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I stopped talking to a girl recently who thinks sex is ONLY for creating children and otherwise is disgusting and useless, she wasn't even religious. Great girl, but that's a massive deal breaker.
Agree this is over the top, and even if she was religious, the Bible very clearly contradicts the idea that sex is only for procreation.
But I do want to be clear that preferring to wait before becoming sexually involved with someone does not mean that the person in question doesn't enjoy sex. I consider myself a very sexual person. I also know that sex is not just a physical act for me and that there would absolutely be emotional repercussions to sleeping with a guy who then walks away. It's not about making him "earn" anything. It's about knowing and protecting myself. I am #1 on my list of priorities, and I am not sorry about it.0 -
Seriously, I waited like ages, (he wanted to) got engaged, got married, have to say compared to other boyfriends it's absolutely awful, always has been. But in the mean time we became really good friends, but I have to say I grit my teeth for the ''you know what'' and for the last 6 years we've not done it at all. I mean it was really awful, I felt like a prostitute, once it was over, he would roll over and go to sleep, no cuddling, nothing.
Test drive your man first, would be my advice.
6 years? LOL...you may not have done it in all that time, but he's almost certainly getting it elsewhere.
WTF?? Ladies be honest and open and tell him. Women are supposed to be great communicators, but you keep this quiet?Keeping quiet doesn't solve anything. Criticize, explain, teach.
Sit him down and say 'Honey I have a problem with your lovemaking. It's really not very good.'
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What this guy said.I think it actually has more with the intent of both people. If you are dating with the intent to start a committed, monogamous relationship, then it’s ok to wait.
The last girl I had feelings for, we both wanted to take things slow and we did. We fooled around pretty heavy, and even got naked, there just wasn’t any home runs. The self-control added to a lot of the attraction in my opinion. For me, I’m looking for that type of relationship and don’t mind waiting…for a while. That’s not to say I would be up for waiting for marriage…but I would definitely be up for waiting until we can both honestly look one another in the eyes and tell each other we love each other and mean it whole-heartedly. I’ve had my wild crazy fun, and I’m glad to have made it thru them and still be disease free….I’m actually at the point now where I’d rather wait, get to know someone, and ask them to share blood test results…because when you know your partner is clean, you can really get freaky and have some awesome peace of mind. Because guess what folks, it’s not like when you go fishing, you can’t just throw it back once you catch it!
Now, on the flip side, both men and women date with no intention of having a commitment, so they are the ones that likely want to hop in the sack soon.
Just remember, eating and exercise isn't the only health you folks need to look out for....be safe in the sack too!
I don't complain about getting passed up by guys because I won't sleep with them because we're not right for one another. I don't want to be with those guys any more than they want to be with me. If we're after two different things, there's no point in him trying to get me into bed and there's no point in me trying to get him to make a commitment. Done. Move on. Find someone who is looking for the same thing.
And I know it's very funny to people, the whole blood test thing, but I am fully prepared to take any one that I'm going to have sex with down to the clinic, get STD tested, and talk about "family planning" and what is right for the two of us. I think it's the responsible thing to do. I don't want to get an STD and I certainly don't want to get pregnant, so I'm not taking any chances.0 -
Any guy who says he CAN'T wait really just means he doesn't WANT to wait. It's not like his penis is going to fall off if he's not getting it regularly. If he's willing to walk away because you're not ready for sex, he wasn't going to stick around through any of the real problems anyway.
Just not true.
I'm not saying that people aren't players, but...
A man is just as entitled to deciding what he wants out of his relationships as a woman is. He can decide just how important it is and what some of his priorities are. Perhaps one of his priorities is that he and a woman he is with are on the same page sexually. This is an important thing for a relationship. Sexual health is also one of those things that CAN be tied to a sense of personal well-being. No one has a right to force someone into a situation that makes them unhappy or unsatisfied because they think they're just so awesome. So, people with specific needs/wants ought to seek out people that have similar ones or someone that they think are worth working these issues out for. At the beginning of these relationships, honestly, do we know who these people are, really? Upon first glance? Or first discussion? Probably not, in most cases.0 -
Just a question.. So if you're going to restrict some aspect of a relationship that is clearly important to the majority of potential partners, what important traits are you willing to go without? Would you give up security? Emotional support? Hugs and kisses? Monogamy?
What if a guy decided he was going to restrict one of those, or some other aspect that was important to you in a life partner - simply for the reasons of "proving your willing"? Would this be acceptable to you?
I didn't think so.
