Single at 33..why?

princessage117

I know it sounds so cliche but stop looking for a guy and take care of you, then you will find one and stay away from the musicians!

DREXENDELSANGRE

Not saying its for everyone, but I met my wife of 6 years on Match.com. I was very fortunate.

HisChild2011

I understand how you feel OP. 32, single, 1 child. But after wasting several years of my life with a person who was never qualified to be in my life in the first place, I'd much rather be alone. And I also know the church pressure when you are one of the few singles. We just have to focus on what we have vs. what we don't have. I know women much older than us and still single. Don't postpone your happiness for marriage cuz its out of your control. Find other things that fulfill your life and pursue them. Be happy now loving you. That's what I'm doin!

nomadlady7

I got married at 34, had a kid at 35, and was divorced by 37. I have not let being single most my life interfere with living. I have lots of friends, keep active, and do a lot of volunteer work (things that I enjoy). It is what it is. I would rather be single and enjoying life rather than being married to the wrong person. Being with the wrong person is far worse than being alone.

geekyjock76

I've dated on and off for years, but my story is that of the typical nice guy - given best friend status while the girl you like goes from jerk to jerk. The funny thing is a lot of these women who turned me down in the past contacted me later in life expected me to receive them with open arms. Homie don't play dat.

likemeinvisible

Just stop effing acting like you know what it feels like to be a damn 30 something year old woman.

My posts are intended to be gender neutral, applicable to both men and women, which I have said before in the course of the discussion. I've never pretended in the course of this discussion to be a 30 something year old woman. No idea where you got that idea from.

You do pretend to know what is best for everyone. This got me thinking, maybe most of the good ones are taken but a good sized portion of the bad ones are taken as well

DavetheHYNIC

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silvermist80

i'm 32 single i have a child but chose the wrong man... i knew he was but was too emotionally abused and depressed by time i realised he was i was in that relationdhip just shy of 5yrs first bloke i'd ever lived with n it put me off living with men... i'm fussy about who i want in my daughters life and have yet to find him when time is right and i am ready to accept him in he will appear i have 1 best mate and dont go out AT ALL... if u r meant to meet he will find u whether it b him knocing on ur door accidentally or at a shop or thro a mate... i have faith he will appear... my dad visited my nan while my mom was reading a book with my sister asleep in her cot the met and married in 6 weeks fate intervened b4 my dad was sent to germany he's hard work but relationship are it takes two to make it work never settle just coz ur lonely u will pick the wrong guy and may miss mr right xxx
huge huge FOLLOW UR HEART and enjoy the freedom of no man or kids n do what fun things u can coz with kids or another adult bills go up and affording fun days out becomes harder xxx i wish i had passed my driving liscence when i was younger coz i am restricted where i can go although now she's older i can go further i'm now restricted by school

hugs
debz

Nerdy_Rose

Quick note for the ones with asperger's, etc.: my sister has asperger's. She is engaged to a sweet, fantastic guy who loves her. So, don't lose hope. There are good eggs out there who will be compatible with you.

Nerdy_Rose

This post and some of the responses are depressing<goes over to the "rate the person above you thread 82">

Only read what Yoovie wrote. She is right, and you won't feel depressed.

wickednitsch

1. Make a list of reasonable things you expect in a life partner and do NOT allow yourself to date folks who can't meet the criterion. This alone will help define what you're really looking for in a partner and identify & eliminate bad choices straightaway. Yes, I did this when I met my husband.

I work with people who are getting out of abusive relationships and don't trust their own instincts for selecting a partner because of that bad experience and this is EXACTLY what I suggest they do. I am always amazed at how resistant people are to the exercise. Knowing what you will NOT put up with is essential. My clients sometimes say that they cannot afford to limit their pool of prospects, but that's exactly why they end up wasting valuable time and attention on a relationship that won't work.

And your soul mate is not going to knock on your door while you're in your PJs watching your favorite sitcom re-run (and that is NOT a dig on single folks - I can often be found on my couch, in my PJs, watching a bad sitcom). Get out in the world so you can be discovered like the jewel you are!

jr1985

Believe me... I hear you...even online... probably 80% of the guys I talk to either 1. Don't have a job 2. Don't have, or can't drive a car 3. Still live at home with their parents. 4. are on the creepy/stalkery side or a combination thereof... How big is the area where you live? would you consider moving? Good luck! I'm in the same boat you are! We can be friends and support each other if you want though

yoovie

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Only read what Yoovie wrote. She is right, and you won't feel depressed.

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_Wits_

At 33, if you are still single, you have to change the way you are doing things. Change surroundings and the type of person you're dating. Get in better shape. There are many things that any 33 year old single could do differently. I don't believe we are meant to be single after 25.

Wow...

My thoughts exactly.

My coworker...she just turned 51.. she is getting married next weekend. Never been married before... but she also never ever settled. In the meantime of dating and figuring out what she wanted and who she was....she joined the army, built houses for people in South America, and traveled all over the world. This train of thought, that there is something wrong with someone just cuz they are single over the age of 25, is beyond lame.

