How do adults make friends?
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Join groups, check out meetup.com for the different groups in your area, maybe.
There's something there for almost every interest.
Yes, yes, and YES. Plus you can meet people who like to do what you like to do. Instant friends!!!0 -
Some of my close friends I met through the kids- they're fellow parents. Many of the parents don't click, but once in a while- boom!- there it is! My husband and I have 2 couples we see regularly and have dinner with. And, luckily, our kids get along.
Also, joining a rec sports team, church/community service groups, friends from high school who reconnected at the 20 year reunion, friends of friends, next door neighbors, and even local park district events are some places. I guess I have a kind face because people talk to me all of the time. I think appearing to be open and listening to others goes a long way.0 -
There's SO many ways to make new friends!
One way is posting on the Message boards! ;-D Another way is to take a risk and TALK to people you've seen several times at work, church, grocery store, gym, restaurant, etc. You can use FB, Myspace, or twitter also! I like to find friends who have the same interests as I do. Makes doing those things more fun b/c I can invite like minded friends to join me. :-)
Step out of your comfort zone and talk to people. Small conversations first, then work your way up to exchanging phone numbers and FB info! Branch out! Look around! There are people EVERYWHERE!
Feel free to add me to your friends list too! :-D
Sara0 -
I started leading weekly hikes with local MFPers. We often go out to eat afterward. They are awesome!
Going to hike a 14,000' mountain with two of them tomorrow.0 -
I'm still pretty young just turned 25 this year, but as my husband is military, I've lived in 3 different states in the past 2 years after finishing grad school. I've had to focus all my energies into finding gainful employment and don't spend nearly enough time looking for friends. It's not easy, but it can be done. Fortunately, after I landed a job this past winter, my colleague and I (she's 24 and we were both the music teachers at our school) hit it off well and we regularly hang out outside of work. It's also nice because since she's from the area, she introduces me to all of her friends (bonus!!) that are local, too. I miss my best girlfriends who all live so far away from me now
But, it's something my husband says will take some getting used to. I'm sure he's right. He moved from WA state all the way to NC after he finished basic training at 19. If he can start anew and keep his military buddies, I think I can do likewise. It's just a matter of putting yourself out there 
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I started leading weekly hikes with local MFPers. We often go out to eat afterward. They are awesome!
Going to hike a 14,000' mountain with two of them tomorrow.
JEALOUS!!!!!!!!! I love FL, but I miss my Appalachian Mountains in SW Virginia. We don't have 14,000' mountains there, so you must be somewhere out west, lol.0 -
I want to know "How often is too often"?
I know some people, and we like to do the same things, so I'll ask them if they want to go to a concert, and we will go out, but then after a few times, she says 'no' (which is totally fine) and then keeps saying no, and then after a month or 2, she'll call and suddenly want to go out. I don't call her every week, maybe every other week or every 3 weeks.
I feel like I'm being a nag sometimes, and then sometimes I feel weird if she never calls me, and I feel like I'm doing the calling. I had a friend in high school that never called me, and another friend said, "if she wants to be your friend and hang out, she will call you", so I stopped calling her, she never called me and I haven't seen her in over 15 years, not mad at her, just felt like 'why do I always have to call and make plans'
Ok, I'm going to hide under my rock now...0 -
Ok, I'm going to hide under my rock now...
OMG, I want to be YOUR friend! I would so go out with you and make plans. :sad: I invite people out around once a week, and no one wants to leave home!
Is there anyone in the DC/MD/VA area? Let's go have a healthy lunch and hit up some of the many summer events in DC! Seriously, free walking tours weekly. Exercise & healthy food.
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A lot of folks don't realize but many others are in the similar situation.
So true. I thought I was alone, and I started talking to people and I found out that I am not alone - most everyone feels this way. My friend and I are trying to branch out - she has been going to a pick up volleyball game and I am going to go if I get the chance one of these days.how do you go from chatting with a "stranger" to making that person your friend? I can talk to strangers all day long. I have no idea how to transition from there into actually hanging out with someone. It seems so foreign to me.
This is soooo me. I can talk to people all day but how do you say "well it's been nice talking to you we should hang out sometime" without sounding like a creeper.0 -
I want to know "How often is too often"?
