make false assumptions. Way to go

kimbtaylor1

I'm proud of you for putting it out there. As I woman I don't get the its easier but I do have a friend who struggles which is fine. But she will have conversations with me about how hard she is trying at the same time eating a Big Mac. I let it slip once that if she really wanted to loose the weight she could. That went over like a turd in a punch bowl.

mperrott2205

It was good you spoke your mind. She won't be so stupid as to say it again now.

iggyboo93

Hope everyone had a good Mother's Day. Today was a good day for me. Family gathered around that I haven't seen in a while complimenting me on the fact that I look thinner and trimmer which is always nice to hear.

So everyone's sitting around eating desserts. You know, cake, pie, peach cobbler, ice cream, and I'm behaving and having a banana. And then it happens, the one thing that really just pisses me off, an overweight family member points a fork at me with chocolate dripping off the end and says "it's so easy for men to lose weight".

I almost let it go, I was sooooo close! Rather than telling her it was not easy for me and that I work out everyday from 30 minutes to an hour plus and that I watch and log everything that I eat. But no I had to look at her and say something like "I guess you consider exercise getting up to get seconds on desert and using that fork to shove it in your face. If you'd get off your lazy fat *kitten*, quit *****ing about it, and put forth a little effort you might lose a little weight."

After that things were a bit awkward but I am so sick of hearing it.. It's hard for anyone to lose weight. Don't belittle my success by writing it off because I'm a guy.

Stepping off my soapbox now.

Smashing success!

MzFyreKitty

I always like to be "nice" and just ignore ppl that say stupid, idiotic things like your family member but believe me, they don't respect you anymore when you "let it slide". Maybe I should learn to be more like you? Just tell them off... even if they still don't respect me, maybe I'll feel better lol!

glovepuppet

I always like to be "nice" and just ignore ppl that say stupid, idiotic things like your family member but believe me, they don't respect you anymore when you "let it slide". Maybe I should learn to be more like you? Just tell them off... even if they still don't respect me, maybe I'll feel better lol!

at the very least, it will put them off doing it in future. you'll save others the irritation and upset.

tiggerhammon

I am having quite a different problem. I have been fighting to lose weight for awhile now and it is coming off, but very slowly. Every time I see a certain skinny family member of mine she harrasses me about it, telling me that losing weight is so easy and I must not be trying. I wish I had the guts that you do, I want to tell her off so badly.

happydaze71

bahahaaha!!! I love it! I wish I had the guts to say that when people get on my last nerve! Good for you!

glovepuppet

I am having quite a different problem. I have been fighting to lose weight for awhile now and it is coming off, but very slowly. Every time I see a certain skinny family member of mine she harrasses me about it, telling me that losing weight is so easy and I must not be trying. I wish I had the guts that you do, I want to tell her off so badly.

that it's harder for you makes the achievements all the more impressive. anyone can do the things they find easy but it takes real guts to keep slogging at something you find difficult. this doesn't help with your situation but, yay you!

bunbunzee44

you said what a lot of us would want to say sometimes.. :P can't blame you.
I really hope it got through to her, I mean it was mean, but she clearly has some funny ideas about losing weight..

RunnerDude2013

She's just one of those people who are always negative. She can't lose weight because she's big boned, slow metabolism, runs in the family, is abducted by aliens every night and force fed chocolate... I've offered to help help her before... I was going to walk with her, which she always found an excuse to blow off and help her with her diet which, according to her, is not the problem.

She huffed up and didn't speak to me the rest of the evening which was actually quite pleasant. Rest of the family was like whatever.....

I was actually pretty easy on her in my response as I did not go into full Wolverine mode which would not have been pretty...

YoungDoc2B

Wow, kind of harsh to rag on a female like that. I understand the frustration, but it could have been said in a more gentle yet effective way. If you speak to a Family member like this, I'd hate to see what kinds of things you say to your friends.