"I don't want to be too thin" - a "fat" people thing to say?

I've said that at the start of my journey because I wouldn't feel comfortable being that way. Its not that I couldn't do it...I''ve found recently I can do anything i put my mind too.
For me personally I would prefer to be slightly bigger. IE a UK size 14/16 then an 8-10. Its a very personal choice and I think you're over analysing what people say. Everyone finds different sizes attractive so would obviously have different goals for themselves whilst changing their body.

"Too thin," just means thin to the point where it's unhealthy to me. Just like "too fat."
i.e too thin would be about 105 for me (i'm 5'7"). It doesn't really have to do with what I can achieve because if I wanted to achieve a goal that low, I COULD. I just think it's absurd to want that because it simply isn't healthy. Just like settling for 160 pounds would be. Because that's still considered overweight (even taking into account things other than scale weight).

I can't speak for others, everyone has their own aesthetic preferences and I think that's totally okay as long as they're not being derogatory towards other peoples' body types, but I don't particularly want to be thin. Mostly because I don't think 'I want to be thin' is a healthy goal for me personally - I'm prone to extremes and I think I'd wind up pushing it too far and making myself miserable in the process - but also because truth be told I quite like my body already. I've always had an hourglass figure, when I slim down I'd ideally want to keep that. Just a little bit trimmer and with a lot more energy. For me 'too thin' would be losing all of my curves.

"too thin" to me means an unhealthy thinness. There is actually a level where it becomes just as medically unhealthy to be thin as to be overweight. I know this is easy for me to say since I don't face this issue, but I'd rather be too thin and have to over eat my way to healthiness than my current situation although I seriously doubt the solution to being too thin is more cookies and cupcakes like I would dream of.

I've noticed that a lot of people mention the 'too thin' thing a LONG way off of being near a BMI of 18.5 though.

I don't quite get why you'd even mention it until you thought you might be in danger of being 'too thin'

Not me. I'm aiming for a BMI of 19 personally. I mean people who are bigger than I was before I even started trying to lose weight (140lb) saying that they are a worried about being too thin when they've got miles before getting to the unhealthy too thin stage.

being too thin is not healthy and does not look good on most people. I have said this before. I have a small frame, I am 5'4 and 124. But if I lost 10 more pounds, I would be too thin, in my opinion. there would be nothing left of me

Hi!

Just something I overheard the other day that got me thinking. Usually larger people saying that they don't want to be "too thin" or "skinny".

In my opinion both of those terms are relative so one person views skinny as 5'5 110lbs person and another may say that the 5'5 girl is skinny at 120.

So when you say "I don't want to be skinny/too thin" what are you implying? Are you saying you don't find thin attractive or are you simply saying it because you don't believe you can reach a certain weight or is it just an excuse? Like you're heavy and you'd probably like to be that weight but are too lazy to actually work for it?

I don't mean to offend anyone. When I say I don't want to be skinny I mean under 120 (I'm 5'4) and at that weight I have hip bones jutting out and don't look healthy in my eyes.

This usually comes from two camps:

1. Women who have never been a healthy weight and so can't imagine themselves at one and
2. Women who think fat = curves.

I think that losing weight is very, very hard. It takes a special kind of person to get the weight off and keep it off. So, that being said, if you are skinny, why do you care what a larger lady says to make herself feel better? Some people may not have the self esteem that you have to have to be confident enough to say "I want to be too skinny!" Or maybe they just don't, would someone say "I don't want to be to fat" is a skinny thing? The bottom line is, we are here to support each other, not to tear down, right? Have a great day!!

I've never really said I don't want to be too thin/skinny but it's true I don't. I don't want to go from one extreme to the other. I want to be healthy for the first time in a decade.
I've been the same height since 12-13 when I starte gaining weight, and when I was 126 I always felt right in my skin.

To me that's ideal but I didn't have boobs then. I didn't develop till I was 14 or so. So I'd have I take that into account and say 130ish would be good. I've set my goal for 140 now as that is halving my body weight. Once that's reached I'll alter my goal down a little more to where I think I should be (bang in the middle of the good BMI with any luck)

I had that same feeling when I weighed 270. I thought 230 was going to be my goal, and it was for a while, then I accepted myself as heavy at 230 and my new goal is 195 (which for me brings me into "normal" BMI range).

