Is 25 too old to be single?

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  • pixtotts
    pixtotts Posts: 552 Member
    No its not!
    I know exactly where your coming from, im 23 i just got out of a relationship with someone 8 years older for several reasons but one of the problems my side was it was getting more grown up than i was ready for, were talking mortgage :| . I felt a little like i was holding him back from having a grown up relationship *shrugs*

    its never too old to be single... its not really something anyone chooses... its just one of those things...

    but i dont ever plan on getting married or having children...
    x
  • jinjin8
    jinjin8 Posts: 220 Member
    I worry about this too. I'm 28 and definitely not heading down the aisle any time soon! But all my friends are...
  • valldeperas5
    valldeperas5 Posts: 9 Member
    I just turned 25 in September and I feel like I should be in a relationship that is heading towards marriage by now. All of my friends that are 23-25 are either engaged or in a relationship and I feel like I'm behind socially....if that makes any sense. I got out of a relationship back in April and I feel like I'm still young and childish. But I like it.. I mean I'm pretty content with who I am and what I'm focusing on now (myself).

    Part of it is esteem, you know, the whole overweight thing. But I see a lot of people here on MFP who I consider potential friends, but then I shy away from adding them or talking to them much because I find out they're married/have kids. Nothing against it at all but I see the posts and I feel less likely to form any kind of bond because we're at different stages, and that sort of thing isn't what I know and understand well.

    I don't feel too lonely and don't have much interest in getting into a relationship right now, but I can't shake the feeling of being behind I guess.
  • jennaworksout
    jennaworksout Posts: 1,739 Member
    ummmm.... no!!!!! i settled down at 35...no regrets...enjoy it!!!
  • pinkraynedropjacki
    pinkraynedropjacki Posts: 3,027 Member
    2 of my friends are older than me, I'm 37...they are 38 & they are still both single. In fact I'm not sure if they have ever been in a relationship at all. SO no, 25 is not 2 old.
  • Dinamita_TNT
    Dinamita_TNT Posts: 333
    I will be 31 in a pair of weeks. I don't even have a boyfriend! LOL
  • Skinny_minny_mo
    Skinny_minny_mo Posts: 1,272 Member
    i havent read all the other posts, so may be echoing what has already been said.

    Pressure to be in a relationship / married is highly dependent on culture.

    In South Africa, people seem to get married very young! I'm shocked that almost ALL my uni friends are married and have kids.

    i think that if you find the right person, go for it, But marriage and a man is not the be all and end all of life.

    set yourself goals that YOU want to do. maybe travel more, do something crazy? after marriage and kids this may be limited. and its def not all rosy - regardless of what your friends may tell you :)

    embrace your singledom i say! enjoy it while it lasts :smile:
  • rotill
    rotill Posts: 244 Member
    I happen to have loved my husband since I was 20, and we had kids and married at 25. However, if I was to do anything over again, I'd have met him and married him ten years later. The only problem with that plan is that then I would probably not have met him at all, so that plan sucks.

    Anyway, what I mean to say by this is: Life happens, and not according to plans. If you're still single at 25, enjoy it and focus on your health, education and experiences you can't have when married with kids. Then, when prince right comes along, you don't feel like you skipped the whole being adult and independent phase, but know what you are leaving behind.
  • hellokathy
    hellokathy Posts: 540 Member
    Wow, I'm 29 and single. I'm just...gonna go hurl myself out of the window now. Haha.
  • StrawberrySprinkles
    StrawberrySprinkles Posts: 90
    Stupid double post.
  • gbbhey
    gbbhey Posts: 188
    God I hope not! I'm 25, closer to 26 now, and I am still single. I've got my good days about it, and my bad, but for the most part I am happy with where I am in my life. I recently got out of a relationship, by my choice, because I wasn't happy with her, and I'm not going to settle for someone that doesn't make me happy because I feel like I'm at that age where I'm 'supposed' to get married. Right now, I am enjoying the single life by doing some hiking and traveling, and spending a little quality 'me time' :)
  • StrawberrySprinkles
    StrawberrySprinkles Posts: 90
    Thanks guys!

