"I don't want to be too thin" - a "fat" people thing to say?
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It's not an excuse. My goal is 135. If I get to 135 and still have fat in places I don't want it (stomach, arms, back), I'll keep losing weight. But I don't want to be bony. At a 39" hip measurement, my hip bone pierces my skin and it is PAINFUL! However, that's just me. Plenty of people can have that same hip measurement and below with no problem.
Don't assume everyone is saying that to offend or make excuses. It's a broad statement and in my case, it IS relative to ME!0 -
I can't view the second picture at work, but the lady on the top picture is too skinny in my opinion.
So healthy looking human is too skinny? This perfectly illustrates my point that what we consider normal has shifted....0 -
"The lady"?! THAT'S SHAKIRA.
The only woman on earth for whom the camera doesn't add 10lbs, because her hips don't lie0 -
The only way I think too think is not attractive is where bodies look emanciated and like those of anorexic or starved people.
I used to get called curvy but I knew I was quite overweight with it and that I still didn't want to be that way so being called curvy did not change my image towards my size.
I also appreciate that people have completely different frames. When my sister was a UK8 (US4) at 5ft7" tall she did look skinny and possibly too skinny in my opinion. I guess I thought that because the muscle tone she had on her stomach and abs had disappeared. I honestly don't know how healthy she was or wasn't but she is also an actress and dress model which puts pressure on her bodyshape.
I guess everyone has a different perception of what is considered too fat/too thin and yes anyone can express an opinion but it doesn't necessarily make them right. Best way to be sure is to check your health with a GP (Physician).0 -
I don't understand why fat people feel they are allowed to tell healthy people they are 'too thin'.
:noway: I don't understand why people who are at a healthy weight feel they have a right to tell "fat" people they need to lose. Though I find that usually people embittered against "fat" people are unhealthy or have an ED....so I can't say one way or another. You may just be rude and ignorant.
Losing weight and becoming healthier is a personal journey. But everyone has an opinion and unless you want to staple everyone's mouths shut. (and sometimes I wish I could) then deal with it. Life lesson.
As for me. Yes I have said I don't want to be too thin, because I am a large framed girl who has always been proud of my Viking-ish look. Okay I want to lose most of my fat so that all my muscle can shine through, but I don't want to lose it all. In my frame of mind a thicker body with muscle is way more attractive................................. and my husband, who is a large viking-ish man..... agrees.
Maybe I will change my mind one day and want to be more tone and lose more of my body fat %.....but as of now. I want to be healthy, strong and not too thin.
Hello there,
I certainly did not intend to imply that thinner people are somehow 'allowed' to tell heavier people to lose weight. My statement was simply based on my personal experience. A heavier person will, no doubt, have experienced this 'rudeness and ignorance' from the opposite viewpoint. It is unfotunate you have chosen to infer any oppositional subtext from my post as this was not my intention. Obviously, my perspective is skewed, as is everyone's, by personal experiences. But I certainly meant no offence, implied or otherwise, and again, the fact that I don't mention something does not mean I agree with it.
And personally, I would never offer up my opinion about someone's physical appearance, or indeed assume any related health or emotional problems unless I had been specifically asked to comment, or was their doctor.
Your remark about " Losing weight and becoming healthier is a personal journey. But everyone has an opinion and unless you want to staple everyone's mouths shut. (and sometimes I wish I could) then deal with it. Life lesson" equally should work universally whatever someone's weight. Why should smaller people have to learn this 'life lesson' any more that fatter people?0 -
I don't see where any of this has to do with judging anyone but ourselves, so I think those comments from people are pointless. Just because I don't think I want to be 125 pounds at 5'4" (the ideal weight for my height) and think it would be too thin, doesn't mean I think it would be too thin for someone else my height or taller than me. That is a statement judging no one but myself. Quit finding reasons to throw a temper tantrum in an online forum.0
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o o o o ! i know the answer!!!!!
"It depends on the individual."0 -
I don't see where any of this has to do with judging anyone but ourselves, so I think those comments from people are pointless. Just because I don't think I want to be 125 pounds at 5'4" (the ideal weight for my height) and think it would be too thin, doesn't mean I think it would be too thin for someone else my height or taller than me. That is a statement judging no one but myself. Quit finding reasons to throw a temper tantrum in an online forum.
I agree!0 -
I don't understand why fat people feel they are allowed to tell healthy people they are 'too thin'.
if it is a friend of mine, i may say something depending on the motivation behind losing weight. i once had a friend of mine tell me he was worried about me because i was getting too big. i can't thank him enough for loving me enough to say something. it's hard for us to see it in ourselves.
i've never suffered from a super low self-esteem. here i've lost well over 70lbs since that talk and i don't look any different to my own eyes than i did back then. well, maybe a little in the face.
so if you have a friend telling you something, you may want to listen.
