Deleting Friends

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  • wahmx3
    wahmx3 Posts: 633 Member
    I generally delete those that haven't logged in for a month or longer. I am here to lose weight, be healthier and support others who have similar goals. I have also deleted a few that eat like crap over a period of time or think that eating too little is great! Losing weight the healthy way is the only way to go in my opinion!
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member
    The only time I would consider deleting for not logging in is if I was at the max number of friends that MFP allows and wanted to add someone. Then I'd delete the person who was gone the longest. I don't think that's something I have to worry about any time soon. :) Doesn't hurt me any if they aren't logging in.
  • Louiyen
    Louiyen Posts: 69
    I'll keep them to make it seem i have a lot of friends. =D no i kid.
  • scarlettesong
    scarlettesong Posts: 108 Member
    Wow... seeing this makes me feel like I'm doing the right thing not having any friends! You guys are harsh! I felt a little hurt when I was deleted by the one person who added me last time, so I have chosen not to open the diary so they can poke fun. "You went out to eat TWICE this week. Ugh!"

    "You eat junk food! Get off my list!"

    "You didn't log your food yesterday! Bam, gone!"

    That's the vibe I get from this post. And I'm military so we go away all the time: training for 3 weeks here, conference there, deployment with intermittent web access. I don't need friends that'll abandon me because I'm hard to reach or going to criticize when I'm stuck eating chow hall food in the desert. I don't know about others, but I need encouragement. I'm trying to eat well, but now I'm thinking "What if I don't live up to their standards?"

    Edit: The "doesn't interact" part also concerns me. I'm a quiet one, a lurker. You'll delete me for that, even if I log in!?
  • GabyG69
    GabyG69 Posts: 213
    Yes if they haven't logged in in over a month or so..
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    Nope.

    While I respect anyone's decision about it but to me it sound like I'm being unfair & not supportive at all if I do that. Besides, some people in my FL live a very hectic life so much so that they don't have the luxury of being in internet everyday. While there are some who post that they'll be away for a while due to some reasons but I know not all people have a time to do that.
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  • airangel59
    airangel59 Posts: 1,887 Member
    Yes, I give them a month, perhaps a bit longer, and add a note telling them if they come back to look me up.

    I want to be supported on my journey and if they are AWOL, it does me no good.

    In this day & age, there really is no reason to fall off the face of the planet w/o logging in for a month.
  • laurie571
    laurie571 Posts: 152 Member
    Yup. I also delete friends that log in every day but don't interact with me at all.
    me too. i deleted most of mine because of this.
  • splashangel
    splashangel Posts: 494 Member
    Sorry... I gotta be this person...

    I delete people who call me buttercup.
    I saw that.:wink:
  • bushidowoman
    bushidowoman Posts: 1,599 Member
    I don't. Those who go missing are the ones who need the support the most. Whenever they decide to come back, I'll be here to cheer them on.
  • MooMooooo
    MooMooooo Posts: 306 Member
    Yeah, I delete people for all kinds of reasons too - inactivity is an easy delete.

    I want to keep my friend count under 1 page - I mention this on my profile.

    So I can see my husband easily. :D

    But I have deleted people who have confronted me about my diet - *F* them, I want friends, not busy bodies.
  • MichaelFunaro
    MichaelFunaro Posts: 66 Member
    I delete friends who 1) Haven't logged in for at least 14 days (without good reason) and 2) Never post to anyone's profile or status pages. That's why we get friends, for mutual support. Oh, and also if they aren't cool. But that one is subjective.
  • ridemhi
    ridemhi Posts: 16 Member
    Not yet
  • ccpowers
    ccpowers Posts: 203 Member
    I am guilty of deleting...for not logging in, for not interacting....but after reading some of these responses and reasonings, I feel guilty. :(
  • WillUAre
    WillUAre Posts: 81 Member
    I feel like I "deserve" to be deleted. Not much of an online talker. Too quiet.
  • Effpcos
    Effpcos Posts: 350 Member
    Hmm, well I'm going to be an easy delete then, even though I've only just joined!

    I've grown up without a lot of support for anything I've done, words of encouragement and praise aren't easily in my vocab, other than "cool" etc, so I find it hard to articulate/interact.
    I don't expect people to woohoo at everything I do either. I'm fairly vocal on facebook, but in real life I'm more of a watcher/listener than a talker, it doesn't mean I'm not noticing people's achievements, I just don't know what to say without coming across awkward and cheesy! But I do try.

    It seems a bit harsh to delete people just because they don't pay you enough attention!

    I see the newsfeed as being about accountability, not just encouragement. But that's just me.
  • YoshiZelda
    YoshiZelda Posts: 340 Member
    After a month I do. It's nothing against them, I just hate that so and so has not logged in for a month thing.
    If they come back, they could always re-add me.
  • SWilkins75
    SWilkins75 Posts: 277 Member
    After a month I do. It's nothing against them, I just hate that so and so has not logged in for a month thing.
    If they come back, they could always re-add me.
    This.
  • NeverGivesUp
    NeverGivesUp Posts: 960 Member
    If they are really my friends, no. If we barely have had any contact, yes. They could also be on vacation. Do what is right for you.
  • MrsSWW
    MrsSWW Posts: 1,585 Member
    :grumble: Yes, if we have very different views of a healthy lifestyle or attitude to life in general.... or if I don't think they're making much of an effort. Everyone has to go through life's ups and downs, doesn't mean you can't log what you eat.

