Anyone with a significant other who is sabotaging them??

...in a word, Yes.

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""Not true at all. I have no excuses. I make no excuses. My weight loss has been successful. I now have extreme self-control. I don't give into his temptation and he didn't make me fat. It boils down to being supportive.""
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Right....but being supportive doesn't mean they have to walk the same journey...which brings it back to unless they're forcing you to eat the food they eat that you have decided isn't good for YOUR WL, it's not sabotage...It's called life.

My husband isn't on this journey...he doesn't need to be. I am. He congrats my successes....he comforts me when I'm upset from my losses...that's support. Expecting him to change everything if and when he doesn't want to is just kind of silly.

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Oh yeah, right after I started a new eating plan, my hubby brought me Magnum Ice Cream bars! Are you kidding me? Jeez...talk about calories walking! Over the years, he always does that and I've always given in, but now I'm stronger and have finally decided to ignore the goodies. I'm doing this for me!

Fortunately I do not.

I cook the majority of the meals, so he eats what I cook. Luckily we like most of the same foods, course last night he was getting over a fever and hadn't eaten in almost 2 days and the only thing he wanted was Pizza Rolls. So, I bought him some and made myself a ham sandwich with a sweet potato.

Last week I was in a munchy mood, he has this huge bag of Peanut M&M's and so I asked him for some. I was met with an interrogation lol, did I know how much saturated fat was in an M&M? Will it put me over my calories? Am I SURE I wanted to do this to myself? At first I was mildly offended, then I realized he just wanted to make sure I wasn't sabotaging myself (I really am my own worst enemy in my weight loss) in the end I ended up not eating the M&M's. Same with the pizza rolls last night. I could have so easily asked him to put more on the sheet and just had those, till he reminded me of the Calories, Fat and other ickies that I really couldn't afford to have. If anything he keeps me honest with myself.

My husband knows how much this means to me, I am lucky to have him

just break up.

I wouldn't. I love him too much.

Unless he's holding you down and shoving food into your face, you are the master of your own piehole.

Word.


This pretty much should've ended the thread.

Agreed!!! Just another excuse from people who already have too many excuses!!! Nobody is 'sabotaging' you, you're sabotaging yourself because you have no self control.

Not true at all. I have no excuses. I make no excuses. My weight loss has been successful. I now have extreme self-control. I don't give into his temptation and he didn't make me fat. It boils down to being supportive.

It's not his choice to do this, it's yours.

Unless he's holding you down and shoving food into your face, you are the master of your own piehole.

lol true nicely put...though i agree with some of the otheres

YES! oh my gosh..
I was going to post something like this.
my boyfriend always bring the worst food into the house.. you know like all my favorite chips and stuff. he also gets fast food very often and asks me to pick it up (so hard to not order anything).
and he's always offering me cookies and stuff. i don't know if he's trying to get me off my diet or what! but it's sooooooo annoying.

LOL i feel the same way.. and he brings home all my favorites LOL its like he wants me to stay fat but I love him haha ..lately..if he does bring something home.. I'll eat half and get him to eat the other half (so I'm not tempted later LOL)

My husband is very much into fitness and working out; but eats anything and everything he wants, despises vegetables, and can down 1700 calories in a sitting. There is no changing him, as we've been together 22 years. I am jealous that he has never counted a calorie and weighs what he weighed 25 years ago at the age of 42...but oh well. I've also gotten used to eating whatever I fix for myself and it being something he won't touch. The other night I had grilled salmon, sliced tomatoes, broccoli, and half an avocado. He had meatloaf and double mashed potatoes.

YES! Actually, my husband does do it unintentionally, but I sort of lay some blame with my weight today because of how he enables me to eat so bad. He has a really fast metabolism and can get away with eating burgers at every meal - I cannot. So I think he tells me "You look fine, just eat a burger!!!" so that he doesn't feel guilty eating bad in front of me, but then I feel awful after giving in. I'm through with that! I must find the will power to say NO. Any tips on eating good while everyone else is eating bad in a restaurant setting?

My boyfriend isn't necessarily overweight but he does have horrible eating habits. Not only is he the worlds most picky eater, he loves meat, potatoes and hot sauce! So he mostly eats fast food, pizza, and chips! He doesn't work out because he is so busy at work (works 3rd shift at UPS) but I wish he would try to sneak more fruits and veggies in at least.

As hard as it is seeing him with worse eating habits than mine, he supports my hard work at the gym.

This is my boyfriend minus the 3rd shift work...he works at home.
My bf has really bad eating habits...meat, starch and sweets and he doesn't like veggies...but he has at least learned the concept of portion control now and he lost 20 lbs as a result. I luck out many nights because he's gone when I eat dinner so I can make whatever I want and because I want to cook more veggies, I can.

You can only be responsable for yourself. Maybe he'll be inspired by your progress. If you do the cooking, just cook what you want. If he does the cooking, tell him thanks but you'll make your own because you feel you have to make some changes in your life.

True, but I can imagine it's much harder when your significant other isn't on the same page.

Since I am so close to my goal (5 lbs) and my BF met me after I had already gotten into shape, he thinks I'm nuts. He's always telling me that I could eat whatever I want, I look fine the way I am...etc. So as much as I love how he appreciates me the way I am, he doesn't get the work it ttook to get here, or what it takes to maintain it (not to mention he's totally JACKED & could eat enough to feed a small country without gaining weight) lol

I'm not sure this requires an answer but since you quoted me........

Of course life style changes are harder if your SO isn't on the same page. That's why I suggested talking to them and explaining you're trying to make a change. You shouldn't make him eat your way unless he/she wants to. The other side of that coin is you shouldn't be required to follow their dietary choices.

These kinds of situations are always easier if you can discuss them but if you can't come to an agreement you have to do what is best for yourself and let them do what is best for them.

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My hubby has said one night after dinner- "Don't go to Zumba, stay home and we can watch 2 episodes of Breaking Bad on Netflix". But, he was kind of kidding, kind of not. He is overall great though