Single at 33..why?

Hang in there. I didn't meet the love of my life until I was 44 and he was so worth the wait. I, too, dated musicians and crappy guys until one day I decided I needed to figure out why i kept going after the unavailable men. Just about the time I figured it out, I met my husband.

Musicians and crappy guys... Aren't they one and the same?

We should get a bunch of single ladies together on a tropical island somewhere so we can all embrace being single, happy and on a beach!


Anyone??

Bump. I find this topic fascinating. OP: You are correct, you do have all those qualities and more.
Thank you for asking these questions, it got many of us wondering about our future. :flowerforyou:

Let's Do Some Math...
(the good news is the gap is closing.. The first time I ran these numbers it was more dramatic.)

Starting with the premises...
1) 49% is male and 51% of the population is female
2) 9% of the male population is gay and 5% of the female population is gay. (1993 janus survey)

Straight Male Population: 49% minus 9% = 44.59% of total population
Straight Female Population: 51% minus 5% = 48.45% of total population

Ratio of Straight Men to Straight Women 9:10

Yes, that is 9 straight men for every 10 straight women.
And that is if just anyone would do.
You might want to weed out axe murderers, drug addicts, and wife beaters


Hmm?

Maybe it was foolish to spend 26 years in NYC?



Definitely want to stay away from ...


Hmm? Aim for the dark blue patches.

I grew up in an area where people marry young, sometimes even before graduating high school. Then I went to a college where one of the most popular majors is Marriage, Family, and Human Development and a huge emphasis is put on finding a mate before graduation. I bought into it big time and ended up engaged at 19 to a male person (man is not the right word) who abused me in every way imaginable because he was the only one who was interested in me. Luckily I came to my senses and got out, but I spent the rest of my college career looking for a husband instead of a degree and had no luck with either. I stayed single more or less for the next decade, went to nursing school and got a decent job, then ended up dating another guy who was all wrong for me because no one else was interested. When I finally got out of that relationship, I poked around a few dating sites hoping to make friends and go from there, and I met my fiance within a couple months. Everything happens in its own time, and it sounds trite but patience is the only way to avoid crappy relationships in the meantime.

P.S. I'm 32.

christianmingles.com ..... they are single Christian.. Never personally been on this site, but I know people have major success finding love there.

What do you call a bass player without a girlfriend?

Homeless...


(Seems like a gratuitous joke, but there is a lesson in there too.)

In my experience this has been soooo true. I don't date musicians and specifically have forbidden my daugther to date drummers lol

samesies, single at 28. sometimes I'm curious as to why, then I examine the facts: I work with all women, sell products to women. I do not drink or go out. At the gym I am there for a purpose. I have also received feedback that "I look high maintenance" stems back to what I do for a living. PLUS, it feels good to look good life is an adventure, and to be honest I'm not really worried about it. I'll meet him, when I meet him. I agree that I should make some sort of effort though. Where do you meet these people anyways???? hahaha

sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and are very self aware. I think youll do completely fine

Sometimes you wonder how you could be single and unmarried at 33. It's really depressing, bec I know I am a good perosn, but I can't seem to find a good man. I date the musican types, and they have proven to not make good boyfriends. And my man wants me to meet a good Christian/BA Degree/smart/good job etc. and I told her most of them are married by my age. And all the good men are taken.

Sucks becuase everyone my age in the church are all married with kids. I feel like there's something majorly wrong with me. Any thoughts/comments/suggestions?

Well I'm also 33 & still single. I don't really get it why we are being pressured to get married whenever we hit the big 3-0. I was in a taxi cab this morning & had a conversation with the driver who also told me that I should get married. In this day & age, there's no need to rush things especially with the ongoing financial crisis. Being married doesn't just about being emotionally ready but also it involves being financially & mentally ready.

Its better to be single & happy while waiting for the right time & man than to be married but miserable with the wrong guy. In the meantime enjoy all the pleasures that single life has to offer while you still can. Life will be completely different once you're settled down & with kids. Its easier to enter into marriage but very difficult to get out of it.

EDIT: 33 is still very young, don't ever think that you're old enough. And age is just a number, if you think you're old then guess what, you're right. What really matters is having a positive attitude towards yourself no matter how old you are. That together with being happy will attract a lot of people. Also note that a lot of Hollywood actors & actresses are still single even at 40+.

Like you, i used to date musician types and i was engaged to one! but it took me a while to wake up to the fact that they were freeloading off me (and cheating) I ditched him, and STOPPED LOOKING altogether. I just learned more about myself, what i liked to do, who i was. I became genuinely happy being single and then BAM!!!! Along came the love of my life!!!

Stop looking. Focus on YOU!

Jx