What gives with the nasty comments about my weight loss?

What?? I wouldn't even want to be in her wedding then.

^^Yeah, this! I have a bad habit of just saying the first thing that pops into my head when someone is insensitive. I would probably say "fine...I'm out!" And I might regret it later, but I would stick to it for the principle of the thing. What is wrong with your sister?!?

I had a cousin I was very close to growing up. When she was getting married, I was pregnant with my son...very pregnant. She told me it was too bad I was pregnant or I could be in her wedding. We have barely spoken since. Either you want to make me a part of your life or you don't.

My sister said to me just the other day, "You need to lose more weight if you want to be in my wedding." My good friend said to me, in reference to my weight loss, "I need to start working out. I don't want to be the fat one."

Why do people think that because you're losing weight all of a sudden it's okay to say nasty things about your weight? It's like open season on commenting on my weight. I laugh it off but my feelings are bruised. What do you all do when people are thoughtless like that or just plain mean?

I was pregnant when my "best friend" got married. I heard that right before the wedding she was telling people that she didn't think it would look right for a pregnant girl to walk down the isle. Seriously? 1) I was already married and had 1 kid and 2) I wasn't the one getting married!! Needless to say our friendship fell apart.

About 2 years ago she got back in touch with me and apologized.

Remember that she is your sister and you love her, but let her know that her comments are not okay.

As for your "friend": Sounds like jealousy to me. You must look FANTASTIC!!

Ugh, having same problems here. I've lost 19lbs (out of the 98 I wanted to lose) already and have just joined MFP for a bit of extra support. (I have hit a plateau)

My family have declared open season on commenting on how I look ALL the time, a lot of it rather back-handed compliments, which I find really hurtful. I also have a few friends who are trying to lose weight as well, one of them is awesome and says things like "I can SEE you're losing weight, I'm so jealous! What are you doing?", and another who is really bitter.
Bitter friend asks every week how much I've lost, she's very competitive, says things like "Oh I don't have time for that, I'm too busy" (in reply to me doing 30 mins elliptical every morning before my kids get up) or complains that she's been working really hard too and that "it's just not fair" that she's not losing too.
I've noticed she starts full on with exercise but doesn't stick to it, instead of easing into it as I have, and constantly slips up with food, every week it's a different diet of deprivation which ends in a binge. I've tried to be helpful and say things like "I'm using this website to keep track of absolutely everything I eat", and she'll rave on about her new magic diet. I have a Health Science background so don't need lecturing from her, and about a fortnight ago she decided from a magazine article that she's insulin resistant (which she probably is), but had to tell me ALL about it, despite me having battled it with my PCOS for years. I explained that yes I try to eat mostly low GI food but still watch my calorie intake, but she's busy eating way too much (especially animal fats) as long as it's "low GI". I tried to explain that yes, I'm insulin resistant too, and she completely ignored me, just lost in her excuses.
I guess her jealousy bugs me more than it would from any other person as she fails to see how hard I'm working to lose this weight, it's not coming easy for me but I determined to stick to it, & it'd be nice to get some recognition for the hard work, rather than just her pity party which involves putting me down.
I think some time avoiding her might be necessary to preserve our friendship. I know that sounds really harsh but I'm finding her constant personal attacks very deflating, I've never been able to use put-downs as motivation!

edited to add: sorry for the novel!

PURE jealousy!
Simple as that. Losing weight is never bad ever.

I guess for siblings, I've never been timid at all. I'd just say, "what the f*** did your fat *kitten* just fart out at me, b*tch?" But, like I said, it's just my dimb-*kitten* sister. I'll say whatever I want.

The second comment was a compliment.

it is still ok to beat the **** out of your siblings even when your over 30 u know maybe you have to be a bit more carefull with non familly members :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

I had a cousin I was very close to growing up. When she was getting married, I was pregnant with my son...very pregnant. She told me it was too bad I was pregnant or I could be in her wedding. We have barely spoken since. Either you want to make me a part of your life or you don't.

How selfish of you! Don't you know the pictures are the most important part of a wedding!?!? :noway: :noway: :noway:

Yes and the memory of a very close cousin who was pregnant at the time should be a great one. :explode:

Unfortunately it's going to be a constant thing. Not sure how human nature came about like that but I prefer to refer to it as jealousy. You either get that or the constant barrage of friends that 'want you help' but insult every suggestion you give them. I just stopped. Gave up listening to people's negativity. Smile and do something to make YOU feel good about yourself.

A quick reply of "Wow - did you really just say that?" will stop a lot of people in their tracks.

This really works well. I have used that before.

Don't you just hate the plateau??? Ugh. I know I struggled after my first 19 loss. Then I got lazy and was not logging in each day. Gained back 5 ! UGH UGH. Trick your plateau. Eat way few calories about 2 days a week and make them back up on other days. During your workout go fast and slow, fast and slow. Not just a steady rate. This burns more. I have been doing this the past week and gave back a pound. I read an article from the Mayo clinic, I believe, and it said after 4 weeks your body gets used to what you are doing so you need to change it up. So I started taking a Zumba class once a week. So far just one and I am sore but hope to see more pounds leave me after the month. Be brave and strong. This is not easy. I know.

Thank you for this! Definitely not liking the plateau! And funny you mention the four weeks thing because it's been four weeks since I started using the elliptical as my main exercise, I've worked up to doing 30 mins a day, so perhaps as you said my body has gotten used to it. I will change it up a bit. Perhaps doing 10mins elliptical, 10 mins bike etc. Thanks!
Loving this site so far!

edited to add to stay on topic: with great help like that I'm sure nasty comments in real life won't bother me so much!