Yes I AM fat!!!!!!

When my wife asks, "Does this make me look fat?" I always, ALWAYS say no.

We both know I'm fibbing, but saying yes would (as Maximus Decimus Meridius told us) "Unleash Hell!"

The thing we forget is that everyone see themselves differently to others.
We may see something different on the outside than we see on the inside.

My mum calls it 'body dis-morphia', she says I can't see what she can. I know I'm not overweight, but I'm not where I want to be.

I will support any friends who want to join me in changing their lifestyle, and those who don't, it's up to them, who am I to compare??

I think the thing is many times, I feel I am cornered by statement like that "oh, I am so fat" or "I wish I was pretty"...then what should I say? Nothing? suggestion please. :flowerforyou:

I also hate it when people tell me I'm not fat. I am. I might wear it well, but I am still overweight.

If someone says "I'm fat" and I know they are, I either say, "we should workout together" or I say, "Well, you look good regardless."

There are ways of being nice without dismissing what someone has to say.

I think the thing is many times, I feel I am cornered by statement like that "oh, I am so fat" or "I wish I was pretty"...then what should I say? Nothing? suggestion please. :flowerforyou:

In that situation, I say "you're crazy." You don't have to agree that they are fat/ugly AND you are telling them they are... well crazy because they probably are. lol

Smooth! thanks.

When my wife asks, "Does this make me look fat?" I always, ALWAYS say no.

We both know I'm fibbing, but saying yes would (as Maximus Decimus Meridius told us) "Unleash Hell!"

My husband is brutally honest. He would never say "yes" to that question, but he is quick to say, "that shirt isn't flattering" or "do you have something else you can wear?"

My husband never thinks I am fat but he will say right to my face if he doesn't like an outfit.

LOL! HOWEVER, when a skinny *kitten* girl says "oh Im fat!' punch her..... okay only kidding, sort of.... I however, have never considered myself fat by any means. chunky maybe but I thought there was a difference... oh how wrong was i.... so when I was told I am fat, and MADE my best friend confirm it for me, oh that wasn't a pretty sight either!

Lmao! Right!

When people say this to me (The "oh you are not fat" or "there is nothing wrong with the way you look") I think "really?!"

Of course, I fully believe people use "you are fat" as a pejorative, specifically designed to cause hurt to the person it's being hurled at, because even when I was thin; people, especially angry Women, would call me "fat girl." Seesh...I got to where I would think and occasionally say "That's the best you can do, call me fat?!"

As a wise (fictional) Lawyer once told his daughter..."it's never an insult to be called what someone *else* thinks is a bad name." (emphasis mine)

Oh, and yeah, I agree with the replies about guys being basically clueless about women's sizing...the two men in my life who have ever bought me clothes had to get help from their mom. :~)

-pennie

PS - the *only* reason I care about my weight is for my heart. This heavy is not good for it.

Why do you disrespect yourself by going und telling everyone you're fat?? That's crazy. If you're fat, others do know it. Also, stop complaining about it and use that energy to do something about it.

To op. I don't find it disrespectful, more honest and refreshing

I also can appreciate honesty. I don't think your telling everyone but maybe 1/2 people you feel comfortable talking too. Having someone that you can tell Yes I'm fat but I'm trying is really helpful. It also bothers me when store change the size of big girls clothing. Why change the size to a 0,1,2,3,4 . I look just plain crazy saying I'm a size 1.

I've found the best response to "oh, you're not fat" responses (when I call myself fat, which I do), is to simply smile and say, "thank you, but from a medical standpoint, I am/but my scale disagrees/that's very kind of you." They're lying to save face for me, and I have no problem thanking them for good intentions, and either stating my disagreement or letting it stand, depending on what's appropriate under the circumstances. It's not important enough to get upset over.

At 100 lb overweight, I have no illusions about my fatness status, and I've learned to be matter-of-fact about it - I know it's not my whole definition, but it's an applicable term like agnostic, educated, disorganized, hard-working, or political, career, or other terminology. I've got no problem admitting what I am, since none of it, by itself, defines ME.

top ten things you NEVER ask a lady
10. when are you due?
9. did you get your hair cut?
8. does this outfit make your butt look big?
6. would you like your own order of fries this time?
5. is that a salad or a rhump roast dear?
4. are you related to Oprah?
3. didn't I see you in a circus once?
2. what color are your boobs and how big are your eyes?
::drumroll:: .............wait for it.....
1. are you just fat or are you expecting twins????

Couldn't agree more. Every Time I acknowledge the fact that I am "Fat" people say "Don't say that." or "I hate when you talk about yourself like that." I just got tired of not speaking the fact or sugar coating it. The fact is I am fat and as long as it doesn't bother me to say it it shouldn't bother them to hear it.

Instead of demanding the world comply with your required response, how about not putting people in an awkward position in the first place by saying it? People are trying to be kind to you, get over it.

Yeah I'm fat. When I say so, my favorite response is something along the lines of "Don't beat yourself up about it. You're working hard to change it and over time it will change. You gotta stay positive."

Usually if i'm commenting on my weight, it's because i'm really feeling down about the fact that I AM fat. Encouraging words that I'm doing the right thing is what cheers me up.