    Yeah, growing up I always said to myself that 30-33 would be when. But life happens differently than we plan right? Also, being single now provides me with all the time and focus I need to work on getting healthier, so yeah.. Cool! :D

    This is very true. When we're young, we have this habit of thinking that life will work out according to our overall plans. In very few cases does this happen.

    I married at 21, but according to my 'life plan', I expected to be married by the time I was 24 or so and have kids by the age of 25...However, when 25 came and I didn't have children...I extended it to 27. Now, I'm 32 and still don't have any children.

    I'm not sweating it yet.....That silly biological clock hasn't gotten the better of me (but that could be because my clock is a little slow).

    I think you shouldn't be afraid to befriend people who have kids or are married. We're just like everyone else underneath. We still have hopes and dreams roaming around our heads and hearts. Sometimes they have to go on the back burner because we have to focus on the group rather than the individual.

    Despite being married for coming up to...11 years... (OMG!) I still feel like I'm in my late teens and early twenties. I will always be goofy on the inside despite everything that life throws at me. :)

    P/S: Enjoy life. It's too short to be caught up on what you think everyone else thinks you should be doing. (tongue twister) Do what makes you happy. If not being in a relationship is what you want then do it. :)
  • diverchic73
    diverchic73 Posts: 314 Member
    Wow, I'm 39 and single. Was engaged once in my early 30's and am glad we called it before the wedding as it wouldn't have worked out. Being single is fantastic. Yes, it would be nice to have cuddles and other things but I much prefer the freedom I have to do whatever I want, whenever I want without having to even think of anyone else. I spent too much time being the compromiser in previous relationships and am still loving being selfish and not considering anyone else. I hope at some point I meet someone I think will be great enough for me to want to share my life with but if that doesn't happen I'm happy on my own.

    Seriously, focus on living your life to the full without the need to be with someone, it is much more rewarding then when you do meet someone to share it with.

    When I hit 30 I had a bit of a tiz about not being married/having kids/owning a house like many of my friends but then when I talked to them about it they said that they wish they'd had the chance to do the things I was doing as I was single - travelling, etc, which is much more difficult and expensive with kids. I have since learned that, as long as I am happy, I don't care what others think or expect of me as my life is actually really good as it is.
  • StrawberrySprinkles
    StrawberrySprinkles Posts: 90
    I happen to have loved my husband since I was 20, and we had kids and married at 25. However, if I was to do anything over again, I'd have met him and married him ten years later. The only problem with that plan is that then I would probably not have met him at all, so that plan sucks.

    I think this a lot myself. I feel like at 30...I would have appreciated the early days of the relationship and the 'courtship' (to use an old fashioned word) a lot more than I did. I would have been a lot less stressed and less flighty by that point because I would have found my feet and been a lot more confident about who I was. :)
  • haydensmommy30
    haydensmommy30 Posts: 65
    I didn't get married till I was almost 30. When I was 25 I used to think the same thing. All my friends were married with kids and I could barely hang on to a boyfriend. Now, sadly to say, most of them are going thru divorce, divorced, or remarried. Now that I'm married, I'm so happy that I didn't get married when I was younger and when I look back at my life then, I know that I would not have been mature enough to have a healthy marriage. Don't let being overweight be an issue. There are plenty of men out there that love us full figured woman. Good luck and enjoy life just the way it has been paved for you.

    Elizabeth :heart:
  • StrawberrySprinkles
    StrawberrySprinkles Posts: 90


    When I hit 30 I had a bit of a tiz about not being married/having kids/owning a house like many of my friends but then when I talked to them about it they said that they wish they'd had the chance to do the things I was doing as I was single - travelling, etc, which is much more difficult and expensive with kids. I have since learned that, as long as I am happy, I don't care what others think or expect of me as my life is actually really good as it is.

    The traveling bit: This is something that we, as a couple, have found out and enjoyed recently. While it would be nice to have a Strawberry Sprinkles, Jr. we like that we can travel to places unimpeded.

