Quickie weddings or long engagements?

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now, and we talk about marriage, but he just got a "real"/career job and will be buying a house around October, so he wants to wait until he is settled down and can save up money to propose, and then we'll probably wait for a year or so to have time to properly plan the wedding. My brother and his fiancee were only together for 5 months before he proposed, but that was January 2011 and they're not getting married until May 2013, so they had plenty of time to figure things out.

I like longer pre-marriage relationships because, as someone said earlier, you might not be one of the lucky ones, and some people don't show their true colors right away.

We have been friends for five year, dated for 3, got engaged in may, and got married in june.

We got married 13 months to the day, that we started dating. We were talking marriage about a week into the relationship, were officially engaged after about 6 months. Everyone said we moved too quickly, and we wouldn't last but we will celebrate 8years married in October-so far so good!

My honey and I have been together for 13 yrs, 2 Girls 9 and 3 working on the 3rd this month. We've been engaged for 10 yrs. Trust me when I say its me not him.

When ppl ask I say my relationship is like leasing a car with the option to buy I just renew with interest(kids)LOL.

We are happy with the way things are but he is getting older and just wants to make an honest woman out of me. I think I am so scared of marriage and what it could do to our relationship . My philosphy is if it ain't broke why mess with it?

Within 5 minutes of meeting my husband I told him I was going to marry him (when you know you know to quote others haha). We waited until I was 18 to get married though. We've been together"" since about 15. We got married 6 months after I turned 18 (I wanted a courthouse wedding, but my mom had to have the big white dress, hordes of family kind of deal). Got pregnant on our honeymoon and we've been married for alittle over 5.5 years . I have no doubt well make it another 50 haha.

We were together for more than three years before we got engaged, then engaged for about 18 months. I wasn't thrilled by the long engagement (he was deployed for 7 months of our engagement), but you don't always get what you want.

My best friend in the entire world and my high school sweetheart started dating when we were Juniors in high school, have been dating exclusively for 6.5 years when he popped the question last December on our 6 year anniversary. We haven't set a date yet, and probably won't get married until at least fall of 2013. At first I just wanted to get married as soon as possible, because I just want to be his wife, more than anything in this world.

But then I started thinking about it, and we've already lived together for almost 4 years, and I already have everything I could ever want in a guy, and in a relationship. If we go another 10 years without being married, that is fine with me, because just being with him is more of a blessing than I could ever ask for.

Yes, I'm only 23 years old, but I like to think that I know more about relationships and making them work than most people. We have such a stable, healthy, awesome relationship, that even people twice our age look up to us.

So yes, to quit boasting and answer your question, long engagements are our thing. But that works for us

I met my husband 11/25/1991 and were were married 12/20/1991. So I am going with quick weddings. And I know what everyone was thinking. No, I was not pregnant. Would have been too soon to tell anyway. Our first and only child together was not born until 1995.

I was engaged for a month. Wish I would have had a longer engagement. He didn't show his true colors until after we were married and had a baby on the way. Long story short, he decided that family life wasn't for him because we (the baby and I) interfered with his extramarital affairs and him trying to lead a 'single life' out and about. Needless to say, its over. I highly recommend long engagements.

My ex-fiance and I had a long engagement. He wanted to get married ASAP at a place of his choosing. The whole relationship was 'all about him' and what he wanted. One of the things we did not learn was how to deal with conflict--it was always his way, and he would put up such a fuss when he couldn't have his way.

He is now my ex-fiance.

First marriage: met and were married within 3 weeks of meeting. Were legally married for only 24 months, had a son from the experience, and learned a lot about what not to do.

Second marriage: met in April, engaged in June, married in November, all of the same year. We've been happily married now for close to 24 years, have 5 kids, and look forward to spending our lives together as the kids grow up and move out. (We are down to 2 at home now.) I guess I knew what I wanted when I found this one!

We got engaged on our 1 year anniversary, engaged for about 3.5 months, married for 5.5 years and counting. Unless you have a very specific reason (planning a crazy elaborate wedding, school, budget, etc...), I don't really see the point in long engagements, but that's just me.

I've been dating my fiance for 3 yrs, we are getting married in Oct, we decided to get married in June, basically as soon as possible and let me tell you planning a wedding is not fun. haha

I really think time is a matter of what feels right. My husband and kind of sped things along, because we got pregnant right away.. but we dated for 6 months, were engaged for 10 months, and have been married almost a year now.

Granted, I can't prove to anyone that our marriage is still 'going strong' because we haven't been married that long, but I will say to you..

I canceled our long engagement (we were supposed to get married Dec of this year) but I canceled the wedding, and we ran off and had a marriage ceremony with the Justice of Peace at the courthouse on a whim. And that night of the ceremony was the first night I had slept in months. That's how I knew it was the right decision.

My only regret is that I wish I had done it sooner, instead of fussing over wedding plans for months and months and months. If it's right, you'll know. Do what YOU Feel is right, and don't think about what other people are going to say. And don't go in with the mind set of "What if it doesn't work"? Because you'll just psyche yourself out.

Met him, 2 weeks later I was pregnant, a week after that he proposed, 4 months later we were married, I was 22, he was 26. 8 years in sept.

I never wanted to get married but he was so excited for it and I just let it happen. I really did think I loved him though but if I had known then what I know now I would never have done it so quickly. I definitely would have waited until after our son was born to make a decision.

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now, and we talk about getting married and having kids and everything. We are hoping to get engaged soon (when he saves the money for they ring, and we want to move out first). We will be having a fairly long engagement. Probably 2 years. We want to pay for everything ourselves so we need to save. Then as soon as we are married, we will starting trying for kids.. I am really excited!!!