My own mother accused me of being anorexic when I weighed 132 pounds at 5'3" and was most definitely eating plenty. I still had flab on my body that clothing covered. And 132 pounds for me was a high weight compared to what I had been most of my life. I just had gained about 30 pounds over the course of a year and then lost it, so she had last seen me at a size 12 and now I was a size 6, so that equated to "too thin" to her because it was a large change.
Friends/family are not always right.
they may not always be right, but they are worth hearing out. they may see something you don't. in this case, you were right, but one shouldn't dismiss something a person says out of vanity, you know?0 -
Someone else pointed this out, and I'm jumping on it. When women say they don't want to "lose their curves" and get "too thin," I think it's because "curves" are the only things they felt positive about for their body image. The big boobs or butt than their men loved? Those are at risk of disappearing, even though overall appearance would improve.
It's like priding yourself on your long hair--sure, it gets matted easily, snarly, and may be in horrible health... but it's so long, and someone liked it! So when you lose weight, and the boobs and butt go quickly... yeah, you were overweight, those boobs and butt were contributing to an unhealthy weight.... but someone liked it!
I would say "NOT TRUE!" My best feature has always been my eyes. When I was weighing 135, it was my legs, but my hips have been curvy since I was 12. Curvy is a shape, not a size.
Lol, do you not understand "examples." The topic is, "Why do people say this/feel this?" Clearly you're not in that demographic if you weren't saying, "Wow, I don't want to be too thin, because I have great eyes." Reading comprehension & context: you're doing it wrong. Nice job reading other posts, too!
Well apparently, I am retarded. I still think your comment is ridiculous. :ohwell:
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o o o o ! i know the answer!!!!!
"It depends on the individual."
This ^^^^^^^^^
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Someone else pointed this out, and I'm jumping on it. When women say they don't want to "lose their curves" and get "too thin," I think it's because "curves" are the only things they felt positive about for their body image. The big boobs or butt than their men loved? Those are at risk of disappearing, even though overall appearance would improve.
It's like priding yourself on your long hair--sure, it gets matted easily, snarly, and may be in horrible health... but it's so long, and someone liked it! So when you lose weight, and the boobs and butt go quickly... yeah, you were overweight, those boobs and butt were contributing to an unhealthy weight.... but someone liked it!
I would say "NOT TRUE!" My best feature has always been my eyes. When I was weighing 135, it was my legs, but my hips have been curvy since I was 12. Curvy is a shape, not a size.
Lol, do you not understand "examples." The topic is, "Why do people say this/feel this?" Clearly you're not in that demographic if you weren't saying, "Wow, I don't want to be too thin, because I have great eyes." Reading comprehension & context: you're doing it wrong. Nice job reading other posts, too!
Well apparently, I am retarded. I still think your comment is ridiculous. :ohwell:
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You don't understand it then
At least you're cognizant enough to admit your mental failings (too bad you have to go the route of using "retarded"). 0 -
Who wants to be "too" anything?
Having said that, I reckon I could cope with having 'too much money'0 -
Too skinny/thin, to me, means having your ribs showing. I really hate that. My ideal body is healthy and curvy. If you Google "marilyn monroe beach photo shoot", that's what I mean by healthy and curvy. That is the body I want! Lol.0
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What is too thin to one person might be not be too thin to another. there are many individual factors to be considered. I would also like to point out that the average woman's frame is bigger now, than the average woman's frame for example in the 1950s call it evolution if you must. There are way too many variables to make a generalization therefore, to each their own so long as it is healthy and my thoughts do not include those with anorexia who think being that thin is healthy. I do not think it is an excuse from all, maybe from some yes, but definitely not all. Me? i would love to lose my boobs as it is almost impossible to run without knocking myself out lmao.0
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Who wants to be "too" anything?
I want to be too sexy for this shirt, so sexy it hurts.0 -
Who wants to be "too" anything?
I want to be too sexy for this shirt, so sexy it hurts.
well.... Now that is stuck in my head...0 -
So when you say "I don't want to be skinny/too thin" what are you implying? Are you saying you don't find thin attractive or are you simply saying it because you don't believe you can reach a certain weight or is it just an excuse?
i agree with this. for example, when there's a thread like what's your ideal body, fat people always post kim kardashian or someone thick like her.
I mean who wants a butt like that?
i think it's because people believe it's the best what THEY can get.
Um false. Some people really do find that attractive. My husband is an *kitten* man so he would love if my *kitten* looked like hers. (it won't ever look that way unless I do endless squats). He married a "thicker" woman and has seen pictures of me at my smallest and has very kindly asked me not to get to that weight.
So while some people do use it as an excuse to not work towards a goal some people really do not want that goal. I feel sexiest when I am FIT and still curvy. (and not the "fat" definition of curvy)0 -
I thought it was better to have it and not need it, than need it and not have it>???0
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I think its more a case of wanting to feel comfortable in your own body. For people who have been overweight for a long time, or always overweight, it's diffuclt to gauge where 'too skinny' would be so better to set a higher, realistic, figure to aim for and then adjust when the time comes if one wanted to be smaller.
