I'm everyone's soul mate, until they realize I'm curvy!
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You know in your heart that you are rockin'. You may want to think about meeting guys a different way though... I know it's not an easy thing, but if FB is sending you bozo's time to close down the clown school. What about taking a class or joining a club/group? There are tons of meetups out there... there might be one that's just what you're looking for... ; ) Keep focused on how great you're doing and how strong you are. And well done on reaching out.... not an easy thing to do!0
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be proud of your curves real women have curves
And the ones that don't are obviously fake and not real....
I think you missed my point, men dont want stick figures we want women who have shape to them not to look like a plank of wood flat all over
No, she got your point. You didn't hear her point, which is that women who are naturally less curvy are no less deserving of a man's admiration or respect.0 -
It really a blessing in disguise when they're up front with you about not being into your size (which, by the way, isn't big!). You'd hate for them to waste your time, you possibly fall in love, and THEN they mention that they don't appreciate your appearance.
Keep trying! Right guy is out there, and they're not all jerks :flowerforyou:0 -
Guys that say stupid crap like that are not men.
I am 275 lbs and my husband loves me and didnt just settle. I was 198 lbs when we met and you know what he loved on me? He love my thick thighs and big butt. Yup thats what he loved. I am trying to lose and get down to 140 lbs but he says that he hopes it doesnt take away my thighs and butt because he likes to have something to hold onto. Just focus on you and that good man will come around in time.
My husband is the sweetest man I have ever met. We talked for nearly a week before he ever laid eyes on me even in a picture. I told him up front that I am no "trophy" girl (then at around 195-200lbs). He still wanted to meet me. We fell in love instantly. He is a thin man with a very high metabolism so you can imagine the intimidation there.
Never not once did he mention my weight in a negative way. I, like this person, was told that he hoped I didn't lose my butt because that was his favorite.
NEVER EVER let any person, especially a man, tell you that you have to fit a certain physical appearance to be loved or to qualify for someones affection. That is a load of crap! The right one will come along that will love you for YOU, ALL OF YOU, not just what is on the outside.
Love yourself first and it will be contagious to someone else. Beauty comes from within. Your outward appearance is merely a reflection of who you are on the inside.0 -
A man worthy of your love will want you the way you are. If on line dating, then put up a full body picture of yourself doing something you Love. Be Proud of who you are today, as you will still be that person tomorrow ~ it is only the package in which your body is encased! The men that are looking for one night stands will care about your size, the ones that want to start a life with you will care about what is in your mind, and heart! There are tons of all types of men out there, know that you are worthy of the best one out there, that will blend with you naturally! My 2 cents..0
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REAL men like curves, dogs like bones
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I've never had trouble with dating, even as a fairly overweight woman... maybe they just don't like you?0
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Thanks for the support! I'm not online dating, these are just guys that are friends of friends and message me "Hey, don't I know you from somewhere?" We start talking and they think I'm amazing, funny..blah blah blah...I feel like I need to tell them I'm kind of an amazon.....5'9 and wear heels...plus I've got major curves...huge boobs and booty to match...I'm like Jessica Rabbit, if she had kids and like cheeseburgers! This doesn't detour them...they love a real girl..blah blah blah....meet in person and wah wah wah...nothing! Btw..these winners are all old frat boys, clinging to their glory days and are attracted to only petite, super thin girls..every time!!! WTF? I don't get it!
You DO get it, you just stated it, 'these winners are all old frat boys, clinging to their glory days and are attracted to only petite, super thin girls..every time!!!'... You're not that girl, you're picking from a pool of wrong 'uns!!! Do yourself a favour and include a full body shot...0 -
Guys say stupid things. Sadly for some of those guys it's true for a select few.
When a guy says something hurtful like that to me I've used this line. "I see, clearly I accepted a date with some guy thinking he was a man. Have a nice day."
A real man wouldn't dump you just because of that. What jerks did that to you from here? That's just not right especially since they already know you're working towards a fitter healthier you! Just grrr... that makes me angry!
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No one is your soul mate if you haven't even met them yet.0
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When you're online dating, just say up front that you're overweight and working hard to change that. The shallow ones won't waste your time and you can spend your energy finding someone who wants to be with you for you.
This makes a lot of sense.
Sorry but for every overweight woman's "why don't men want to date me once they know I'm heavy?" posts, there is a man asking "why can't women be honest about their body type BEFORE I meet them?"
