Can fat people find love?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W6qvJp4zPlY

The internet the best love tool ever. Whatever you are someone out there loves it. Some Googling and you will find a community that for them you are a goddess ( and you are to someone out there).

I've been overweight my entire life. I'm currently 25, 6'2", 315lbs (not too far off from where I was years ago), and I've never had problems finding a good man. I want to say my personality had something to do with it, but in all honesty, I'm not even the best person lol I have no doubt that fatties all over can find love... however, I'll also say that right now I wouldn't even worry about love. Focus on you, focus on your life and getting healthy and happy. I know this is probably going to sound like some BS cliche, but I'ma say it anyway: If you can't love yourself, how do you expect to love someone else, or have them love you?

While you're still down on yourself and depressed with low self esteem, you're more likely to find someone that you can settle on. That's the last thing you want.

Focus on loving yourself first. Work and work hard to achieve that goal. When you're done, the guys will be lining up - that way, settling will not be an option, cause you'll have a lot more to choose from.

Love and Alohas,
Ihilani Kapuniai

Love isn't about a size or a number on the scale. I think the biggest issue you are having is your low self esteem. We are our own worst critics, but how is anybody else going to truly love you if you can't love yourself? Try to do some soul-searching and find out who you really are (what you truly like to do, what your passions are, etc) and try to be more involved with other people that share the same passions and you are more likely to find someone that you're compatible with. You are awesome, you just need to convince yourself of that and everyone else will realize it too!

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I'm 5'1 and I weight about 306 now...
I'm 20 and I'm just scared. There is so much negativity and I'm working on loosing but I keep failing. I'm afraid it will take me so long to lose or I won't be able to and I'll never find love and I'll be alone forever...
I'm also not the least bit pretty and I've been told by my past and present therapist that I have zero self esteem. I'm tired of feeling like this, so down on myself and so afraid.

if your profile pic is you - i second you're gorgeous! don't let anyone ever tell you different. you said yourself you're working on loosing - well congratulations on taking the first step to a healthier you! forget about finding love, love yourself first and foremost. once you do you're whole outlook will change/your attitude will change/ you will change.

love does not discriminate.

oh i glanced at the title and thought it read can cat people find love. LOL!!!

I'm 5'10, 225, and while I haven't the time or interest in relationships right now, I often feel disregarded as a person just because I'm fat. Small things, sometimes I am overreacting because I've a sort of hypersensitivity to body gestures, tones, inflections, and expressions.

For instance, I was in class putting my coat on a chair, when a guy came in and pulled out the chair behind/across from mine and sat down in it- leaving me no room to even pull the chair out, let alone sit, though there was plenty of room for us both. So I had to sit somewhere else.

And even though we've been sitting in the same spots for weeks, I was running a little late and saw this other guy who sits across from me in my spot, with his spot empty. (And them the coat/space incident happened.)

Sometimes it feels like people disregard me as an actual person and won't even afford me common courtesies they give to others, as if I'm invisible or insignificant or something disgusting beneath their shoe.

It has happened for years, and I am too polite to tell them how I perceive their actions in case I was wrong and everyone looks at me like I'm a psycho for sounding so angry about it. Maybe they perceive something like that as a slight offence, but I get tired of being treated like a non-entity.

When I get skinny I will still remember these people, and these types of people. Er.. and I won't go psycho or anything but I will definitely snobbishly dismiss them.

This happens to me a lot too. I'm 5'7", 216 pounds, 25 years old. I work in a small restaurant in a very small town, and most of my coworkers are beautiful teenagers. I can't tell you how many times the customer will pretend I'm not there and address the 'pretty skinny one', even if she's in the back or busy. It's outrageously rude and it makes me very angry that people will disregard you or treat you as less than human because you don't meet their ideal of beauty.

However, more towards the original poster, I married my love of 4 years in April. He's English, he's gorgeous, and he loves me. When we first got together I was around 230 pounds. He tells me he would love me whether I weighed half or twice as much. There are good people out there, and people who understand. It's just the cruelty that sticks in the mind so much easier. I definitely second looking online. It's how my husband and I met, and it's easier to not feel as shy when you can be who you are before they even know what you look like.

First, no one can love you if you don't love yourself. You come first, love comes second. It sounds like you have a lot of work to do on yourself before focusing on finding someone to be with. When the time is right for that, it will happen.

You're only 20, and at that age it's hard to see a future based in reality. You think how you feel right now will be how you'll feel forever. It's not true.

Focus on yourself right now. There's plenty of time for the rest. Figure out what makes you happy. The things that make you happy are reasons to like who you are. The things you tell yourself every day become your reality. It's best to stop being down on yourself. If you don't like you, how can you expect someone else to like you?

Go look in the mirror right now and find something about your features that you think is pretty. If you can't find anything, know that you're deceiving yourself. And then try again.

Big changes like that won't happen overnight. It takes time to build up self-esteem. I would also try to pinpoint why exactly you feel you have no self-esteem. (And it shouldn't be because someone told you that, even a therapist.) Figure it out, figure out the logic in it, and then let it go. At 20 there is so much to look forward to. If you're unhappy with your past, don't let it define your future.

this woman...



is married to this man...



if that doesn't prove that love and attraction goes a lot deeper than just looks, what does?

Honestly hun, I know coming out of being a teenager and everything while being fat, you think no one will ever look at you or love you but it's not true. Do not lose weight to find a guy ( do it when you're ready, for you). Even if you were to stay at 300 lbs, you'll find someone.

Im going through the same thing and i dont think it has anything to do with weight.....just be happy and work on yourself..hugs

love does NOT discriminate.

Gosh girl you are gorgeous! Heck Im 40 and still looking for love... Ive always picked the wrong man and settled.. this time around I wont settle.. I know hes out there... Im far from skinny and have a long way to go... but I learned theres more to me than my weight....and if a guy cant see me for the beauty inside then **** him!

Never give up and always believe in yourself!! You are young and have so much to look forward to

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