    (However, given the type of people we are...we would opt for just the one Sprinkle and they would always be able to strap on their own little backpack to see the world with us. :) Reality will probably have different plans for the whole thing. Wishful thinking? Probably. But it never hurts to dream.)
  • addaline22
    addaline22 Posts: 114
    Darling, this is the time in your life when you should be exploring, dreaming, tarveling, schooling. Finding out who you are. not hindering your life with kids to early, and a marrige that will most likely fail just because you think you should have one. Before everyone jumps on me- I have been there. I thankfuly left my first fiancee, went out and traveled, met wonderful folks, saw amazing things that I only thought I would see in National Geographic, and made memories, found out what kind of person I wanted to be, and developde a whole new thankfulness for life. A good solid true love came to me when I least expected it, and now we have a son and have been marrie for 6 years at the end of the month. It will come to you my dear. Ps. I was over weight when I met him too. He didnt care.
  • magnolia_ah
    magnolia_ah Posts: 161 Member
    tommorow i'll be 25 ... i'm still single,baby ... lol =D
  • beatpig
    beatpig Posts: 97 Member
    Not at all. I didn't meet my soulmate until I was 29. Married at 30!
  • NeverGivesUp
    NeverGivesUp Posts: 960 Member
    Comparing yourself to others is silly. If you are happy, then let it go. I met my husband when I was 30, now I am 40 and have 3 children. Enjoy your freedom and learn who you are alone and independant first, this is the time of your life actually. You will go very wrong in your life looking for Mr. Right. Time is everything, let it happen naturally.
  • jecka93
    jecka93 Posts: 415 Member
    I'm 19, pretty much assume I'll be single forever. Woo.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Nope
  • daffodilsoup
    daffodilsoup Posts: 1,972 Member
    People live to be like a hundred years old. What's the rush?
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    You serious?
    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • DamnImASexyBitch
    DamnImASexyBitch Posts: 740 Member
    I got married the first time when I was 20. That was far too young. I got married the second time ( and last ) when I was 31. I was much more prepared and had a real handle on life by that time. Don't worry about what you think you should be doing. Just be who you are, and things will fall in place when they are supposed to. You don't live your life based on what others are doing or you're going to end up disappointed all the time.
  • carriempls
    carriempls Posts: 326 Member
    23-25 seems FAR too young to get married to me.

    Of course, I'm now 37 and just getting ready to get engaged. There ws no way I was ready for marriage in my 20's and it took me a long time to find the right person once I was ready.

    As you get older you'll stop worrying so much what anyone else thinks. At least, I hope so. Make yourself happy. It sounds cheesy, but find your passions and your dreams and follow all that. The right relationship will follow. And even if it never does you'll me happy anyway with everything else.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    I too had a whole "life plan" for myself. I was to graduate college by 22, get married by 24, have my first child by 25. I'll be turning 29 on the 24th and I graduated college at 25, not married and no kids and I couldn't be happier with how my life has turned so far:))


    As long as YOU'RE happy, that's all that matters. You can't compare yourself to anybody else because they aren't you. They don't have your experience and your life. As I'm now thinking, I can't imagine my 23 yr old self getting married. I'm SO different now than I was 6 years ago. I actually probably would've ended up divorced if I had married the guy I was dating when I was 23, haha.

    As long as you're happy. That's what's most important. Nobody is living your life for you
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Everbody is different and matures at a different pace, but, I don't think anyone is ready for marriage until they have learned to live on their own. Pay their own way. Handle their own problems.

    People should not get married out of need.

    They should get married, when they are self sufficient and when they find another person that is also independent.
  • Smiling_Sara
    Smiling_Sara Posts: 203 Member
    There is nothing wrong with being single at any age.
  • ArroganceInStep
    ArroganceInStep Posts: 6,239 Member
    Everbody is different and matures at a different pace, but, I don't think anyone is ready for marriage until they have learned to live on their own. Pay their own way. Handle their own problems.

    People should not get married out of need.

    They should get married, when they are self sufficient and when they find another person that is also independent.

    If I waited until I was mature enough I'd have never gotten married...

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