Ugly skinny or pretty chubby?
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Agree...also need a personality to go with looks though. I don't care how good they look it they don't have a good personality lol
Exactly. Looks don't matter.
Of course looks matter, why kids ourselves.0 -
I don't see someone's personality from across the room and then go see how they look....
Maybe she had a big personality?I notice personality first, face second, body third. Personality has to be amazing, face pleasing, body just good enough (not too picky there and I like variety anyway). I also think questions like this are silly. As if it can only be one or the other. Or as if these are the only two options.
I don't like when people say that they notice personality first.
You have no idea what their personality is like from across the room.
Agreed. I mean, really?? Is it even possible to notice personality first?
I knew people were going to have a problem with this. Really? You don't notice how someone behaves and talks and what they talk about? That isn't the thing that catches your interest and wanting to spend more time with them?
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I can get past looks and weight to a certain extent, but I can't deal with a bad personality.0
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Women are mostly responding to this thread. Wondering why many guys aren't posting. Could it be because this is a question that you can't answer? Pretty/chubby vs. ugly/thin... causing a short circuit in the brain?
Side note - kudos the the gentlemen who have answered here. Input appreciated.
Can't say how the hubby would answer but he seems to like his chubby wife who looks like a devilish dachshund - stubborn, loyal, cuddly with a tendency towards occasional gluttony.0 -
I like stalky guys anyway im not into muscles so a nice handsome face would do, but i am more attractive to their personality.0
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obviously personality is a factor... but lets face it, whenever you meet someone, no matter the situation, the first thing you notice is someone's looks, good, bad or indifferent. Lets say each has equally charming personality.
I had a pretty good idea of how the ladies would respond to this question, that's why I was more so gearing this towards guys.0 -
My husband is 5 ft. 8, 235 lbs., bald, diabetic, has neuropathy in both feet and walks with a stick, has poor balance, chronic respiratory issues, and I would not trade him for Brad Pitt naked with a million bucks in one hand and a steamed lobster in the other.
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I busted out laughing so hard it freaked out the cat. Agreed, though. I wouldn't trade my husband, beer gut and hairiness and all, for ANYTHING, because he's hilarious and the best dad ever, and my best friend. 0 -
OP why didn't you just say both have equally lovely personalities? We could have avoided most of this.0
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I don't see someone's personality from across the room and then go see how they look....
Maybe she had a big personality?I notice personality first, face second, body third. Personality has to be amazing, face pleasing, body just good enough (not too picky there and I like variety anyway). I also think questions like this are silly. As if it can only be one or the other. Or as if these are the only two options.
I don't like when people say that they notice personality first.
You have no idea what their personality is like from across the room.
Agreed. I mean, really?? Is it even possible to notice personality first?
I knew people were going to have a problem with this. Really? You don't notice how someone behaves and talks and what they talk about? That isn't the thing that catches your interest and wanting to spend more time with them?
Edited because what I said first didn't make any sense
When I met my husband I never saw what people looked like across the room because I was near sighted and needed glasses, but had not gone to the eye doctor yet. No joke. I am telling the truth. People looked like a blur, but I thought everyone had trouble seeing distances.
The thing that caught my attention was, when he walked into the room and said, "Hey, does anyone want to go white river rafting?" That caught my attention. That was 17 years ago. And yes, when he caught my attention I also saw that I found him attractive. Also the question was, "Who Would You Rather Date?" It was not, "What catches your attention from across the room".
If my husband had walked quietly into the room, sat alone and started eating, I would not have noticed him. Unless if I thought he seemed mysterious and introspective and wanted to get to know what was going on inside his mind.0 -
A nice body will get my attention, but a beautiful soul will keep me. But If I gag when I look at your face, I'm sorry we can't even be friends.
So, why are we friends? :laugh:
Hush you hot! WOULD BANG! Wanna Bang?0 -
OP why didn't you just say both have equally lovely personalities? We could have avoided most of this.
If it were to be so complex I would have broke it down as to who smokes, who doesnt, who likes cats, who's a dog person.. my question was based purely on looks alone, everyone else drug personality into it.0 -
OP why didn't you just say both have equally lovely personalities? We could have avoided most of this.
because my question was based purely on looks alone, everyone else drug personality into it.
And for some reason they think it's an argument.0 -
Looks used to be important to me, but once I fell in love I found that they truly don't matter at all. When I first met my bf i had no attraction to him at all; now that I'm in love with him I can't get enough :P0
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How about healthy and nice?
^^^^ maybe its because I am in my 30's or maybe its because I have dated too many losers... I would rather someone who is healthy and kind and has their crap together over anything else. I am trying to be that person right now.
A good credit score is a plus too!
Must have a solid 401k too.0 -
smoking body of course!! but if the face is a freakin disaster....wellllllllllll....tuff one haha
That's what paper bags are for hahaha0 -
Yep...personality all the way...
I remember when I met my wife. We use to both dance in the same club. I sat on one side of a very long bar, and she was always across from me on the other side.
I remember saying to myself..."Man, her personality is fabulous". It took alot of time, but after a month or so I got the courage to go over and ask her personality to dance. She agreed...I could tell she thought my personality was awesome too. We began talking, and found out we a fair amount in common and actually liked each other...looking past our personalities of course.
That was 17+ years ago. Go figure!0 -
OP why didn't you just say both have equally lovely personalities? We could have avoided most of this.
because my question was based purely on looks alone, everyone else drug personality into it.
That's my point, few want to appear that superficial and bring up personality as a way to deflect.
