I'm everyone's soul mate, until they realize I'm curvy!

No one is your soul mate if you haven't even met them yet.

This!

Also, what kind of people are you adding on fb? I tend to keep mine pretty private and only add those I want to hear from. I have no issue denying a fr from someone I don't know or hardly know. So I don't end up with *kitten* on my list like this. At least not those I didn't already know were *kitten* and that's part of their charm. Guess I treat it differently. Did these guys really never give any indication?

After my divorce in 2006, I went through the same exact thing. Men telling me that they could fall in love with, we meet for dinner or a movie, and suprise, "you just are not my type." It destroyed my self-esteem. But, as time has gone by, I thank them for their ridiculousness....They were not my type. I prefer a man to love me for me, not the exterior package. My looks can change, their ugly personality flaws cannot!

Real women have vaginas. The end. Do any of you think before you type? Ever? Calling thin or fit women "bones/sticks/NOT WOMEN" is just as offensive as calling a fat woman 'rotund.'

God I think I love you.

I'll second that!

You should consider e-harmony lol, and not Facebook.

Also, FFS people! Unless you are 2 dimensional, you've got curves! Get the eff over it!

Dating is Like Baseball

What do I mean? Well, you play because you like to...well, you know what I mean. In baseball, even the best hitters are not successful in getting a hit the majority of the time. Some of the best averages are just getting a hit over thirty percent.
Finding your soul mate can be even a bit tougher, so if you strike out a bunch, keep your head high and your eye on your target. Be determined to not settle for something you're not looking for just because. Keep looking till you find what you really want. This is a life decision...and it's not meant to just toss it back to the pitcher...so choose your balls carefully (sorry, just can't help myself putting a little humor in here...you just have to know me...to love me).

Look, I can't speak for all men, but women do the same thing, just perhaps not in the same way (ladies, help me out here).

1. To the person who replied to you "Don't meet men/people through the internet" - I disagree completely with this. I've had the opportunity over the years to meet just a few people over the internet. All of them exceptional folks. I'm picky, but I've never met one that wasn't worth meeting. Most of them are still quality friends today. There are risks everywhere in life. You just have to be careful and get to know someone first.

2. Be honest - Most relationships (whether internet or in person) may start putting your best foot forward. We all know this. This is why it's important to get to know the person and let them / you open up and see how much they care to share with you. I want people in my life that are honest even when it's not pretty. I don't expect them to tell me everything in the beginning, but as we get to know eachother I want to feel like I can trust them with everything including my health, my parent's, and major life decisions.

3. Be Proud of who you are. If you're shy, you're shy. If you're quiet, you're quiet. At this point in your life you're an adult. You know (hopefully) a lot about yourself. Be honest with yourself and with others. If your profile photo keeps turning men on, but they don't come around when they see the curvy you, I know that hurts, and it doesn't make it right. However, to defend the jerks (and I hate doing this) - we all have an idea of what we want. We all know this. Yes, when we find our soul mate, it might not be an image we had, but it doesn't matter. If these guys are feeling like you are their soul mate, but change their mind, then clearly they are getting some idea that's very different from what they get when they meet you.

4. Photos: Body Shots: Looks: Superficial things - Part of the great thing about losing weight, getting into shape, etc...is not only are you making a healthier you - for you - and your life will be higher quality - you'll enjoy it better and that attitude will show.

I've seen and felt it myself. Part of the reason I started MFP is I was no longer feeling the looks of the opposite sex. I walked down the hall and felt I had melted into oblivion. When I was in high school and college and beyond that's not how it went. I was an athelete. I had lots of male and female friends. It's just the way it is. My personality didn't change. So what's up? Since MFP I can say things changed and I no longer feel like Casper the Ghost. I love the fact that guys from their mid 20's to 60's want to hang out, go to the gym, do Sprints or Mini-Tri's with me - and I now enjoy getting glances from the opposite sex. The glances I get now are not what I was seeing a year ago.

MFP has brought me very awesome friends and that special feeling. Keep looking, be honest, be proud and keep the faith. It's human nature to look for a particular thing that is your soul mate. You'll know it when you find it. In the meantime, let the rude ones go. Don't let them generalize about what men want. The gentleman (and I use that term losely) who tried to "fix" you just is uneducated, so feel sorry he doesn't know better. We can't "fix" others. We can only "fix" ourselves.

The person you seek is out there. Don't worry if you don't get a hit the majority of the time. Just play ball!

If they really felt like you were their soulmate they wouldn't try to change you, well i think we've all had instances like this... i LOVE my curves =D

there is a huge leap between liking someone on paper and actually being attracted to them in person. I have rejected men that I should have liked but the attraction wasnt there and vice versa, its frustrating when you have been single a while but not the end of the world. Ironically when I stopped worrying about being single and worried about getting on with my life, I ended up meeting someone amazing. Dont dwell on it, some people are just really bad at rejecting others, and resort to thoughtlessness, I would rather be told your too big for me than waste my time with someone that didnt have the balls to tell me and messed me about.

Meeting people in person after chatting online usually ends up in someone being disappointed. When you chat online, you fill in all the unknowns with your best possible imagined details. Try meeting people in real life and developing friendships/relationships based on what you can actually see and experience.

I have to say, there are men out there that will date you with your curves. My man saw me on a youtube video at my highest weight and he said he though to himself "What can I do in my life to deserve someone like that?" a year and a half later, we're together, and happy.

You are absolutely beautiful and you should be proud of what you've done! You'll find the right man who loves you, for you. Stay positive!

Btw..these winners are all old frat boys, clinging to their glory days and are attracted to only petite, super thin girls..every time!!! WTF? I don't get it!

So...if they are such jerks, why are you even talking to these guys? You don't HAVE to respond to anything anyone sends you on FB or any other site. Other thoughts:

A full body shot is fair and preferable if you truly are trying to meet people online. If you think the guy you're conversing with has a thing for "petite" women, be honest and let them know you're not. It's on them if they still want to meet up or not--everyone has personal preferences, just because a guy likes a particular body type doesn't make them shallow. If they don't want to get to know you because they don't like your body type, they're not worth your time.

Ever think that maybe your FB picture needs to be updated? I know I sound like a jerk but honestly if I posted what I looked like right out of basic training I wouldn't complain if they didn't get what they expected...40 pounds heavier now. Just for the record I'm also married and don't have to deal with all this internet date stuff so take my opinion lightly

With eyes like that I am surprised they noticed.. Btw Lots of men like curvy.

be proud of your curves real women have curves

Amen!!! This ^^

Some men can be shallow. Just be glad you see the real them on the first meeting so you don't have to waste anymore of your time.

Some men can be shallow? So can some women it seems.

so me saying I think women with curves look good makes me swallow?????

I just almost peed myself.

So if you're proud of your body and you feel good about yourself and you're not looking to change anything, why exactly does your Facebook have only pictures of your face, especially if you are using it to meet guys? It's not inappropriate to put pictures that go farther than your face on your FB. I feel like your behavior and your post don't add up. You're lying to somebody - I'll leave it up to you to decide whether it's the Internet or yourself.

I wouldn't call you out on this normally since it's really none of my business, but I feel like the fact that you're not being completely honest in this situation is the only thing causing this problem for you in the first place. I mean, you're mad that these guys are changing their minds when you don't live up to their expectations, but you're intentionally leaving things up to the imagination. If you posted full-body pictures on your Facebook, the guys who would disapprove won't even present themselves to you at all, and you wouldn't be having this problem.

Be honest. Be yourself. Love yourself. If you're looking for someone who wants and accepts you as you are, then you have to put the you that you want accepted out there for them to find.