Shawty_Ro

I am 32 and very single, I do miss the company and sex obviously, but I'd rather stay alone than just have a bffor the sake of having one....

That said....I think I might just throw myself into the dating jungle *giggles*

PS: I miss the bj's as well

yoovie

Did you mean BF?

penrbrown

Did you mean BF?

Hee. part of me hopes she didn't...

madamepsychosis

Did you mean BF?

I hope so, because I can think of nothing better than having a BJ for the sake of it.

DonniesGirl69

I'm 39 and single again after 15 years.

I may be the odd man out here, but I'm rather enjoying it. :happy:

yokurio

GOOD ONE RIGHT HERE!!! Tired of women saying that they are looking for a good one and I've been running amuck looking for the good girls! Starting to get ridiculous if you ask me.

hydelaa

My family finally came out and asked me if I was in the closet, a lesbian? Because I wasn't finding the "right" guy to be with..Society sucks. Who cares, you meet someone when you meet someone. I met my guy of 9 months (first boyfriend and I'm 26) on a date site..

Maddalen101

I didn't marry till I was 48. No regrets. Took that long to meet the right guy. And he was someone I knew in high school! Just didn't click then. Lots of people are saying "be you in all your awesomeness," and I echo that. I became the person I truly wanted to be. I had also taken the advice of writing down all the qualities I wanted in a man, and forgot about it. I found the list not long after I got engaged, and yeah, lo and behold! All there.
Final bit of advice: let someone who you might not think is all that TALK to you. You might find a treasure!

skonly

What do you call a bass player without a girlfriend?

Homeless...


(Seems like a gratuitous joke, but there is a lesson in there too.)

BBWWHHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA that's the funniest damn thing Ive read all day... LMAO!!

LOL! So true.

jennismagic

The reason you're struggling with being single is that you apparently don't like yourself very much. Seriously, people will get their backs up about this, but it's true. If you can't stand your own company and always seek external validation, how can you expect anyone to enjoy your company? And I'm sorry, but there are plenty of good, available men out there. It just sounds like you're not going for the rights ones.

ILoveTheBrowns

im single because i a below average looking male whos looking for an above average looking female....simple as that...ohh and i lack game

Capt_Chev

Wow there are lot of interesting opinions on this! To offer my own 2 cents:

I'm turning 30 next month, I've spent the majority of my life single. Now currently I am the only one of my girlfriends that isn't married or in a long term relationship, and I'm absolutely fine with that. Why the rush to get hitched and start the breeding process?

To the dude that thinks we aren't meant to be single after 26 - that is a seriously scary thought. I'm not the same person I was at 26, my experiences have changed my outlook on life since then.

I actually enjoy being single, sure there are certain things about relationships that I miss, but all in all, I love being single, childless and independent I have the freedom to do whatever I want whenever I want, I don't answer to anyone but myself. I wouldn't want to give that up for anything.

My advice is make sure that you love yourself before finding someone else to love you!

Good Luck!!

T34418l3angel

Confidence is key. In both guys and girls if you are trying to date yet keep finding yourself single it might be because your projecting your insecurities. I know whenI was dating I honestly went after the confident type (which often gets entangled with the douche bag type) if I sensed a guy was insecure, jealous, etc he'd be out because I didn't need the added drama so soon in the relationship, I know alot of guys think this same way. So my suggestion is act like you don't NEED a man, act like you are fine with or without one. Get a hobby, worry about putting you first. When you do guys will notice.

jennismagic

Also, threads like these make me extra glad that I've never been interested in marriage or relationships. *kitten* sounds stressful.

Nerdy_Rose

Also, threads like these make me extra glad that I've never been interested in marriage or relationships. *kitten* sounds stressful.

Don't let stupid people make you afraid of getting into an LTR if you meet the right person

brainfreeze72

I just turned 27 a couple weeks ago, and then was a bridesmaid in a friends wedding this past weekend. It was both her and the grooms second wedding and she is just a couple months younger than me and he is 29. Seeing them both going for their second try when I have not managed to make it that far even once does make me question myself at times, but then I try to remember the good things about remaining single. Plus I am kinda picky about men and really do not want to settle for something less than I want just because I feel left behind.

An excellent point. don't worry about your age, a number is a number and unless you're counting down to menopause and want children you shouldn't be concerned. With modern science you can still save eggs for later. Worry about not settling for anything less than everything you've ever dreamed of. Take if from someone who has been down the aisle 3 times. The first time I was 20, he was the father of my child and I thought "In recovery from addiction". When I was pregnant with our 3rd and he spent all our money on drugs I decided enough was enough. #2 was a nice enough guy, just "OK as a "father" and really ****ty as a "husband". I told hubby # 3 he's stuck with me until death do us part, even if I have to kill him myself. He is my soul mate and I met him at 35.