I know some people, and we like to do the same things, so I'll ask them if they want to go to a concert, and we will go out, but then after a few times, she says 'no' (which is totally fine) and then keeps saying no, and then after a month or 2, she'll call and suddenly want to go out. I don't call her every week, maybe every other week or every 3 weeks.
I feel like I'm being a nag sometimes, and then sometimes I feel weird if she never calls me, and I feel like I'm doing the calling. I had a friend in high school that never called me, and another friend said, "if she wants to be your friend and hang out, she will call you", so I stopped calling her, she never called me and I haven't seen her in over 15 years, not mad at her, just felt like 'why do I always have to call and make plans'
Ok, I'm going to hide under my rock now...
bump...I want to know answers to my question...I would totally call ONE03...but I live on the opposite coast :frown:
(and the other thread made me remember this thread)0 -
We all have different social skills and sensibilities. It take effort to be the planner. Some people just don't like to plan things or are not good at making social plans. Also, some people just don't feel the need to go out all that much. When they do, it's good luck for them if to have a friend who's willing to hang out when they get the desire to. But, you don't always have to do things on their terms. You could try to talk to them about it and see what they say just so you know where they are coming from and can make better plans or to put limits on how much planning you actually want to do. Everyone is different. I have this type of thing happen a lot between my husband and I. He's way more social and extroverted than I am and a much better planner. I on the other hand, am introverted and love to be at home but go out when it feels appropriate for me.0
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My question is how can a socially awkward, sarcastic 36 year old woman who works in a office with a bunch of old ladies and stuffy lawyers meet new friends. I've put all of my efforts into work, marriage and kids for the last 13 years and now I'm ready to have a social life again. I have grown apart from old friends and really miss having those close girlfriends. Any suggestions?
Find something you like to do, and start taking a class. Yoga, dancing, whatever. Before and after your classes, you'll probably be killing time by talking to the other people there, and you're bound to click with some of them.0 -
I'll be your friend. I am sarcastic! (not about making friends, just in general but you probably figured that.)0
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Become involved in the community0
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Church? Neighborhood? Gym?0
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That's my problem too. I almost never bother to move past "hello" to "wanna be my pal and hang out and do stuff?" because it feels strange to me. I'm also afraid of being rejected or finding out that me and my new pal will actually wind up hating each other or being a pain in the butt.0
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I read a very interesting areticle a couple of weeks back which concludes that once you hit you mid-twenties it becomes harder and harder to make new friends, by that they meant real friends, like BFFs.My question is how can a socially awkward, sarcastic 36 year old woman who works in a office with a bunch of old ladies and stuffy lawyers meet new friends. I've put all of my efforts into work, marriage and kids for the last 13 years and now I'm ready to have a social life again. I have grown apart from old friends and really miss having those close girlfriends. Any suggestions?
I'll see if I can find the link.0 -
Here's the link. Actually rings very true...
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fashion/the-challenge-of-making-friends-as-an-adult.html0 -
I know how you feel.
II once had friends then met my ex husband, lost contact with my friends because he couldn´t stand them, so I came a part of his friends circle.
We divorced and I was all of a sudden isolated and still am over 9 years later.
I have met people in school, people I have gotten to know online but that has never bome a true friendship, just people I know a little and pass by and say hi to.
I´m very shy, quiet and listen. Maybe I´m not outgoing enough. I tend to feel lonely but still I don´t feel the need for socialicing much though.0 -
Oh I can see where you're coming from. Making friends just gets harder the older we get.
Now imagine this: I'm 30, no children, not married (and not too keen on the whole marriage thing either lol). I'm a part-time PhD student, part-time tutor. So most PhD students are a bit younger, most employees at unis are a bit older. I tried volunteering, groups, fitness classes. Turns out I'm not really 'my age' - mind of a 40something and life of a 20something. So I gave up all prejudices. I'm a foreigner and would have loved to have some friends who are from the town I live in and who wont move away so that I feel more integrated. I'd love to have friends my age. Now most of my friends have moved countries too and will continue to do so, my best friends are 27 and 37. Sometimes it's a start to have certain friends to do certain things with and move on from there. Just keep an open mind 0
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