Adultery Diet

Speaking of which, that is a GREAT song to listen to right now. Gloria Gaynor, I believe. Another good one you should search up is "Cheater Cheater" by Joey + Rory. It's country and hysterical. Listen to Nancy Sinatra's "These Boots Are Made For Walking". Listen to music that reminds you how strong you are!!! There was a YOU before him, and there will be a YOU after him.

Add these two to your playlist also: "Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood and "Would I Lie To You?" by Annie Lennox (my personal fave).

Even though it may not always feel like it, you are getting stronger every day. Keep your chin up and remember that any man who is really worth it will never make you cry.

Hey Sabes...
All I can say is WOW! you are awesome. you are a powerful amazingly strong woman. like so many here I have been through it too. I have been divorced for 4 years. he left me 5 years ago for the person that he cheated on me with. now, along with family and friends of course, there is one statement that got me through...SUCCESS IS THE BEST REVENGE!!! about 2 years ago I decided to go back to school and I am about to get my associates degree in psychology and I will have my bachelor's in another 2 years. Trust me...any and every success that you achieve will add to your power and NO ONE will ever be able to take it away from you. I know it totally sucks right now but when you are through it you will be better and stronger for it. I am really proud of you for running that race despite your heartache. Keep up the great work you're awesome!!

I went through the same thing about 5 months ago. My hubby just up and left me one day due to the affair. I feel your pain and reading your story brings back a flood of emotions for me. Hubby and have worked it out, but during the 9 days he was gone, I dropped 10 pounds. It's hard, but you will get through it. Just keep on keeping on...

When I got divorced, a good friend told me "The best revenge is living well". She was so right, whenever I had to be around him, I made sure I looked good and made a point to mention my successes. That in turn made me feel successful....and he didn't like it

LOVING THE PLAY LIST -

cheater cheater is a great song too....

Thanks for saying i am strong. Most of the time i dont feel strong, i sometimes feel like a piece of sh** who was dumped for a 25 year old. But those sometimes are becoming less frequent.
I AM strong.
I will survive.
ALthough it sucks. I will.

He didn't leave you for a 25 year old.
He left you because a part of him is screwed up badly. He won't be able to fix that wrongness with her either.
He left you for his own selfish reasons. He cheated on you. He treated you horribly.
You are far more valuable than that.
Do not beg for him back.
You do not NEED him. You have yourself. You are strong enough to be your own person.
Really question yourself -- why do you want him back? Is it him or just the position he filled in your life? Don't let fear make you think you NEED him. You don't.

Today I have this sinking feeling of hurt in my chest that makes it hard to breathe and stand up straight. My arms ache. I ache.
My office mate puts homeade soup in the fridge for me each morning. I think the feeling in my arms is malnutrition.
I am drinking water. I had steamed broccoli and chicken last night.
I had a box of raisins this morning - simply because my body was so hungry I was having trouble functioning.
I feel better after eating the soup.
I have dropped to 118. I was at 134-6 on Christmas Day.

I think you've started to realize it, but it took me a week to realize my physical pain was mostly due to malnutrition. Yes, emotional pain hurts too, but starvation hurts also. I'm glad to hear you are eating. A slow start back will ease your body back into it.

The positive thing is that mt *kitten* looks fabulous... I have never seen it look so tiny and cute. LOL I bought a new bikini - BTW- I am off to Mexico with my best girlfriend in 2 weeks and 1 day. My Valentine will be my mexican beach waiter...

WOOHOO!!!! That sounds like SOOOO MUCH FUN!!!!

I am so sorry! What an aweful experience! But don't let the cheating slob pull you down! You are better than that!

Sabes, I hope that you are really "hearing" what all the women are saying to you on this thread.

The common theme:

You are amazing
You are strong
He doesn't deserve to have you
He didn't leave you for a 25 year old, he left you because he's screwed up in the head.
He will do this to her too or she's gonna do it to him
DON'T BEG FOR HIM TO COME BACK

Your best revenge is success!

Sabes, the first time that we "had:" to be in the same place at the same time, I made damned sure that my hair and nails were done perfectly. I was wearing the hottest :"little" outfit I could find, my skirt was short and my legs were long. I was wearing sexy heels too. I came into the room full of confidence. The kicker

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I didn't even pay him an ounce of attention. I made sure that he knew that he was OFF MY LIST.

You have a blast in Mexico with your girlfriend, your smaller *kitten* (and the Mexican waiter).

You deserve this!

Debbie

When I got divorced, a good friend told me "The best revenge is living well". She was so right, whenever I had to be around him, I made sure I looked good and made a point to mention my successes. That in turn made me feel successful....and he didn't like it

Honey you and your DH are living proof that living well after a divorce will lead to true happiness

When I got divorced, a good friend told me "The best revenge is living well". She was so right, whenever I had to be around him, I made sure I looked good and made a point to mention my successes. That in turn made me feel successful....and he didn't like it

Honey you and your DH are living proof that living well after a divorce will lead to true happiness

Thank you Jeannie.... I like to think so. He is my reward for having gone through a bad marriage

I also know EXACTLY what you (and others who have posted) have gone through or are going through! My dr called it the "divorce diet," but the "adultery diet" is MUCH more severe and difficult! I don't care why kind of relationship you had or thought you had with your spouse, no matter what, it is a DEVASTATING BLOW to find out your spouse has done that to you. NO ONE can understand the pain unless they've been through it themselves. I had already been losing weight (trying - eating right, exercising, etc) BEFORE I found out about the affair but lost even MORE weight after that, putting me about 10 pounds below my original goal. I couldn't eat. I was already on antidepressants and my dr added another one, which helped TREMENDOUSLY! I know some people don't believe in antidepressants, but it worked WONDERS for me... and when I got to a better point emotionally, I weaned myself off of the second one. Eventually, I became STRONGER and did very well on my own! Being a single parent wasn't easy, but I did it! I started going out with my new "sexy" self! ;-) I am now remarried to the most awesome man on earth. Of course, I gained back all of the weight plus more after I met my now DH. So now I'm on the road to losing again. I have actually had TWO men cheat on me - the only two real relationships I ever had prior to my now DH. My ex-h and ex-b both cheated on me and it was devastating and painful both times. I don't wish that on ANYONE. It did finally get me out of 2 bad relationships, though. And if it hadn't been for that, I might not appreciate what I have now. For that, I feel fortunate and blessed. For those that are going through the pain of adultery right now, HANG ON... YOU WILL COME OUT ON THE OTHER SIDE!! There is a light at the end of the tunnel, although it doesn't seem possible at this point. I felt like I just wanted to crawl into a hole and DIE. Obviously, I pulled through and am thoroughly blessed now! You can too!!!! And one of the advantages of being a female, you always have GIRLFRIENDS to help you through difficult times! I have the most awesome friend in the world who helped pull me through everything I went through in the past. In fact, she has kind of commented that she feels a little sad now that I don't constantly "need" her anymore now that I have found "THE ONE!" ;-) (I was calling her probably at least every other day complaining/crying/whatever before). And if you don't have any friends like that "in real life," I see that there are amazing ladies here for support!! :-)