I absolutely HATE dieting/exercise...

I have no one to do these things with. Which is depressing and UN motivating.

Have you considered taking a class so you can meet people who exercise?

I feel your pain!! I don't mind the diet part as much as I do the exercise. I get up at 5am because I don't have a lot of free time any other time. I don't know if I hate the 5am or the exercise part more. I don't feel energized and I don't enjoy it like everyone said I would. But, I keep on keeping on! I also live an hour from civilization so I'm pretty much stuck with exercise videos!! Hang in there!

I agree that you have to find something you like to do. I NEVER thought I could work out to DVDs but tried Jillian Michaels 6 week 6 pack. The great thing is that it is 30-35 minutes! My core has gotten so much stronger. I just finished her 90 body revolution and my arms have not looked like this in YEARS! I am not saying Jillian is the answer, but keep trying something different until it sticks. Plus you have to change your thinking away from punishment. I remember Oprah saying she didn't like exercise either, but you do what you have to do to get what you want. Good luck!

Wow you got to figure out a way to reprogram your brain with respect to how you feel about working out.

Try rewarding yourself with something sweet after the workout.

Eventually the workout alone will become rewarding.

Sure cheese balls and ranch aren't going to help you lose weight, but why can't you eat steak? I never get why people give up good tasting meat and keep eating chicken and turkey, those really aren't any better for you.

I hate exercise too. It's easier if you just find something you like that will keep you moving. Most of my exercise is just biking to work and other places I need to go.

Who says you can't have steak? Work your day around it and have a leaner cut in a smaller size. Have cheeseballs and ranch, but try the light ranch and share the order instead of having it all. Find an exercise you like. If you hate what you're doing, change it.

This isn't easy and everyone has felt what you are feeling right now

It helps me to find a girlfriend to exercise with...which is not always easy in this busy world of ours.... Keep it up...after a couple of weeks, even before you lose any weight per say, you will start to feel more fit. Like your muscles are tighter and that can be a rewarding feeling. Hang in there!!!!
Tanya.24

I hate the gym myself so I don't do it. I do bootcamp classes twice a week and it was enough for me to reach my goal.

What you can't give up on is healthy eating. After a while, the cravings for bad food will diminish. I used to crave the McD cheese burger but the day I fit it in my calorie allotment after months of MFP, I found it tasted disgusting. I am glad I don't crave it anymore.

Good luck!

I hate when people say at least you don't have walk/hunt for your food. REALLY?! Does that in any way relate to the ease of getting all the really bad for you things? Fast food the healthier the more expensive! Vending machines filled with chips (my biggest weakness-salty things).
Sure at least it's not forever-ago-BC and I'm a hunter and gatherer, because being in my twenties in Midwest America I can really grasp that concept.
By all means be blunt but be realistic!

I do have Netflix. I do try to do the Yoga/Pilates stuff. But without someone there to watch my form, I'm afraid I'm not actually doing it right.

I have Kettlebells & Jillian Michaels.

I have the Zumba 8 CD pack with weights.

I do not have a bike.

I have bad hips so I am working on strengthening them so it doesn't pain me for days after a mile walk, and I hope to eventually build up enough strength to run again. But again, being realistic. I'm looking at November before I can start building up to running (pending my stick-to-it-ness).

I have no one to do these things with. Which is depressing and UN motivating.

Sounds like you want a magic pill.
So, blunt but realistic. Suck it up already. Or don't. Lose weight and be more fit. Or don't. It's your life. Is the cheeseball worth how crappy you feel and potential medical problems or not? How about a cheeseball once and while or a bunch whenever you feel like it? Why do you feel like it? Maybe you need to think about the root of your weight issue. I mean that genuinely. If you fill a void with food, you will keep wanting too until you figure out why. I read "Women, Food and God" by Geneen Roth ...which, I didn't think was very well written, but it did get my brain moving in the right direction.

You know what else you'll probably hate? Feeling overweight and unhealthy. I know I didn't like it.

I go to Curves. I do not have a gym membership because from past experience there are rude jerks there that make comments like "just getting around to your New Year's resolution"? Or "hey how about you run to McDonald's and let us get our real workouts in". So NO I don't have "Fitness Classes" I have circuit weight training. Yeah... really weird...