I would take pretty chubby, personally. I am most attracted to eyes and other facial features.0 -
My opinion is this:
An 'attractive' person can have an ugly personality, thus making them ugly. An 'ugly' person can have a wonderful personality, making them attractive. I put these terms in '..' because I believe the terms 'attractive' and 'ugly' are relative. I don't believe looks should matter as much as they do in this society. I personally like my guys a little big, just what I like. Some men may like their women a little big. There's no right or wrong with this kind of stuff, we are all god's creation.0 -
I would date me, because I have it all.
She does. She tucks it away at first and when you get her in the bedroom...SUPRISE!
Ahahaha, I'm just kind of envisioning a jack in the box here.0 -
Agree...also need a personality to go with looks though. I don't care how good they look it they don't have a good personality lol
Exactly. Looks don't matter.
I slightly disagree with what you say here. I am nowhere near shallow but I think you have to fancy your gal or fella a little to have sex (maybe it's just me). I'm just being honest. But personality is defo the biggest turn on anyway. I'm not saying they have to look this way or that way, not at all just think it matters a teeny tiny bit, maybe in the initial stages. i also think humour is a great turn on too!!!!!0 -
Yep...personality all the way...
I remember when I met my wife. We use to both dance in the same club. I sat on one side of a very long bar, and she was always across from me on the other side.
I remember saying to myself..."Man, her personality is fabulous". It took alot of time, but after a month or so I got the courage to go over and ask her personality to dance. She agreed...I could tell she thought my personality was awesome too. We began talking, and found out we a fair amount in common and actually liked each other...looking past our personalities of course.
That was 17+ years ago. Go figure!
haha! exactly!!0 -
I never could have anticipated that what I said would come across so controversial. I did not say that looks were unimportant. I think they are very important. The question is which would you rather date. I said personality was most important, face was second and body was third. But, all of those are important. I want an amazing person, a pleasing face, and a good enough body (I am not so picky there). So maybe that is pretty chubby then (although my husband was nowhere near chubby). But, I never said an ugly face and an ugly body. I did not say that. Maybe this question was not intended for married people. Or maybe people need to chill out and realize we interpreted the question differently. Has it ever occurred to you that personality influences more than you realize.
But, while it was my husband saying "Who wants to go white river rafting" that caught my attention. If he had been ugly maybe he would not have kept my attention.0 -
Because she's being honest?
^^^^^^THISA nice body will get my attention, but a beautiful soul will keep me. But If I gag when I look at your face, I'm sorry we can't even be friends.
wow, this statement doesn't say much for your soul.
yes, her honest opinion makes her soul look ugly to me.0 -
I never could have anticipated that what I said would come across so controversial. I did not say that looks were unimportant. I think they are very important. The question is which would you rather date. I said personality was most important, face was second and body was third. But, all of those are important. I want an amazing person, a pleasing face, and a good enough body (I am not so picky there). So maybe that is pretty chubby then (although my husband was nowhere near chubby). But, I never said an ugly face and an ugly body. I did not say that. Maybe this question was not intended for married people.
Lots of others said personality too.0 -
I never could have anticipated that what I said would come across so controversial. I did not say that looks were unimportant. I think they are very important. The question is which would you rather date. I said personality was most important, face was second and body was third. But, all of those are important. I want an amazing person, a pleasing face, and a good enough body (I am not so picky there). So maybe that is pretty chubby then (although my husband was nowhere near chubby). But, I never said an ugly face and an ugly body. I did not say that. Maybe this question was not intended for married people.
Lots of others said personality too.
I know, but mine was quoted by a whole bunch of people claiming not to believe me.0 -
This is for the guys, but ladies feel free to chime in..
Would you rather date someone who had a smoking body but not so hot face or a pretty face and a not so hot body?
See the question said: Who would you rather date?
It didn't say: What is the first thing you notice across the room?
If it had been the second then I would have answered that. And why does everyone assume you only notice people across a room? Everyone looks like blurry blobs across the room.0 -
I never could have anticipated that what I said would come across so controversial. I did not say that looks were unimportant. I think they are very important. The question is which would you rather date. I said personality was most important, face was second and body was third. But, all of those are important. I want an amazing person, a pleasing face, and a good enough body (I am not so picky there). So maybe that is pretty chubby then (although my husband was nowhere near chubby). But, I never said an ugly face and an ugly body. I did not say that. Maybe this question was not intended for married people.
Lots of others said personality too.
I know, but mine was quoted by a whole bunch of people claiming not to believe me.
Eh, am just saying you're perspective is clearly shared by others.0 -
I never could have anticipated that what I said would come across so controversial. I did not say that looks were unimportant. I think they are very important. The question is which would you rather date. I said personality was most important, face was second and body was third. But, all of those are important. I want an amazing person, a pleasing face, and a good enough body (I am not so picky there). So maybe that is pretty chubby then (although my husband was nowhere near chubby). But, I never said an ugly face and an ugly body. I did not say that. Maybe this question was not intended for married people.
Lots of others said personality too.
I know, but mine was quoted by a whole bunch of people claiming not to believe me.
Eh, am just saying you're perspective is clearly shared by others.
Oh, I see.
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Agree...also need a personality to go with looks though. I don't care how good they look it they don't have a good personality lol
Exactly. Looks don't matter.
Of course looks matter, why kids ourselves.
I like your way of thinking. Looks certainly do matter. But as I said, it's just a matter of which one matters more. To some people looks matter more than personality, while to others it's the other way around. But realistically let's face it, the first thing we notice about person is how they look. From there it's just a question of whether you can look past their physical appearance and focus on their personality once the ice is broken. Some are able to while some, for whatever reason cannot.
I'll be the first to say that the first thing I notice when I meet a woman is her looks. From there, personality takes centre stage. If after her looks get my attention she turns out to be a total b****, I don't care how hot she is, she can take a hike.0
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