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Moofey2
Moofey2 Posts: 327 Member
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A girl can be the most awesome chick ever but when a guy finds out she doesn't have sex he overlooks her. Am I the only one who gets overlooked?
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  • know_your_worth
    know_your_worth Posts: 481 Member
    I can see that. I can understand it to an extent.
    With stuff like this though, I just look at it as: those two people aren't right for each other.

    There are guys who will accept it and respect the fact. Actually, I know a few guys who feel the same. It all depends on the person.
  • bunchesonothing
    bunchesonothing Posts: 1,015 Member
    I can see that. I can understand it to an extent.
    With stuff like this though, I just look at it as: those two people aren't right for each other.

    There are guys who will accept it and respect the fact. Actually, I know a few guys who feel the same. It all depends on the person.

    Agreed.
  • DetroitDarin
    DetroitDarin Posts: 955 Member
    I'd be okay with that 20 years ago. Now I'm pushing 40 and don't have time to wait around to see if the woman would like making-the-sexy with me.

    If things fit (no pun intended) just let things go as fast as they go (no pun intended). None of this "I'm saving myself' stuff...great in highschool. Not good at this stage.
  • Vince_1964
    Vince_1964 Posts: 359 Member
    Sorry to hear that you get overlooked because of that. I say good for you - stick to your convictions!
  • lilawolf
    lilawolf Posts: 1,690 Member
    Wait. Doesn't have sex EVER? Or just not right away? Or on the first date?
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    Why don't you have sex? The problem isn't that guys can't wait until you are in a committed relationship. The issue is if you got married, would it be bad or boring sex? Once a month? Never allowed to see you naked? Too risky. I could wait for a month or three but after that, its time to put out or find someone new.
  • Cassie8877
    Cassie8877 Posts: 177
    Wait. Doesn't have sex EVER? Or just not right away? Or on the first date?

    ^^ thats my question too lol...
  • jtslim42
    jtslim42 Posts: 240
    I'd be okay with that 20 years ago. Now I'm pushing 40 and don't have time to wait around to see if the woman would like making-the-sexy with me.

    If things fit (no pun intended) just let things go as fast as they go (no pun intended). None of this "I'm saving myself' stuff...great in highschool. Not good at this stage.
    LOL! Love this:flowerforyou:
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    Sorry to hear that you get overlooked because of that. I say good for you - stick to your convictions!
    lol, and become the neighborhood cat lady.....
  • Marc713
    Marc713 Posts: 328 Member
    I think it actually has more with the intent of both people. If you are dating with the intent to start a committed, monogamous relationship, then it’s ok to wait.

    The last girl I had feelings for, we both wanted to take things slow and we did. We fooled around pretty heavy, and even got naked, there just wasn’t any home runs. The self-control added to a lot of the attraction in my opinion. For me, I’m looking for that type of relationship and don’t mind waiting…for a while. That’s not to say I would be up for waiting for marriage…but I would definitely be up for waiting until we can both honestly look one another in the eyes and tell each other we love each other and mean it whole-heartedly. I’ve had my wild crazy fun, and I’m glad to have made it thru them and still be disease free….I’m actually at the point now where I’d rather wait, get to know someone, and ask them to share blood test results…because when you know your partner is clean, you can really get freaky and have some awesome peace of mind. Because guess what folks, it’s not like when you go fishing, you can’t just throw it back once you catch it!

    Now, on the flip side, both men and women date with no intention of having a commitment, so they are the ones that likely want to hop in the sack soon.

    Just remember, eating and exercise isn't the only health you folks need to look out for....be safe in the sack too!
  • Danielle_2013
    Danielle_2013 Posts: 806 Member
    To each their own. You just need to find someone who is either also interested in waiting, has similar convictions or a low sex drive. He's out there. In fact.. can I introduce you to my ex?
  • gshoemaker06
    gshoemaker06 Posts: 264 Member
    We need way more information. You might be hyping yourself up if you think you're the most amazing chick ever.

    Not saying you are, but you might be using the no-sex thing as an excuse. Maybe you have bad breath?
  • Marc713
    Marc713 Posts: 328 Member
    Sorry to hear that you get overlooked because of that. I say good for you - stick to your convictions!
    lol, and become the neighborhood cat lady.....

    http://dudelol.com/img/the-crazy-cat-lady-starter-kit-is-here.jpg
  • GlutesthatSalute
    GlutesthatSalute Posts: 460 Member
    I think it actually has more with the intent of both people. If you are dating with the intent to start a committed, monogamous relationship, then it’s ok to wait.