In my case, I don't honestly think it was laziness. With that much weight to go, I started out trying to lose down into a normal BMI quickly, and my relationship with food became unhealthy. I started fasting, and looking at fad "one food" diets. When I backed my goal off to a weight I had remembered as feeling very healthy, it made the whole thing more approachable.

For me, "I don't want to be too thin" was a failsafe that kept me out of a very close call with an eating disorder.

Each person to their own pace, and their own goals. As long as they are judging themselves, and not you, they are traveling their own journey.

Focus on body fat percentage -- not weight, since that includes not only fat but muscle, nerves, bone, cartilage, tendons, water, digestive tract, organs, etc.

I'd reword the phrase "I don't want to be too thin" as "I want to lose a lot of body fat but I don't want to lose too much lean body mass."

for me-because I have said those exact words-it was not believing i could actually get to the point of being skinny and using it as an excuse...like it gets so much harder to lose weight the closer to your goal, so maybe i will just give up and instead of admitting that its because i don't feel like trying harder, i'll say its because i don't want to be too skinny.

I used to say things like this. For me it was pure ignorance and a way to try and trick myself into believing that I was not as over weight and out of shape as I actually was.

My new mantra is "I want to do that!". Maybe I can, maybe I can't but I will try anything!

Actually, that wasn't something I said when I was overweight. I never thought it was even a possibility when I started!

But, as I started to lose weight, I started hearing comments that let me know people were worried...don't get too skinny, etc.. In a way, it irritated me because I'm at a perfectly healthy weight, but I also appreciated their concern. When they look at me, they don't see the fat that's left. They see the fat that's gone. They see me compared to a society full of overweight people.

Unlike them, I was only seeing the fat that's still there and I don't want to fall into the trap of never being satisfied. In my eyes, I can still stand to lose 5 lbs or so and I'd like it to be off my thighs and belly in the hopes of having the "perfect" (well, as perfect as I'm going to get after 3 babies!) body.

Nevermind that I wear a size 4 or 6 and have no guarantee that that 5 lbs. is actually going to come from where I want it to. It might be that that last 5 lbs is going to send me over the "too thin" line, which will make matters worse instead of better.

The fact is that I don't want to be too thin and I don't want to be obsessed with my body. At 36, I don't need to have the body of a 20 year old. I need to be an example to my kids that you can enjoy life and be healthy at the same time without selling your soul for "perfection". So, I choose to be happy with being healthy and accept my body with all of its imperfections.

'Too thin' for me is when my face starts to look gaunt. I was pretty thin for me about 10 years ago, and my colleagues at the time told me I'd lost too much weight. I'm never going to be skinny because I have an hourglass figure, so my boobs and hips will always be a bit bigger.

I'm 34 now and have 2 children, but my clothes from 10 years ago (yeah, i kept them lol) are starting to fit me again.

I work out a lot more now with weights, and I have a personal trainer, so I have more muscle mass than I did back then, and I'm more toned. My BMI then was 22, but I think when I get back to the same size as I was, my BMI this time will be higher.

I think this comes from many places, each individual to the person. Here are some I've encountered.

a) I have a friend who is in recovery from an eating disorder (I think that's how you say it). In the process, she gained a lot of weight partially because her metabolism was out of whack from all the up and down she put her body through. She is now overweight and uncomfortable with it and told me recently that she wanted to lose weight but reassured me that she didn't want to get "too skinny." In that case I think she was just trying to let me know that she wasn't going to go back to 98 pounds (and thus the hospital).

b) My husband is not attracted to stick-thin models. He finds them disgusting. He will often say "look at her, she has twig arms!" When I started working out and dieting, he asked me (not in a mean way) to not loose too much weight or "get too thin." He's simply not attracted to it. I assured him that with my body type it would be extremely hard to pull that off anyway and that it wasn't my goal.

I think a lot of people fall somewhere into b - they either don't find the really, really thin thing attractive OR, on the flip-side, they aren't capable of reaching it.

My brain is mush this morning... I had 2 other examples when I started and now I can't think of them :P Oh well, if I remember I'll add later.

I've never been overweight, quite the opposite, in fact, so when I say it, I just mean I don't want to get back to 98 pounds at 5'5" and looking like a stick figure. I'm loving that I finally have curves and all I had to do was gain weight and drop body fat.