    If someone is merely annoying me, but I don't feel ready to delete them *yet* because I think they might bounce back, I simply hide them from my newsfeed... :yawn:
  • ElizaDnl
    ElizaDnl Posts: 46
    this.....my own post repeated from a similar thread....I'm sorry, there are things I will make time for like eating right, working out, whatever, and things I won't make time for.....scrolling through my friends list to delete those I feel haven't measured up...for WHATEVER reason. If you're on my list, you're on for life.
    I delete people who delete other people for any reason. Or people who talk about why they delete people. I also delete for migraines, too chatty, head-lice, constipation, yellow teeth, irritable bowel syndrome, excessive flatulence, urinary track infections, lack of toe nail cutting, women who shave their hoo-hee and those with casualness towards general hygiene. I've also deleted for being members of Al Qaeda, Hamas or other terrorist organizations or people who just like to blow *kitten* up for no reason. I've deleted and will delete anyone too political, too religious, too opinionated, too sensual, too sexual, too apathetic, someone who is easily over-excited, too encouraging, too discouraging, too whiny, too quiet, too general and too explicit. Also bad grammar, GONE! If you've ever deleted anyone for bad grammar, you're gone too. If you don't eat donuts, gone. If you've ever deleted someone else for eating a donut, GONE! I will delete anyone who uses the words: journey or process in regards to weight loss. Finally and most importantly, I will delete you for lacking a sense of humor......oh.....and DON'T show me your bewbs, I will delete you for that.

    Please, will you marry me?
  • Qskim
    Qskim Posts: 1,145 Member
    I've deleted friends n I regret it...they were supportive and healthy eaters but I was getting pressure from home about my MFP addiction lol and had a knee jerk stupid thought that if I downsized I would b on here less. I did send them a message b4 explaining y and wishing them well but it still really hurt them especially HD (forgive me HD). I have also deleted a young girl undereating who gave no support and made a smartarse comment on newsfeed about my suggestion to up at least her veggies...it was too painful to watch. I also deleted someone who gave no support to me bit I did for her but I checked her friends list first and she had over 200 friends so I felt ok about that cos she wasn't going to miss little old me. BUT because of HD, I will never delete anyone again.
  • kimmianne89
    kimmianne89 Posts: 428 Member
    I rarely ever delete, even when they haven't been on for weeks. What if they were going through a bad patch and come back to no support? . But I'm often deleted. Some people tell me its because I have a big friends list.
    I personally think thats silly. I support, I reply and chat. If I had just 20 friends I would be the same.

    I hate being deleted and not knowing who or why they have. Wish they would message and tell me what I did.

    Oh, I have deleted a few people because they were writing on other peoples diarys telling them they were bad for eating food and needed to eat no more than 300 calories 0.o
  • nxd10
    nxd10 Posts: 4,570 Member
    I just deleted all my (very nice) friends because having people see my diary made me self conscious about what I was posting (but not what I was eating). And I need to be scrupulously honest or what's the point of keeping a diary. I sent them a note and they were so gracious.
  • Themuseinme
    Themuseinme Posts: 224 Member
    I deleted someone becuase she kept compaining about deleting folks who didnt have pictures or open diary.

    If someone doesnt want help with their diets then why do they need an open diary. Like me.Its closed for now, but if i want advice i'll open it.:tongue:

    I thought she was a nosybody. She kept me even though i had a closed diary. I thought it was mean to delete people for closed diary so i deleted her first. :tongue:
  • Belle8312
    Belle8312 Posts: 2,151 Member
    Wow... seeing this makes me feel like I'm doing the right thing not having any friends! You guys are harsh! I felt a little hurt when I was deleted by the one person who added me last time, so I have chosen not to open the diary so they can poke fun. "You went out to eat TWICE this week. Ugh!"

    "You eat junk food! Get off my list!"

    "You didn't log your food yesterday! Bam, gone!"

    That's the vibe I get from this post. And I'm military so we go away all the time: training for 3 weeks here, conference there, deployment with intermittent web access. I don't need friends that'll abandon me because I'm hard to reach or going to criticize when I'm stuck eating chow hall food in the desert. I don't know about others, but I need encouragement. I'm trying to eat well, but now I'm thinking "What if I don't live up to their standards?"

    Edit: The "doesn't interact" part also concerns me. I'm a quiet one, a lurker. You'll delete me for that, even if I log in!?


    I totally agree!!!!! I am military as well, and I know that we can get tasked to go somewhere at the drop of a hat. A few years ago, I got told two days before Christmas that I was deploying two days after Christmas. So for the next few weeks, the only people I was in contact with was my unit and notifying family of the situation. The last thing on my mind would've been posting on MFP that I was going to be MIA for a while for a legitimate reason!
  • lizziebeth1028
    lizziebeth1028 Posts: 3,602 Member
    If they are not active for about a month then I delete. I will also delete people if it turns out we have WAY different goals or a different approach to the lifestyle (people eating super low calorie, fad dieting, over the top with supplements, logging ridiculous calorie burns through exercise but not losing weight). It's not a judgment or personal, it just turns out we don't have much in common. I have also deleted a person or two for continuously preaching about Jesus. I got no problem with the lord.....but I don't need to see that kind of stuff in my news feed.
  • iloso
    iloso Posts: 156
    9-14 days depending on how I am feeling.
  • rnb1127
    rnb1127 Posts: 23 Member
    I see that same guy on other peoples posts quite a bit. I say "*kitten*" out loud to myself everytime I see his avatar.

    this made me LOL :)

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