DO ALL MEN!! WORRY ABOUT WOMEN WEIGHT

Does she work outside the home? Does she come home after work and take over the childcare, the house, the fixing dinner, the cleaning up after dinner while you relax in front of the tv? Is she then the one who gets up in the middle of the night when the kids need something? If you do help out around the house, do you offer willingly or does she have to ask? Do you help grudgingly? Does she get frustrated and nag?
If she stays home with the kids all day...do you have a clear understanding of what that's like and what she does all day? Or do you have the mindset that she's home "doing nothing" all day that whatever needs done around the house is "her job"? Have you ever tried to take over the childcare, cleaning, grocery shopping, meal planning and cooking for a day? Do you understand how much time *just* caring for a child can take up? Do you understand that having children attached to you all day makes routine tasks take twice as long as they normally would?

If more husbands understood this, I bet fewer marriages would fall apart.

I suspect the same thing. It took a lot of time, communication, and trying to understand one another, but I can honestly say that my husband was the biggest factor in my becoming strong and healthy. It wasn't because he "had the talk" with me, and it wasn't because he tried to "motivate me" to take care of myself. It was because he made the efffort to understand how I was FEELING. When he understood that I felt like I was drowning, he swooped in and came to my rescue. He helped me to carry some of the load. He became my knight and my hero.
And once I could BREATHE again, I had more mental and physical energy, and when I had more mental and physical energy, I could make changes that I knew would help myself. And then he has always been supportive of me doing something that I am passionate about, even when it has taken me away from home some evenings and he has had to do all the baths, teeth brushing, and bedtime routines by himself (how many other guys out there would like to put five children to bed by yourself? Superman ain't got nothin on my hubby).

Do you know that a lot of guys I have taked to, said they didn't want their wife to lose weight, so no one could steal her lol. Or that stretch marks were gross and that it turned them off, also I have heard them say, they don't even have kids, and their wife just let themselves go. I have heard so many things about weight, turn off and ons some I understand, some I just don't get at all- its really weird to me, but when you love someone it dosent matter. I would only be concerned with weight if it was a serious health issue, nothing else. I actually like my husband with some meat on him.

Umm not all men are like that... and weight isn't their biggest concern, there are other factors.

For starters, they don't like being yelled at

o_O why was this thread resurrected....


....It was created in March

o_O why was this thread resurrected....


....It was created in March

LOL Angry men...

TO ALL!!
DO ALL MEN WORRY ABOUT WOMEN WEIGHT AND WHY....You tell us that we are beautiful...but if we gain weight or have a baby...then you dont treat us the same anymore ....WHY?

Let's look at this for a minute. With a new baby, mommy is always tired and any sex is definitely out of the question. Practically every new mom I've met feels a bit stressed out (lots of my clients have been new moms) and may take some of the stress out on husband. Men don't like to be treated badly anymore than a female would.
So talk to the guy. Put it out on the table and discuss it as adults without taking it personally.

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Hummm… This is an old but interesting subject. To say all ppl are one way or another is being very narrow minded and those who think this way are probably very ill-advised.

Nevertheless, saying that you don’t notice nor care about your partners look is too politically correct in my taste to be truly realistic. Of course, there are *kitten***** who are very mean and condescending. Who use your weight as a means to fuel their own discomfort and who think they project some kind of perfect image that you are obviously “ruining”. I’m sure if we all step back and take a look at them, they are far farrrrr from physically appealing.

But, I must say that although my husband has never really known me super skinny and he prefers curvy women, when I became obese, he did tell me that I looked better before ( I agreed ). He is far from perfect, but he was reacting to my own comments and insecurities, to a question I asked. He has never been condescending, told me to loose weight or else or acted humiliated by me. He noticed that my weight kept me from doing things like going to the pool or putting on certain clothes that I liked and that’s the only thing he regretted: That I felt so bad that I was holding myself back and made myself miserable. In turn, it made him miserable.

It’s funny but all this make me think of our Church pre-marriage “group counselling” that we had to do before we got married (mandatory !) and there was a couple that had four kids and came to talk to all the couples about marriage etc etc. At one point they asked what was “the thing we liked about each other” and went around the circle listening to our answers and when it came time for my husband to answer, he said that he like everything, not one particular thing but just the whole package “just the way she is”. And the couple answered that it was great but “she won’t remain the way she is forever, life happens and you have to be prepared to change together and to know that you will not remain the same.”

A very realistic point a view and very few years later we can already see that we are not the same but that’s ok too.

If you have a partner that refuses to acknowledge this or lives in a parallel world where all women look plastic perfect forever, then move on. They’ll go nowhere in life and will be miserable looking for something that will never exist.

That may be your man, but it's not men. Don't blame all of us for the actions of whatever insensitive *kitten* you're with. Wise up and start choosing better partners.

^ that.

My husband hasn't treated me differently. He married me at 270lbs. He still loves me and treats me the same at 177.

my man has treated me the same through 4 kids and 119lbs to 201lbs and back again ... choose better men!

That may be your man, but it's not men. Don't blame all of us for the actions of whatever insensitive *kitten* you're with. Wise up and start choosing better partners.

^^^^ Yeh what he said :-) ^^^^

If you're shallow and go for shallow people, wonder not why when you have a baby your shallow man will leave you.

That may be your man, but it's not men. Don't blame all of us for the actions of whatever insensitive *kitten* you're with. Wise up and start choosing better partners.

She probably stuffed the better partners into the "friend category."

Precisely. Happens all the time.

Ladies, stop crying you can't meet a good man. You already have. Dozens of them. You just overlooked them for six pack abs or a flashy car or some other stupid reason. If you're dating an *kitten* it's because you chose to date an *kitten*.

Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to go send flowers to my gf's office. No reason. Just 'cause.

Awww, Lucky Girl!!

As far as people saying one thing and acting a different way - consider that a lot of women act very differently depending on what is said to them.
If a man says "I think you're beautiful" when they're thinking "could do with losing a few pounds" they often find they're treated rather differently to being truthful.

I know plenty of blokes that genuinely don't care or that actually prefer larger women.
I do generally find slimmer women more attractive; but it's certainly far from the only attribute that my sub-conscious is basing it's attraction on.

That may be your man, but it's not men. Don't blame all of us for the actions of whatever insensitive *kitten* you're with. Wise up and start choosing better partners.

Couldn't of said that better myself. It's the women who choose who they wanna be with and if they choose to be with somebody who turns out to be an *kitten*, it's on their hands.

Have you ever been in a situation like this? It's really easy to say that someone should leave but being in an abusive relationship doesn't mean a person can just get up and walk away from it. There is a lot more to that then what you think..

Bump....for later, before anything gets locked. :glasses: