"I don't want to be too thin" - a "fat" people thing to say?

Hi!

Just something I overheard the other day that got me thinking. Usually larger people saying that they don't want to be "too thin" or "skinny".

In my opinion both of those terms are relative so one person views skinny as 5'5 110lbs person and another may say that the 5'5 girl is skinny at 120.

So when you say "I don't want to be skinny/too thin" what are you implying? Are you saying you don't find thin attractive or are you simply saying it because you don't believe you can reach a certain weight or is it just an excuse? Like you're heavy and you'd probably like to be that weight but are too lazy to actually work for it?

I don't mean to offend anyone. When I say I don't want to be skinny I mean under 120 (I'm 5'4) and at that weight I have hip bones jutting out and don't look healthy in my eyes.

This usually comes from two camps:

1. Women who have never been a healthy weight and so can't imagine themselves at one and
2. Women who think fat = curves.

For me it was totally an excuse to not try my hardest.

I think its more a case of wanting to feel comfortable in your own body. For people who have been overweight for a long time, or always overweight, it's diffuclt to gauge where 'too skinny' would be so better to set a higher, realistic, figure to aim for and then adjust when the time comes if one wanted to be smaller.

To be honest at this stage I just want to be in the healthy weight range for my height (5 ft 3") which would be anything 140lb or under. When I get there I may feel differently of course but even in my teens and doing loads of swimming I was never below 9 stone which is about 126lb. People have different frame sizes and not one weight suits all

To me, "too thin" is looking breakable, not any particular weight.

I think when people say that, they're really worried about becoming like sticks after losing a lot of weight, not that that's a bad thing. One of my larger friends said that she wasn't doing her best on her diet because she was scared of becoming "too thin" and "losing her curves." It's probably because of all of those "go eat a sandwich" comments that thin girls get.. Yeah, I doubt it, because fat girls get those too, but it sounded good.

Personally, I think you can be slender and have curves! I weigh about 125 pounds and I'm five foot three. My BMI is very healthy, just a little bit under the line of middle ground between underweight and overweight. I wear a size four women's pants, which doesn't sound very large, but I also have thirty-eight inch hips and a twenty-five inch waist. When I was ten pounds thinner the numbers dropped only slightly.

Proof that thin girls can be curvy too! If you consider me thin, or at least healthy.

Or it could also be because they envy those slender girls, especially the ones that don't have to work to be tiny, and they just don't have the motivation to become healthy themselves so they push it off on not wanting to become "too thin," often because of a (fe)male love interest in their life. I.e. "My boyfriend likes my curves the way I am! I don't want to be like all of these skinny witches!"

I just don't want too many bones protruding, I'd kinda still like to have a little 'pudge' not massive, just a little something to grab I guess. I noticed someone mentioned people who think a little bit of fat = curves. Well I guess I'm an idiot? But I want curves, which I already have! Just need to lose the weight to show them off a bit more. I do like the 'thin' body, but it's just not how I want to see myself. Slightly busty curvy red head :P, but healthy weight is what I'm aiming for!

I've been at a 100, and I've been at 195 in my adult life. For me, my "too" thin is below 120. By "too" thin, I mean my body doesn't look well. I look underfed, malnourished, and bones stick out in awkward places that I'm not comfortable with. My face looks hollow, my cheeks sunken, and the term "corpse" may have been said.

I've been thinking about this a lot lately, as it turns out.

On the way home at night I get to sit in traffic where I can see a lot of people walking past and I find myself looking at the figures of the women.

And I have come to the conclusion that I don't want to be 'too thin'.

I don't really know how to describe the point where thin is 'too thin' for me. Of course, there's the unhealthy level of 'too thin' that I definitely don't want to be, but there's also what appears to be a healthy version that I simply don't find visually appealing.

I don't think it's a fear mindset, though I suppose it might be and I'm just blind to it. It may simply be that I don't view myself as wanting to be athlete thin, because that seems to be the thin point that doesn't appeal to me.

When it comes down to it, when I am closer to goal I will see about making a more informed decision on where I want to be. I have a lot to lose. I expect my mindset to change as I lose weight. I don't see it as necessary to make that decision now.

I've never been skinny (ever) always what's the polite word? oh yeah chubby. The puppy fat your supposed to grow out of (well i stopped at 4"11") in your teens stayed . Bad diet/realatioship with food plus a complete non interest in any activity/sport/execise. Add that to a mind set that i was never going to get any smaller.

My goal is not to be skinny/thin I just want to be the best version of myself. I will not beat myself up that at my height the chart advises I should be 112 pounds. That figure just feels impossible to me currently but 3 years ago I didn't think I would ever fit into a size 14 and I now do. At school if my future self had told me I would be getting out of bed and execising before work I would have not believed and yet now I do.

Just like to think I'm a work in progess and at my age (38 the age my Mum was when she died of breast cancer) it's about damn time I got myself in better shape.

Will I ever me skinny - hey maybe