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I am so frustrated with men!! I am tired of them thinking I am their soul mate based on my fb profile pic, talking me to go out with them. Then when we meet, they realize I am a real 40 yr old , curvy girl and feel the need to tell me what I need to change to be worthy of their middle aged advances!. Third guy to say something to me like that! I've lost 30 and feeling good. I like my curves and guess what...some guys love my curves! This one guy that I went to school with messaged me and asked me for a full body shot, I said that I didn't know him, and he said..what did you get fat or something? Like I have to justify anything to him! Another guy friend of mine said that all guys want supermodels, but then they settle for what they can get. He told me that no one would ask me out if I was overweight, unless the guy had been turned down by the other thinner girls...and that thin wins over pretty every time! I swear, I'm gonna take them out!!! It messed with my head a bit. I felt like I gained 600 pounds immediately. I hate that I let some idiot(s) get to me. I have to remember that I'm doing this for me. To be healthy, and athletic again. And....I happen to know that's not true anyway. I've dated many guys,who were not pretending to be into me..they were INTO me! And heavier than I am now..I'm all done..sheesh!!!
I'm not going to lie, I only read the first line and that was enough. Stop trying to meet men through the internet!0 -
I've never had trouble with dating, even as a fairly overweight woman... maybe they just don't like you?
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REAL men like curves, dogs like bones
That old chestnut is ridiculous and has nasty connotations towards thinner women... Wise up!0 -
REAL men like curves, dogs like bones
That's super rude.0 -
If someone is looking for a specific body type, that someone needs to be a little bit better detective before going on the first date. You should probably make sure they see an honest photo of you before going out with them, as well. This has happened to you three times and you haven't learned your lesson on that?
I realize I sound like an a** here, but maybe stop doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome.0 -
You look great..and 40 is the new 30..
And stop meeting agreeing to meet guys off of FB..socially inept guys date from FB..you don't want to date a mouth breather or a momma's boy.
Lol!
You know, I think by the age of 40 people should be able to grow up and get past all the superficial b.s. You do NOT want to be with anyone that immature anyway. I say go do fun things where you can meet real life people! Chemistry!0 -
I hear you! I once went out with a guy who first insulted my boots and then made a note of how my shirt, "covered my problem areas."
I gave him the boot after that. I found someone who loves me despite my flaws and "problem areas." They are hard to find, but it's worth the wait.0 -
be proud of your curves real women have curves
And the ones that don't are obviously fake and not real....
I think you missed my point, men dont want stick figures we want women who have shape to them not to look like a plank of wood flat all over
Um, I'm sure that makes the naturally skinny women reading that feel just great about their body! Well done you.0 -
Wow, i'm actually surprised to hear that. IMO i think "where" you're finding these [jerks] might be part of the problem. I am all for internet dating, because it does work for many people... but maybe just not facebook?0
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This one guy that I went to school with messaged me and asked me for a full body shot, I said that I didn't know him, and he said..what did you get fat or something? Like I have to justify anything to him! Another guy friend of mine said that all guys want supermodels, but then they settle for what they can get. He told me that no one would ask me out if I was overweight, unless the guy had been turned down by the other thinner girls...and that thin wins over pretty every time!
Um, wow. That's just horrible. The two guys you referenced here sound like d-bags.
I would be LIVID if someone asked me for a full body shot. I am not a car, you don't need to see me from all angles before you consider a test drive. Yeesh.0 -
REAL men like curves, dogs like bones
That's just as stupid as insulting fat people.0 -
Girl, PM me let's talk.
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REAL men like curves, dogs like bones
Said no one ever.0 -
And stop meeting agreeing to meet guys off of FB..socially inept guys date from FB..you don't want to date a mouth breather or a momma's boy.
Bahahaaa!!! I love it!!!!0 -
Next time some guy tells you what you ought to be doing to "change" perhaps you could mention they need to change their attitude or their weight or their job or whatever to fit with the type of fellow YOU are looking for. Good for the goose as good for the gander.0
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As a fellow curvy gal, I say EMBRACE YOUR CURVES! I love mine, and I'm just working on enhancing them. I say, if someone doesn't like you based on outer appearance, tell them to go KICK ROCKS with open toe sandals on! It's really that simple. Don't worry, you'll meet that one amazing guy that will love and appreciate you just the way that you are. (I tell myself this on a daily basis).0
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I wasn't aware that "curvy" was a synonym for "overweight", I thought it was just a person's body shape...
But anyway, as another poster mentioned, be up front with your appearance, and you'll meet the kind of men who deserve your time. I know I'd be pretty put out if I met a guy online who didn't let on that he was noticeably overweight and then surprised me with a beer belly when I met him. I'm not saying you have a beer belly or anything, I don't know what your full body looks like, but you know what I mean. I guess I'm shallow since I'm not attracted to overweight men. Oh well.0 -
be proud of your curves real women have curves
Amen!!! This ^^
Some men can be shallow. Just be glad you see the real them on the first meeting so you don't have to waste anymore of your time.0 -
be proud of your curves real women have curves
Amen!!! This ^^
Some men can be shallow. Just be glad you see the real them on the first meeting so you don't have to waste anymore of your time.
Some men can be shallow? So can some women it seems.0
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