The ABSURD things people say.....

I get this alot "Well, we don't want to eat that stuff that you make all the time for dinner. We're sick of being on a diet too just because YOU'RE fat. You can stop and pick up something from Sonic for us and eat your gross diet food when you get home"

I also hear "Ohhhhhh, look... you're being good today [referring to my home made lunch in the lunch room]. I guess you just can't have REAL food anymore."

And of course the "If you just didn't have all the belly roll you would be totally skinny" Said while grabbing my stomach... literally, people I'm not related to or sleeping with reaching out, criticizing the part of my body I hate the most and then putting their hands on me and giving it a good jiggle.

:noway:

I get this alot "Well, we don't want to eat that stuff that you make all the time for dinner. We're sick of being on a diet too just because YOU'RE fat. You can stop and pick up something from Sonic for us and eat your gross diet food when you get home"

I am so lucky I dont get this, my husband is losing weight too so the food I cook is good for bother of us.

Man, when people say stuff like:

"What's your secret to losing so much weight?"
"So what diet are you on?"
"Why are you trying to lose weight? You look fine."
"You've lost that much? I didn't realize you had that much on you!"

it really chaps my... oh, wait. No it doesn't.

It means that my efforts have not gone unnoticed. It means I'm being successful and it's showing up more than just on my scale (which may be hard for me to see because I see myself in the mirror every morning, so gradual changes may not be noticeable to me). It means that people are impressed with my success. In order:

- "What's your secret..?" "Thanks for noticing. I've been working hard at it with my high-fat, high-protein diet."
- "What diet are you on?" "Heh. It's not really a specific diet. I read some information about restricting carbs, and I'm doing that."
- "Why are you trying to lose weight? You look fine." (Okay... I wish I'd get this...)
- "You've lost that much? I didn't realize you had that much on you!" "Yeah, I really have. It's nice to hear that it didn't look as bad as I might have guessed, but I certainly feel better with it off." (Really... why would one be insulted by somebody saying you looked way too good to have them suspect you weighed that much?)

I would suggest we should take all of these kinds of statements the way they were probably intended - as acknowledgements of the success you've had and continue to have. In turn, rather than becoming discouraged or lashing out, turn around and use that success to encourage the commenter as well. It's certainly true that some people phrase their praise more artfully than others - but it doesn't make sense to become offended because they are not very good at expressing themselves when they note your progress.

At least that's my $0.02 worth...

"You are crazy the way you worry about what you eat." "You are nuts because you exercise too much." "You don't need to lose anymore weight, you will not look good." - All have come out of one person's mouth. Over and over again..

This.

I've heard everything about losing weight...but my favorite is
What's your secret?
Don't you eat anything anymore?!

I don't have a secret and No I hardly ever eat anymore....so quit eating in front of me people!

"Girl, you need to eat a sandwich!" (which made me laugh) and my mom referring to me at my heaviest as "hefty".

Hefty. Not "plump", "curvaceous" , or even "heavy" or "big"...but "hefty". :explode:

I got told last week that I look fine and don't need to lose anymore weight. I'm thinking WTF? I'm considered obese. I'm losing the damn weight. I wonder what she'll think when I'm actually at a healthy weight. Granted, it was coming from someone who is over 400+lbs at least and pregnant. I love the girl anyway.

I had someone tell me that he was worried about my health and that he was praying for me.

"You must feel SO MUCH BETTER" - actually I feel.. the same.. weird but true, I am still me!

"You can't eat that, can you?!" - ... ? Why not?? o.O (Boggles my mind EVERY time)

"That's how people get anorexic you know, you just be careful." ... . o O (Eh, whu?)

"You don't need to log EVERY single thing you eat!" - You're right. I don't, unless I want to be successful in the long run. Then I do.

Exactly!

"it'd be a great idea to re-instate the Bush Tax Cuts."

im thinking: man, Mitt Romney makes 10s of millions a dollar a month and pays 21% tax. i make a fraction of that and pay 28% tax. he pays less in income tax, mortgage tax and utility tax than what i pay. i still pay 1.8% more than him.