I *hated* Curves with a passion. I lasted 6 months before I gave up out of sheer boredom. I do much better at a "real" gym. I also found that the gym itself made a difference. I went with one of my friends to what I call the "hot people's gym." Basically, where you need to be in shape before going. There wasn't a single person there that was out of shape and they all glared at us. So, I joined another gym and it was fine- more of a mix of people and no one gave a care if you were 120 or 520. When I moved, I was very particular about the gym I went to. I actually joined Anytime Fitness here (I bounce between the two locations that are near me) and it's the same deal; all ages, all weights, all fitness levels.

That said, "working out" isn't for everyone. Just being active is a wonderful thing!

Best of luck to you on your journey!

I have only posted 2 replys on MFP, I sometimes read peoples threads vicariously, usually not. I find MFP for excellent for tracking/reports/nutrition, etc. but really have not used the friends feature, yet. I have Facebook for that. LOL.

Anyway your nice post hit a nerve, so here is my "2 cents"

I too live in a rural area. We have 80 acres of very hilly woods in the Missouri Ozarks, in a cultural desert, but a beautiful area non the less. I'm from San Diego originally. I found that since I am a early morning person anyway, I just walk. I started dieting on May 5 at 5'7", 210 pounds, and a BMI of 32. I started 1,200 calories a day, in June added a multivitamin with iron, and calcium carbonate. Following MFP since May 25, I found my 1,200 calories was short on Iron and Calcium.

I started walking one mile outside. I hate indoor treadmills, but I have one, as well as a home gym with a 200 pound stack. Our place is 1/4 mile by 1/2 mile, rectangle from the sky, so about 80 American football fields, but hilly. and we have a half mile gravel road to the "top" which is a two lane country road. Some of the ruts in our road are so deep, you can be the guy in 127 Hours for a minute.

I set my alarm at 5:00 AM, get out of the house by 5:30 AM, and I walk 100 minutes, 5 miles a day, now since Mid-June. I have done 5 miles in as little as 96 minutes, and as long as 108 minutes. I started slow, as the gravel road has a 15% gradient to it...better than most treadmills. I only walk the 1/4 mile to our gate, as the next 1/4 to the blacktop has a 40% grade. I find I look forward to the isolation, I have triplets in the house, 13 year olds, Dad to two daughters and one son, going in the 8th grade on Aug 15. Also have a son, 20, a Junior at Mizzou.

Anyway, I used to listen to my music, then suddenly I just wanted to hear the quiet noises of nature, listen to the wind, and I walk with our 2 dogs, a 11 year old Golden Retriever, and a 2 year old Australian Shepard Mix. Our 3 horses sometimes walk part of the way with me, that is a sight.

On surprising things on this journey. I have way more energy now, I do not snore anymore, (confirmed by other), I no longer take Nexium, as GERD disappeared. I no longer have a fundal height of 7 months pregnant, more like 3 months. :-) Still have 20 to loose. My goal is 155 pounds, but I think I will go down to 145. I take a 40 Short in a suit, so I will try for a 40 Short -Athletic. I am currently between gigs, so I have time on my hands, but keep things busy. Oddly, my sense of smell has increased, don't know if that is from my body searching for food, LOL, or just less fat in the sinuses...but wow, can I smell the forest and flowers. I can tie my shoes as easy as my kids. I find that I am not hungry, at all, until an hour after my walks. I drink lots of water. I had a holiday on July 4 and my birthday, July 11 (Budweiser). Other than that. Water.

When I hit 165, I am going to start using the home gym again, didn't want to have an MI on my journey, so with 3 months of Cardio behind me, I will add a workout.

I sprinted the other day with one of my daughters who is 114 and 5'5" at 13, for 50 meters.

I won.

I'm 52.

BTW, I was 145-155 until I was 38, same year the triplets were born, after my mom died.

Then 175 till I was 48.

The last 3 years has been full of personal life difficulties, and when I hit 210, I had some sort of "Forest Gump" moment, and just started, well, walking.

When I hit my goal of 155, I am going to add the 40% grade hill out of our valley to my bucket list.

I'll take friends...might be helpful.

BTW, my doctor is in AWE of MFP, especially where you can follow nutrients for 3 months, and adjust things.