telling your partner how much you weigh

I was in this position a little while ago but I decided to "weigh-in" with my partner and he didn't make fun of me at all, instead he helps me workout and has helped me stay motivated.

Your weight is just a number (like you said) but I think you will feel like something's been lifted off your shoulders if you share it with your partner!

Good luck xo

Well, first off, good job on starting this journey. As for telling your man how much you weigh..... do you trust him to love you regardless of what the number says? Perhaps by telling him, he will help encourage you and cheer you on. He can help hold you accountable too. Think of all the positive things that can come from a man who loves you and wants you to be your best. If this is something that you don't think he will do or that he will make fun of you, then you need to evaluate the relationship.

As for being embarrassed, well, here you are - what are you going to do about it? You ARE doing something so you don't have to be embarrassed for that. That is positive, good, something to brag about and feel good about. Honesty is always the way to go, so even if you don't want to tell him, explain why to him rather than put him off or ignore his request. He seems concerned about you and that can be used to help motivate you and help you. Use him to help you, he can be your biggest cheerleader. My husband is and it is such a blessing.

Don't let the number ruin your day, look at what you are doing to live life and love where you are and what you are doing and who you are with.

My husband and I got together when I was already on the heavier side. 3 kids later, with #4 on the way, I have no issues talking openly about my weight. Neither does he. We both realize that we need to lose weight. Today, we both made a commitment to quit our worst addictions. His, is cigarettes. Mine is Dr Pepper. I'm a huge addict (although not as bad as I used to be) and can't afford to keep spending my calories on useless crap. I'm hoping that one of these days, I can get him on here, show him it works, and get him to take this journey with me. But for right now, I'm solo. But that's ok, my kiddos keep me on my toes.

My SO knows how much I weigh. He knew how much I weighed when I was on the heavier side and once decided to comment, "Oh, I'm only 10kg heavier than you!" - that hurt a little bit >.<

I just told him I acted like I didn't care about it it's wa I look like that matters but I did soo much . to me women r designed to be heavier than males because there bodies are basically for giving birth. Just tell him Hun I'm sure he won't even say anything or just say I'll tell you when I'm at my goal weight if your uncomftble then don't do anything you don't want to I was lucky my boy takes the piss out of me all the time for weighing 13 stone I'm now 12 and tell him he wont be ale to when I'm 10 stone and strutting down the street and he won't like it hehe but he is so supportive I cnt do it without him x

Just slap him when he asks, and your worries will vanish into thin air.

I slapped my ex the first time she asked. Never asked again.

Lucky for her she's an "ex"!

My partner and I are both aware of what the other weighs. It's no big thing to us. I'm about 5 inches shorter than him and have about 60 pds on him. But he loves me regardless of my weight.

I do occasionally poke him in the gut though and call him chunky. :P

some things are sacred - if you don't want to tell him then don't. Like using the toilet in front of your partner - there are just some things in life that another person doesn't need to see or hear about!

If you don't wanna tell your SO, I don't think it'll ruin a relationship. My husband knows my weight and its not a big deal for me. He's been supportive of me wanting to lose weight. Occasionally he'll poke my muffin top and give me a funny look and smile. I always respond in a quiet, calm voice with: "If you want your teeth intact to eat an edible muffin top you'll kindly not poke my fat" :laugh:

My take is tell him if you're comfortable doing so, or don't if you aren't. My BF doesn't know how much I weigh, but he knows that I'm watching things, exercising and I do tell him when I do lose weight that week or my overall loss total. He's very supportive and encouraging when I need it and thats all that counts : )

My boyfriend doesn't know that I want to lose weight but he knows what I weigh.

My BF knows how much I weigh. I tell him if he asks and i note my weigh ins on a calendar that he has full access to.

I used to be... Then I came to the point where I accepted my weight and was proud of how far I'd come. Everyone knows my weight now I don't care. He knows I'm now just a few pounds heavier than him. The game is on! X

Interesting question.

I've never "told" my husband how much I weight and he has never asked--we've been married 22 years.

Some things in life should retain a bit of mystery...

I felt the same way, so for a while I just told him how much I had lost to make him apart of my journey. He would always congratulate me and tell me how good I was looking not even knowing I was ever 200+lbs at 5'6". And then I started letting him know I had 40+lbs to go, then 30+lbs and he's like "i didnt know you needed to lose that much" and thats when I finally decided he should Know I was 199 out of the 200s and how I started at 212, he was surprised but very proud of me. :happy: . SO maybe you should wait til you have lost an amount you're comfortable with and/or at a weight you're comfortable with and that way you can share your accomplishments with him as well. I mean obviously he loves you just as you are, he will be proud of you and very happy for you