Men are sexual creatures. Its important to us and to our relationships. And women have their requirements too. They want a good man who can provide security, emotional support, and be good partners and fathers to their children, etc. Anybody who is going to make a such a demand from their partner better be prepared to make some sacrifices themselves. Stop with the hypocrisy. If you love somebody you want to make them happy. You don't make them "prove themselves" by denying something that is clearly important to them, while demanding everything you need from them at the same time.
I hate to say it but you deserve to get passed up, and its not about what you're asking. Its the grounds upon which you are asking it. Have fun being single.0 -
Wait. I thought you were dating some guy with kids. So how are you overlooked? Maybe post some more cryptic threads and we can figure out your drama.
I said I was just talking with one and he kind of wanted to over look me because of it.0 -
^LMAO!!!!These are great threads to find out who is willing to put out.
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I'd be okay with that 20 years ago. Now I'm pushing 40 and don't have time to wait around to see if the woman would like making-the-sexy with me.
If things fit (no pun intended) just let things go as fast as they go (no pun intended). None of this "I'm saving myself' stuff...great in highschool. Not good at this stage.
LOL but yeah, ^^this.0 -
Sorry to hear that you get overlooked because of that. I say good for you - stick to your convictions!
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You're not being overlooked. You're being rejected as a potential partner because your core values differ from those of the guy in question. He was saving you both a lot of time and frustration. You are now both free to pursue relationships with other people whose values are in sync with your own.0
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This too!You're not being overlooked. You're being rejected as a potential partner because your core values differ from those of the guy in question. He was saving you both a lot of time and frustration. You are now both free to pursue relationships with other people whose values are in sync with your own.
Funny story: This guy that I went out with for like two weeks 8 years ago recently contacted me. Back then, we split up quickly because he wasn't ready for a relationship and I wasn't willing to sleep with him. Mutual break up, no big deal. Now he says he misses me, he was a fool to let me go, and he was such a dumb *kitten*. What you said is exactly what I intend to tell him if he keeps up this sort of talk. He may have been a dumb *kitten* (he was a sex fiend and a burn out who lived to toke up and watch Lord of The Rings movies, so in that respect, yeah maybe he was a dumb *kitten*) but breaking up was not a dumb *kitten* move. We clearly were not right for one another. We probably still aren't, but if he's only interested in staying in touch and being friends, I see no need to bring that up.
PS: I love your silver unicorn. He's very majestic.0 -
Have to agree, at your age you should keep to your own mind. If its not what you want then to hell with them, there will be somone out there that is happy to be with you and wait. good for you I say, too many people just jump from one be dot another these days.Sorry to hear that you get overlooked because of that. I say good for you - stick to your convictions!0 -
I'd rather be overlooked by the guy who is only looking for sex. Stimulate my mind, man. Make me laugh. Let me know you are worth MY time. Sexuality isn't just about intercourse, ya' know.0
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I get overlooked because I'm fat and ugly. Even putting out doesn't work. :laugh:0
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I get overlooked because I'm fat and ugly. Even putting out doesn't work. :laugh:
You got to be fu$&*($^%*(& with me! BAHAHAHAHA! Ya'll are just a mess! You can't make this stuff up. It's like all the humor has been stored in our fat cells and then we start losing weight and all the funny just starts bubbling to the top.0 -
My advice.. just stop posting topics forever.
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If you're being overlooked by "guys" who don't like that you aren't having sex then they weren't worth your time anyways...someday a man will come along who respects you and values you for who you are and cherishes that you aren't sleeping around! You're so worth the wait so don't sweat it!!
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Just like chivalry is at an all time low to non-existent....virtue in a woman is overlooked or not valued anymore...sadly!0
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I'm 27 and I used to have "relations" (at work so trying to not give IT too much to talk about). I got back into church and until I get into another committed relationship, I do not plan on having "relations" again. AND if I get into the committed relationship, then I may just wait until marriage. It's the point that the RIGHT guy will RESPECT this. As you can tell, some of these guys don't respect that decision... and that's ok.... they just aren't for you. I wrote this, this morning:
"Just listened to the radio and heard a woman call in and explain on a segment that she went a year of dating without receiving or sending texts with potential people she dated. I love this concept! It is so easy for people to be lazy in dating.
Ladies and gentlemen, we get what we expect for ourselves. If you want higher caliber of people to date, THEN EXPECT MORE! You DESERVE the best! You ARE the best you! Even with your weight loss, and where you are RIGHT NOW, makes you the BEST YOU! The RIGHT person will see that!
If you want phone calls instead of texts, then demand it! If you want someone who opens doors for you, then demand it! If you want actual courting and not just flings, then demand it! If you are looking for the RIGHT person, and not just A person, then expect more from potential datees, and enjoy the ride;... but cut the ride short, if it's not what you want. Everyone has a different path... this is my path at this time. I demand more! I deserve more!
