boyfriend trouble. help a girl out?

_castiel

So I've been going out with this guy for nearly 8 months now and I really, really like him and he apparently loves me back which is great but in conversation he'll constantly bring up other women.
I know that sounds lame but hear me out.
Now I'm not a particularly jealous girlfriend, but he really pushes it. When he mentions a friend, it has to be "my really hot friend" or "this girl who I can't believe doesn't think she's pretty" or "she's pretty much the fittest girl here". He's already admitted to flirting with other girls but justifies it as being ok because "it's only a joke". He also told me about how he dream cheated on me "once with two girls at once lol".
Because it's little things I can never call him out on it. Like two weeks ago I get a text from him saying that he'd stayed round his (girl) mate's house with her best friend (also a girl) overnight, and bragged to me about it!

I know I sound insecure, but it's really ****ing getting me down. I know I can't police his opinions but does he really have to tell me every time when he thinks a girl is hot? Or that she has great tits? Jesus.

Runfr33

Do you think he's ever cheated on him? Did you ever tell him how it bothers you when he talks like that?

Timshel_

Now I'm not a particularly jealous girlfriend, but he really pushes it. When he mentions a friend, it has to be "my really hot friend" or "this girl who I can't believe doesn't think she's pretty" or "she's pretty much the fittest girl here". He's already admitted to flirting with other girls but justifies it as being ok because "it's only a joke". He also told me about how he dream cheated on me "once with two girls at once lol".

It's called grooming behavior. He is trying to get you in bed with other women. He is trying to both set the stage and illicit a response from you to open that door.

Move on.

sweetzoejane

I think you should find someone who is a man instead of a douchecanoe.

Contrarian

You're kind of stuck. If you ask him to stop making comments, and he agrees to, you will always wonder what he's thinking, and if you ask him, he will think he has to lie to avoid hurting your feelings. I don't think you are right for each other.

theCarlton

Meh, it's only been 8 months. Move on.

BeachIron

If you're bisexual and "adventurous" then it sounds like a perfection relationship. If you're not, then move on.

melindasuefritz

I think you should find someone who is a man instead of a douchecanoe.

Run_Forever

I think there are 2 possible things going on here, the first is what Chaelaz said and the second is maybe he is purposely trying to make you jealous to see your reaction. I have known guys who purposely make their gf's/wives jealous because it boosts their ego. I don't know why you would want to purposely make someone jealous but some people seem to enjoy or get off on it.

RhineDHP

That he's flirting with other women and justifying his actions is a red flag. You really need to talk to him about this because its obviously making you feel like *kitten* and is putting a strain on your trust. Its a real red flag if you tell him you feel awful when he decribes how attractive other women are and he keeps doing it.

Communication is key.

RhineDHP

I think you should find someone who is a man instead of a douchecanoe.

BAHAHA thats awesome. Douchecanoe.

whitebalance

I think you should find someone who is a man instead of a douchecanoe.

QFT. Really, nothing else needs to be said here.

billsica

just break up.

jus_in_bello

Castiel would never put up with such treatment. Nor would a Winchester Bro. He's either super insecure or he likes making you insecure, either way it's gross, annoying, and not a trait of someone you want to date.

carolynsfingers

you can do better.

LMT2012

I once had a boyfriend like this (granted, it was back when dinosaurs roamed the earth). He did not make me jealous or insecure, just turned off. I viewed it as immature and VERY insensitive behavior. You will not fix these qualities. Must dump.

oregonzoo

how old is he? I don't know... you two might not be on the same page. I mean some mild joking from time to time is understandable but it kind of seems like a bit of respect might be missing.

DalekBrittany

Sorry, you didn't mention if you're dating a man or a boy.

faceoff4

You should move on. This is not healthy at all and no one should deal with this. It's completely inconsiderate and not to mention that every woman should be treated like a queen by her SO, not told about how hot all these other women are. Ditch him and find someone who will appreciate you and say those things about you and not to you regarding someone else. Good luck

sarahtonin015

You don\t sound insecure at all - HE sounds like an asshat, period. When you REALLY care about - and especially love - someone, you wouldn't behave in such a way that you know would make the other person uncomfortable, which is what he seems to be constantly doing to you without any guilt. Perhaps it's because he's an insecure little boy inside, but that still doesn't excuse the things he's saying to you and the things he's doing. Such as, HOW is it appropriate for him to be sleeping at his female friend's house - was it just the two of them there? If so, that's SO not okay.. which pretty much sums up ALL of his actions. Ask yourself: if YOU did and said the things he's done to you, would HE get upset about it? Obviously he would, but he doesn't seem to care about your feelings. You deserve better and I really don't think this relationship is going to get any better (speaking from experience) - do yourself a favour, get out while it's still early and dump his *kitten*.

Minerva624

Ditch him.