^^ this
Really, I have no idea what I should weigh. I do know that the BMI for ME is definitely BS, because I have a larger frame (has been confirmed by my doctor), and most likely should not ever weigh less than 135, even though I am only 5'1". Plus I do NOT want to lose my *kitten* and boobs. Yes, I'm vain about them. Hahaha. I just want to be comfortable, I'm not even worried about "skinny." I'm going for realistic and healthy and happy. "Too skinny" would mean unhealthy for ME.0 -
For me too thin is under what my goal weight on here is set as!! I lost weight and kept it off for ten years but at my lightest I looked like death and got really ill from it and had no energy!! I was forced to put half a stone on at the time and felt so much better and looked better too!! I was still a size 12-14 but for me that was better than hitting size 10 almost and looking like a scary halloween figure all the time
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"too thin" to me means emaciated or death camp looking. Like you belong in a commercial for a christain charity to feed the hungry. As long as it falls under physically "healthy", I say go for it. but then again, i say don't do drugs, don't smoke, don't play in traffic always practice safe sex and brush your teeth freq to combat gingivitis. healthy = happy.
i was a overly thin drug doing smoker at one point. so this is my "new leaf" perspective. to feel healthy "clean" and good.
its doing marvelous things for mah happys.
Again, one chick's opinion. Opinions are a dime a dozen.0 -
I'm not sure anymore b/c I have definately lost muscle over the years. To be fair I only started recently weight lifting so I know this will happen if you don't lift. In HS I was 118 - 125 lbs and 5' 2'' which was fairly comfortable and I felt thin. There were days I would feel like if I lost 5 lbs my pants would fit slightly better. Just have to wait and see how I feel when I get back down to 125 lbs0
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o o o o ! i know the answer!!!!!
"It depends on the individual."
DING DING DING, we have a winner! :drinker:0 -
"too thin" to me means emaciated or death camp looking. Like you belong in a commercial for a christain charity to feed the hungry. As long as it falls under physically "healthy", I say go for it. but then again, i say don't do drugs, don't smoke, don't play in traffic always practice safe sex and brush your teeth freq to combat gingivitis. healthy = happy.
i was a overly thin drug doing smoker at one point. so this is my "new leaf" perspective. to feel healthy "clean" and good.
its doing marvelous things for mah happys.
Again, one chick's opinion. Opinions are a dime a dozen.
Agreed, the sunken eyes, drawn face not a good look. Good for you turning over a new leaf. That is huge!0 -
I dont think its an excuss. I think people (women in general) look better with some weight on them (curves). It don't have to be alot of weight. But being too skinny is not attractive.0
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IMO there is a fine line between healthy and sickly looking. For me, at 5'6 and an large frame, anything below 145 looks terrible.0
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Ditto... Well saidHi!
Just something I overheard the other day that got me thinking. Usually larger people saying that they don't want to be "too thin" or "skinny".
In my opinion both of those terms are relative so one person views skinny as 5'5 110lbs person and another may say that the 5'5 girl is skinny at 120.
So when you say "I don't want to be skinny/too thin" what are you implying? Are you saying you don't find thin attractive or are you simply saying it because you don't believe you can reach a certain weight or is it just an excuse? Like you're heavy and you'd probably like to be that weight but are too lazy to actually work for it?
I don't mean to offend anyone. When I say I don't want to be skinny I mean under 120 (I'm 5'4) and at that weight I have hip bones jutting out and don't look healthy in my eyes.
This usually comes from two camps:
1. Women who have never been a healthy weight and so can't imagine themselves at one and
2. Women who think fat = curves.0 -
I can't view the second picture at work, but the lady on the top picture is too skinny in my opinion.
So healthy looking human is too skinny? This perfectly illustrates my point that what we consider normal has shifted....
No, it prove the subjective nature of the discussion. I don't think she looks healthy.0 -
I think its more a case of wanting to feel comfortable in your own body. For people who have been overweight for a long time, or always overweight, it's diffuclt to gauge where 'too skinny' would be so better to set a higher, realistic, figure to aim for and then adjust when the time comes if one wanted to be smaller.
^^ this
Really, I have no idea what I should weigh. I do know that the BMI for ME is definitely BS, because I have a larger frame (has been confirmed by my doctor), and most likely should not ever weigh less than 135, even though I am only 5'1". Plus I do NOT want to lose my *kitten* and boobs. Yes, I'm vain about them. Hahaha. I just want to be comfortable, I'm not even worried about "skinny." I'm going for realistic and healthy and happy. "Too skinny" would mean unhealthy for ME.
I agree with it all. I've never been thin. The BMI for me has always put me in the Obese catagory, yet I've seen pics of myself when I was a preteen & I'm not fat by any standard. I also am a big framed woman & I would rather be realistic & meet my goal then be what the BMI says & never get there. I have enough problems with self esteem without setting myself up to fail.0
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