Single at 33..why?

I'll be 31 in November. College grad, never married, no children. I have mixed reviews with some of the women I dated. I did make mistakes with some. Unavoidable/unfortunate circumstances have ended other relationships. Others, I couldn't run away fast enough.

In any event, I am not in a rush to start a relationship because of age. When it happens, I'll embrace it.

The same will happen with you. Just give it time. :-)

I've been single 4 times.

Unilt I was 22. Then 23 to 27. Then 29 to 33. Then 36 to 38.

I just turned 27 a couple weeks ago, and then was a bridesmaid in a friends wedding this past weekend. It was both her and the grooms second wedding and she is just a couple months younger than me and he is 29. Seeing them both going for their second try when I have not managed to make it that far even once does make me question myself at times, but then I try to remember the good things about remaining single. Plus I am kinda picky about men and really do not want to settle for something less than I want just because I feel left behind.

^^^^ THIS.
exactly why i'm still single (no kids but want them) and will be 29 in less than a month. i feel your pain, but i'd rather be single and never married at 29 than on my 2nd marriage. i'm picky too, but settling is the WORST thing you could do!

I just saw another post on how a girl is finally getting attention due to her losing weight. Yeah guys are shallow. So looks like I'm going to be single too.

i personally don't really like the term "settling", as all too often people use it as the definition for allowing yourself to be with someone who doesn't check all your boxes.

to be honest, i probably had maybe 5 "qualifications" that a guy had to have before i would consider him marriage material.

my husband met ONE of them: that i couldn't picture the rest of my life without him.

Someday, someone will come along that makes it absolutely crystal clear why it never worked out with anyone else.

Hold your standards high. He's out there looking for you.

I'm 29, and only started dating my boyfriend 9 months ago. He is 38 - never been married, no kids, etc. Sometimes you just have to wait until you find the right one.

Sometimes you wonder how you could be single and unmarried at 33. It's really depressing, bec I know I am a good perosn, but I can't seem to find a good man. I date the musican types, and they have proven to not make good boyfriends. And my man wants me to meet a good Christian/BA Degree/smart/good job etc. and I told her most of them are married by my age. And all the good men are taken.

Sucks becuase everyone my age in the church are all married with kids. I feel like there's something majorly wrong with me. Any thoughts/comments/suggestions?

just be thankful for small mercies. nothing worse than being 33 and trapped in a terrible relationship.

i personally don't really like the term "settling", as all too often people use it as the definition for allowing yourself to be with someone who doesn't check all your boxes.

to be honest, i probably had maybe 5 "qualifications" that a guy had to have before i would consider him marriage material.

my husband met ONE of them: that i couldn't picture the rest of my life without him.

^^same here. I met my husband at a bar and we were friends for awhile before he got the nerve to try and see if it could go further.
I was uninterested, uninterested in breaking his heart, too. I really didn't think we'd go far. We celebrated our 10th anniversary last April. We still have very little in common but we make it work. I don't feel like I settled at all.

I'm single at 26... It's weird. I feel this whole clock-ticking thing since everyone around me is getting married and having babies. Yet I still feel young and not ready to get married.

Woman.. I am 37 and single..never married and no kids. Some of us are just smart enough to wait for the right person to come along than to just settle. That is all..you are in that category with me.

A lot of people get married for the wrong reasons and then they are stuck and unhappy....feel blessed you are not one of them.

I date...I have fun...and at some point one of those men is going to be the right guy for me. Until then, I enjoy my life. I have great friends..a WONDERFUL family..and I don't worry too much about it.

I know I have a lot to give the right man. He has to aceept me and my eccentricities..as I will accept him...I just haven't found the right guy to run in the wild. Most men want to try and tame the animal....

Just keep being awesome and it will happen.....

^THIS^

My best friend is 25, is in the middle of her second, yes, SECOND divorce, and she has a one year old little girl. She settled way too fast with the first guy, and made the same mistake with the second. Point in saying this? It's better to be single and be able to embrace it and enjoy it, than to be at an age where you're going through divorce, stuck in a bad relationship, etc. Just live life, be happy, and when you least expect it, someone will come along. I know that's cliche to say, but it's honestly the truth.

I was married for nearly 8 years and my husband went to Heaven. I raise my children, who are in their teens now, for 10 + years by myself. I wondered and prayed about marriage again...

Proverbs 18:22 says, HE who finds a good wife, whose soul is good for his own, finds a good thing and favor, blessings, in the eyes of God. That meant I was to be found not to go hunting.

When I let God be in charge, my husband to be found me. And he found me in the least expected place! HERE!!! lol!!! I wasn't looking and he did find me on a mutual friends page. lol!!!

And he is everything that I could every want in a husband for me and a daddy for my children! And more!!!!

Let God take care of you. Focus on being who you want to find you. If you want a loving and kind man then be loving and kind. If you want him to be in good shape be in good shape. You will attract what you are, so become what you want.

I never looked for a man in church. like you said, they're all married or not what I want. God knows. He brought me a man who is indeed my soulmate and the best man for me!

PS. DO NOT LOWER YOUR STANDARDS!!!! God has someone just for you!!! If you have a list (Habukkuk 2:2 says to write it down) of qualities you desire in your husband, read it daily and become that in who you are! I wanted a man who is stronger than me so I became strong and fit!

Not all of the good men are taken.

My reply is with a question: Why not? Don't be in a hurry. It will happen when you aren't expecting it.
(yes, I'm single, 45 and LOVING IT) Better to be single and happy then married and unhappy. I can attest to both.