Mean Girls @ the Gym

Go up to them and say, in a fake nice voice, but loudly, "Girls, someone had to tell you. Your pants/shorts give you MAJOR camel toe."

When someone is that way I usually feel sorry for them because deep deep is someone who is extremely insecure and they can't feel better about themselves unless they're tearing down another person.

The second a person starts cutting someone down I automatically assume you're insecure or have some kind of self issue going on. Its just a huge red flag. Granted there are just really nasty people out there, but the majority of the time there is something behind their ****ty attitude.

Chin up and ignore them. If you want to really get at them kill them with kindness and show no interest in them and work your butt off to show they aren't going to break you down. :flowerforyou: you're there to better yourself.

I'd love to say that you should ignore them, but sometimes people are surprised and taken aback when you actually say something. You should come up with something really sarcastic to say to them and I bet they won't even know what hit them! BAHAHAHAHA.

why are women like this? at the gym...at work? every girlfriend i have ever had has had issues with women at work. this almost never happens with guys.

Stay positive, use it as motivation. Nothing would shut them up if you keep working hard and some day come in looking way better than them. Always use positive motivation even in with a negative. Losing weight is mostly mental, conquered that and you will win.

^^ and what he said :flowerforyou:

I agree with both of you lol!!

The next time one of them/all of them giggle, ask them "So, what's the joke?" and take it from there....

I truly hate pulling the race card, but I am the ONLY black women in this whole damn gym! I knew that when I signed up but never thought twice about it. Its a very country club style gym. I refuse to believe it has anything to do with race, if it is...that just sucks.

Let me make this very clear..I wouldnt have posted this if I thought it was in my head. There are 6 girls in this boot camp and I'm the 6th person. When I come in the room they giggle and roll their eyes. So I know for sure its directed at me, so believe me when I say its not in my head. I know bullsh!t when I see it. At first I thought it was because they make it very clear they have a crush or something on the trainer and he was now helping me...but that doesnt matter. These "women" are in their 30's and there is NO reason to be mean and rude.

I'm curious sweets, do you have any idea WHY? like is it weight, style, race, age, newbie, or mystery? Not that it means its fixable, but sometimes you can learn more about ppl if you can pin point the WHYS. Though to me, esp for 30s, it sounds like its going to be a hard fix. Maybe try friending one of them, one that seems nicer. Maybe the others would warm up. Assuming you even want to be friends with them! (I would prob not)

i have encountered racist white ppl almost every day. I'm white (mixed with d@mn near everything though) so they assume its okay to talk like that (which i address SWIFTLY, i live in a city area and love having friends of ALL KINDS) i was afraid it could be like that, its one of the reasons i asked.

Now that might not be the reason at all. it could be your a newbie. It could be weight, I know an ex anne (sis's bud) who picks at fat girls and thin girls. its insecurities usually. esp if your a stranger to them.

hun my advice, show them what kinda character you got. make them look bad! cause sweety they are the ones that are bad. don't let them make you feel it.

I think the more confident you can be, the more comfortable you are in your own skin...the less you will feel this way.

I probably feel this way 80% of the time, and when I take a second to think it through and try to understand what's going on, I realize they probably don't even know I exist. You know what I mean? I'm not really saying they are SO MEAN they don't know I exist, but they are probably just totally oblivious to other people when they're with each other. I know when I'm with a group of girl friends we always get caught up in laughter and stupid stuff (no matter how inappropriate it may be in the moment.)

I tend to overreact when I'm the "odd man out" only because I FEEL that way to begin with. I feel awkward going to the class alone, I feel slower than everyone else, and then I naturally assume they are looking at me with disdain and talking about me. But that's kind of stuck-up to think you're that important-- that total strangers would dedicate their time to mocking you. And that's what normally makes me understand and rationalize that it's all in my head.

Instead of thinking of them negatively and allowing it to bother you, why don't you address them directly? "Nice shoes" or something to break the ice...seems like you could see how they react or if they "ignore" you or not. If they really are "mean girls" you'll find out...but chances are you'll make a gym friend or two, and feel more comfortable in the future.

:flowerforyou:

So I started working out at a new gym with a trainer I LOVE but in the daily bootcamp there is a group of girls who are..well I'll say mean girls. They huddle together and giggle, and when I ask questions about a workout they basically ignore me. Now, my trainer is amazing and makes me feel comfortable but these chicks are about 1 strike way from me saying something to them...and not in a polite way. I know people will say ignore them and believe me I am..its just hard. I'm heavier than them and when I cant go as long as they can in certain workouts they laugh or shake their head when the trainer comes over to help me. Oh and by the way these chicks are grown *kitten* women! What to do? I'm not going to let some *kitten* chicks run me out of a good gym but I do need help on how to deal with it.

Thanks!

say nothing. just do the best you can and in the end youll laugh at them. or if they giggle, just turn around and say "i dont know why your laughing this is a gym, were all here for the same purpose so just focus on working out and not anybody else" or something like that.

Agree with this.
The more you smile, the happier you are, the more you attract happy people, and the more your irritate those that seek to feel superior over you. There was a woman that I once worked with how saw fault in everything I did. And every morning, I would genuinely smile and say, Good morning! And Good night!

And after a while, she started genuinely talking to me. And I realized that it was all about competition.

Stay positive!
Stay assured.

They'll eat their words when you complete the program like a boss

Sometimes you just gotta cut a betch. True story.

Stay positive, use it as motivation. Nothing would shut them up if you keep working hard and some day come in looking way better than them. Always use positive motivation even with negativity. Losing weight is mostly mental, conquered that and you will win.

Totally! Show those *****es whose boss. Kick *kitten*!

Hi like the rest of the comments, dont let these horrible girls stop YOU from reaching their goals. Its not a nice situation but you are there to get fit, no its not nice but obviously they are small petty b*****s