Was I being ignorant to my vegetarian friend?

i'm vegan and was vegetarian was 4 years and i know that since i was the only one in my family and in my group of friends, i got A LOT of **** for it. i got poked fun at DAILY (i know that it was playful but it still hurts) and had burgers and bacon shoved in my face purposely because everyone thought it was so hilarious.

i'm not saying this justifies being rude to someone, but sometimes we do get instinctively protective and sensitive when people tell us to eat meat because it's been said to us so many times. you kind of just have to look at it from both sides i guess. after being vegan a year i have no problem with anyone people say, my reply is usually "that sounds delicious, i'm going to try and create my own healthy vegan version of it!"

I don't really see it as rude - she said she doesn't eat meat, so no. Just stating facts, really.

Edited to Add: I don't think you were being ignorant, but I also don't think her response was rude.

Yeah, that's my thought. Neither one of you were out of bounds or rude.

No big deal on either side. :shrug:

You were not being ignorant, and I do not feel she was being rude. I wouldn't read into that post as anything more than a statement of fact.

This is why I don't have facebook. Stop reading so much into everything and trying to cause drama. Take a breath, realize you are probably misinterpretting her comment because she forgot to add the smiley emoticon at the end, and move on with your life. :flowerforyou:

I was a vegan for years. I think your friend was rude. I would have said - "Oh, that sounds interesting, but I'm a vegetarian! Got any other suggestions?"

I have to agree here. I've been vegetarian and it's just not called for. If you don't know, you don't know. I had friends of mine come visit AT MY HOUSE without telling me that they had become vegetarian since the last time I had seen them. Um, hello? Previously the wife did not eat red meat or fish, so I'd gone way out of my way to get ground chicken for some cool chicken burgers. Which she couldn't eat. So we ended up making yet another trip to the grocery store after they arrived. But they were very understanding about it when I told them what I was planning for dinner. "Hey Amy, I'm making some chicken burgers for dinner-sound good?" "Um we don't eat meat anymore, but we can have just sides." "No way, girl! I had no idea but I'll make a quick trip and pick up some veggie burger patties for y'all!" See? Really polite and all.

Your acquaintance could have been polite. Does she think you knew and wanted to be offensive? If so, why does she like you? If not, then she's probably just trying to show off to all her other friends that she's veg and pushy.

You did nothing wrong.

I don't think her response was rude, honestly. I think you were just mis-reading it. Or over analyzing it.

I was a vegan for years. I think your friend was rude. I would have said - "Oh, that sounds interesting, but I'm a vegetarian! Got any other suggestions?"

That's how I would have handled it too.

I think i would have been bothered a bit by her response, that was a little bit defensive, she could have answered in a much nicer way like :- This sounds interesting but i'm a vegeterian, do you know a good place for vegeterians ? etc... , although i don't think you were ignorant because you didn't know !!

So it was "Uuuumm..." ? I think that means she is pissed off. If it was "UuMm" or "uuuuuuum" or "uuuuUMMMM" she is kindly thanking you for the suggestion.

Her response was worded rudely. I'm an almost vegetarian lol (eat chicken, turkey...hot dogs and bacon, bad I know)....anyway, Since I don't eat burgers I probably would have responded something like this -

Sounds good, I'll check it out online, thanks for the suggestion.

There's no need to get all uppity like the whole world is supposed to know you're a vegetarian.

Technically you were ignorant of her vegetarian status, but how would you have known? You, however, weren't being inconsiderate. She stated that a little rudely. Just let it go. Things don't come across as they're meant to in text. Or maybe she's just rude.

^^This

You WERE being ignorant.

ig·no·rant/ˈignərənt/
Adjective:

Lacking knowledge or awareness in general; uneducated or unsophisticated.
Lacking knowledge, information, or awareness about something in particular: "ignorant of astronomy".

You were ignorant of her vegetarian lifestyle, but you were not rude.

For heaven's sake, she made an off-the-cuff comment that didn't come across as you liked it. She didn't sit around thinking of a way to offend you. You have officially put 20 times more thought into her comment than she has.

Many vegetarians are up their own arses...don't take it personally xxx

Most hamburger places have veggie burgers. I am sure a place that is famous for burgers would have a vegetarian alternative as well.

Nice!