    The last girl I had feelings for, we both wanted to take things slow and we did. We fooled around pretty heavy, and even got naked, there just wasn’t any home runs. The self-control added to a lot of the attraction in my opinion. For me, I’m looking for that type of relationship and don’t mind waiting…for a while. That’s not to say I would be up for waiting for marriage…but I would definitely be up for waiting until we can both honestly look one another in the eyes and tell each other we love each other and mean it whole-heartedly. I’ve had my wild crazy fun, and I’m glad to have made it thru them and still be disease free….I’m actually at the point now where I’d rather wait, get to know someone, and ask them to share blood test results…because when you know your partner is clean, you can really get freaky and have some awesome peace of mind. Because guess what folks, it’s not like when you go fishing, you can’t just throw it back once you catch it!

    Now, on the flip side, both men and women date with no intention of having a commitment, so they are the ones that likely want to hop in the sack soon.

    Just remember, eating and exercise isn't the only health you folks need to look out for....be safe in the sack too!


    LOVE all of this =)
  • iFeelBrandNew
    iFeelBrandNew Posts: 263 Member
    i think intentions depend a lot on how you carry yourself as well... meaning, first impressions are super important. if you look like you're easy well....
  • Fatal1ty2k5
    Fatal1ty2k5 Posts: 333 Member
    No sex? Lolwut. Yea I understand no sex 1st date or 1st couple etc but if you flat out told me never or not until married etc. NEXT

    Might as well spend my free time playing bingo down at the retirement home.


    Im not hating or your decision to abstain just sayin
  • DesignGuy
    DesignGuy Posts: 457 Member
    zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

    #theend
  • sillygoose1977
    sillygoose1977 Posts: 2,151 Member
    Wait. I thought you were dating some guy with kids. So how are you overlooked? Maybe post some more cryptic threads and we can figure out your drama.
  • CarleyLovesPets
    CarleyLovesPets Posts: 410 Member
    I've been dating for a few months and yep this happens to me.
    As soon as they find out that I am not easy - a lot of them lose interest.
    It takes a lot for me to actually have sex with you, I'm a classy girl.
    Incredibly annoying but I would rather them walk then date a guy like that anyways.
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    Are you sure you aren't sending mixed messages? That can make guys pass you by as well....
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    You'd really have to very upfront about your convictions, and if they weren't interested move on.
    It's something you can't take too personally because in the dating world, sex is pretty common.

    In fact people who aren't even dating(or don't even like eachother) may be having it.

    Nothing wrong with chosing to abstain. It will greatly narrow your choices but that's ok. Whomever still wanted to date you would probably have similar thoughts on the issue.

    SO you know they aren't slinging that D around like hashbrowns.
  • Cassie8877
    Cassie8877 Posts: 177
    Wait. I thought you were dating some guy with kids. So how are you overlooked? Maybe post some more cryptic threads and we can figure out your drama.

    HAHAHAHA
  • elprincipito
    elprincipito Posts: 1,200 Member
    it depends on what you define as "sex".
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Oh, look. It's you again. :yawn:
  • diadojikohei
    diadojikohei Posts: 732 Member
    Seriously, I waited like ages, (he wanted to) got engaged, got married, have to say compared to other boyfriends it's absolutely awful, always has been. But in the mean time we became really good friends, but I have to say I grit my teeth for the ''you know what'' and for the last 6 years we've not done it at all. I mean it was really awful, I felt like a prostitute, once it was over, he would roll over and go to sleep, no cuddling, nothing.

    Test drive your man first, would be my advice.
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    Oh, look. It's you again. :yawn:
    /thread
  • sobriquet84
    sobriquet84 Posts: 607 Member
    you're only 22.

    if a guy doesn't like you because you don't put out, then fck him.

    but you might want to change your profile pic if you're saying you don't want that kind of attention.

    just sayin.
  • Daisy_Cutter
    Daisy_Cutter Posts: 774
    zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

    #theend

    Does that mean you're so good in bed you make your girls fall asleep? ;-)
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    Oh, look. It's you again. :yawn:

    Winner winner winner
  • ChristyRunStarr
    ChristyRunStarr Posts: 1,600 Member
    Test drive your man first, would be my advice.


    :laugh: :laugh: love it!
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