Unsupportive significant other

Well, I see two different things. I don't try to convince people to live, eat or workout the way I do. Neither my beloved ones, nor friends or family. It's their choice, I am not going to argue with them. If they are interested, I am happy to talk about the way it works for me, give advise or train together, but I am not pushing my lifestyle onto them. If they want to go out and eat crappy food, as long as the place has something healthy as well, fine with me. They want ice cream, ok, as long as I get my apple, and so on.

Admittedly, I live abroad right now, so I don't have to deal with it everyday. Will be interesting to see how things work out when I am back.

On the other hand I expect respect for what I am doing. I get support when I talk about my fitness goals, they listen when I talk about my plans and weight loss (even if for them I do not seem to need to lose weight) and they eat the food I prepare (sometimes they add some cheese or the like). I would not expect them to cook and stick completely to my strict guidelines. But if they want me to eat it, they may have to adjust their normal cooking a bit and I will save some calories before and skip the desert. It's a question of compromise. But getting respect for whatever I'm doing is essential and I for sure won't accept anything else. I can always vote with my feed.

I can't tell you what to do but he doesn't sound like someone you would want to marry. You want someone that, unless it is harmful to you. will support you 100%. Don't settle for less!! Life is too short don't make it harder by carrying dead weight (no punt intended)

Congrats on your loss what an achievement. My husband is so unsupportive you'd think I was lying. No acknowledgements, no praise, he mocks my efforts, when others compliment me and ask what I'm doing he rolls his eyes and smirks.. There's a long list. But I'm happy and that's what's important.

I hate to say dump him but if he is almost surprised people call you beautiful then WTF. Seriously, he should be proud that other people find you as beautiful as he does but that leads me to my next point. And honestly, on a more serious note, a lot of people can't handle change. He has his own self esteem issues that is now being portrayed on your weight loss. As you lose weight and feel better about yourself he may be feeling that you will dump him because you feel you can find better. This may be the reason why he acts almost surprised when people give you vocal attention, you are already finding other possibilities (in his head). My husband and I went through this and the one thing I am happy he did is sat me down and told me of his issues. I have loved him through his 160 pound weight loss and I told him that I expected the same and that I loved him more than anything and we have just made ourselves better. I even brought up our more amazing sex life and he smiled. See, My husband would guilt me for going to classes/bike rides instead of spending time with him, always brought me high calorie food treats, and a lot of this was sub-concious sabotage because he was dealthy afraid I would lose all my weight and feel like I could find better. Have this conversation with him. Sit him down and tell him how you feel. Let him know that your life is changing and ask him if he is in for the ride and has a capability of change with you. You'll get your answer then. Maybe even a solution. He may not realize how crappy his actions are out of his own self-esteem issues. I think we tend to forget guys have these

Obviously if the situation doesn't change, you'll need to decide what is best for you. We get enough social abuse from BEING FAT. We don't need people in our lives who treat us negatively when we are doing better for ourselves.

I don't understand why so many of you post about this topic, and then STAY with these douches. If he's a **** to you and completely unsupportive, why on earth are you continuing to date him?! LEAVE! It is never, ever, ever going to get better.