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You're not going to be the neighborhood cat lady. Don't let people get you down. At the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and no one else. Do what is right for you!
Absolutely love this! I agree! I have a 21yr old daughter and tell her all the time that just because a guy shows interest doesn't mean he deserves your time. Don't settle for anything but the BEST!!!!!!0 -
I'd rather be overlooked by the guy who is only looking for sex. Stimulate my mind, man. Make me laugh. Let me know you are worth MY time. Sexuality isn't just about intercourse, ya' know.
Well - I prefer a woman who lets me know I'm worth HER time. If I stimulate her mind (I will, i'm great at that), if I make her laugh (I'm awesome at that), and if I am physically attractive to her (I...uh...well..jury is still out), I expect her to feel what I'm feeling.
I will, under NO circumstances, waste MY time with a woman who has an easy time resisting me sexually if all the other aspects are there.
Sexuality is purely based on those activities one chooses to engage in; those actions in a sexual nature.
Intimacy, however - Intimacy is about a woman knocking down her f'ing walls and distance and killing off emotional unavailability LONG enough for her to recognize what a sweetheart of a man is doing with her - how he is respecting her soul and her heart after or before - but best before-during-and-after he wallops that poor cervix.
It's holistic - a good relationship. Strike that - I've lied. A GREAT relationship, which is the only kind worth having if one seeks true connection, is a relationship encompassing every aspect of friendship - but not based on friendship first; a friendship-first based relationship is the death blow to passion - attraction, desire, passion, and one other thing I'm keeping secret.
Cheers.
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so... much.. irony...0
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You can if you roll it up into a tube. I mean, not my college degree specifically, you keep your penis away from that, but in general, you can definitely put your penis into a tube shaped piece of paper if you've rolled it to the appropriate size.i cant put my penis in your college degree0 -
My advice.. just stop posting topics forever.
PLEASE.0 -
You can if you roll it up into a tube. I mean, not my college degree specifically, you keep your penis away from that, but in general, you can definitely put your penis into a tube shaped piece of paper if you've rolled it to the appropriate size.i cant put my penis in your college degree
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I'm 27 and I used to have "relations" (at work so trying to not give IT too much to talk about). I got back into church and until I get into another committed relationship, I do not plan on having "relations" again. AND if I get into the committed relationship, then I may just wait until marriage. It's the point that the RIGHT guy will RESPECT this. As you can tell, some of these guys don't respect that decision... and that's ok.... they just aren't for you. I wrote this, this morning:
"Just listened to the radio and heard a woman call in and explain on a segment that she went a year of dating without receiving or sending texts with potential people she dated. I love this concept! It is so easy for people to be lazy in dating.
Ladies and gentlemen, we get what we expect for ourselves. If you want higher caliber of people to date, THEN EXPECT MORE! You DESERVE the best! You ARE the best you! Even with your weight loss, and where you are RIGHT NOW, makes you the BEST YOU! The RIGHT person will see that!
If you want phone calls instead of texts, then demand it! If you want someone who opens doors for you, then demand it! If you want actual courting and not just flings, then demand it! If you are looking for the RIGHT person, and not just A person, then expect more from potential datees, and enjoy the ride;... but cut the ride short, if it's not what you want. Everyone has a different path... this is my path at this time. I demand more! I deserve more!"
You're not going to be the neighborhood cat lady. Don't let people get you down. At the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and no one else. Do what is right for you!
Truth. There's only one way to get what you want. Anyone who suggests that you lower your standards is simply seeking company in their misery.0 -
You can if you roll it up into a tube. I mean, not my college degree specifically, you keep your penis away from that, but in general, you can definitely put your penis into a tube shaped piece of paper if you've rolled it to the appropriate size.i cant put my penis in your college degree
gingerjen is the most awesome human being ever. ha!!0 -
You win today's Dumbest Post of the day award. Congratulations, this is a huge honor.0
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You can if you roll it up into a tube. I mean, not my college degree specifically, you keep your penis away from that, but in general, you can definitely put your penis into a tube shaped piece of paper if you've rolled it to the appropriate size.i cant put my penis in your college degree
Hmmm
One paper cut and he could bleed out since all his blood would be...nvm...0 -
Sweet! I'm going to print this out, frame it, and hang it on the wall next to my college degree.
You can if you roll it up into a tube. I mean, not my college degree specifically, you keep your penis away from that, but in general, you can definitely put your penis into a tube shaped piece of paper if you've rolled it to the appropriate size.i cant put my penis in your college degree
gingerjen is the most awesome human being ever. ha!!0
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