Being played by a guy?

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  • meggawatt
    meggawatt Posts: 145 Member
    Move on. Similar thing happened to me years ago, turns out the guy was married and a big liar. Good luck to you.
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    Unless I was officially boyfriend/gf with a guy, I never called or texted them first. If they want to spend time with you, they will make the time. If a guy really likes a girl he is NOT going to ignore her. It kind of hurt a few times when the guy didn't call me, but you'll get over it.

    you are very pretty.
  • ♥Faerie♥
    ♥Faerie♥ Posts: 14,053 Member
    He wouldn't ignore you if he were that interested....you'll know when you find someone that is....
  • BeingAwesome247
    BeingAwesome247 Posts: 1,171 Member
    If he acts like he's not interested....he's not interested

    Read the book and watch the movie of "he just not that into you"

    And no he's not necessarily a d-bag. Frankly I act the same way when I'm NOT interested but don't want to be rude. Usually distance is a clue - a bit passive aggressive yes probably.
  • MelisRunning
    MelisRunning Posts: 819 Member
    Ditch him and don't look back.
  • flatbellybella
    flatbellybella Posts: 303 Member
    Babe.... DON'T CHASE.... REPLACE!

    Live by this.

    Always.

    Always x10
  • PantalaNagaPampa
    PantalaNagaPampa Posts: 1,031 Member
    So many great responses, and most everyone is right on the money.

    I will say from another guys point of view, If we are truly interested in a woman, then we will do whatever it takes to be with that woman. When I first met my wife, I couldn't spend enough time with her. I made myself available to her every chance I could.

    when guys seem fickle, it is either becaue they are waiting for somehting better to come along, they are already attached, or they are only stringing you along...

    Go find yourself a good man who loves to spend his time with you.
  • pascale485
    pascale485 Posts: 173 Member
    MOVE ON.

    If a guy wants to see you, he will. If he wants to spend time with you, he'll make time. Unless he's running a small country or a member of the CIA, he has time. Chances are you're one of many in his pocket.

    this!!!
  • CkepiJinx
    CkepiJinx Posts: 613 Member
    Ok devils advocate here, maybe your are coming on to strong. Slow down you don't have to call him every day. Go do your thing and see where it goes or doesnt. Give him time to miss you. Go places with your friends and hey date other guys. Don't wait around for any guy. If he were saying hey I'll call or we will do something and then leaving you hanging then I would be worried. If you were officially a couple then that's different but if your not ...

    Good luck
  • MFPBrandy
    MFPBrandy Posts: 564 Member
    There is this guy I met, who I really like. He says he feels the same way.
    However, he goes from talking to me one day to acting like I don't exist the next. I initiate almost all of our conversations, and he will go from talking to me one day, to completely removing himself and not responding to any texts, calls, etc. Then he comes back and starts talking again, then disappears. He also says he wants to spend time with me, yet I am always the one making the effort. I told him I wanted to go to the fair that is in town, and he went (no problem), but didn't bother inviting me or even mentioning it at all. Yet he wants to spend time with me?
    I'm trying to figure out whether or not I'm being played, or if this guy is just fickle.
    Sounds like you're being e-maintained. Time to ditch him for a man that sees you as more than a fallback plan.
  • LoriBeMe
    LoriBeMe Posts: 165 Member
    Guys are simple, if they like you it's pretty obvious.
    ^^ BEST reply ^^
  • daniran
    daniran Posts: 233 Member
    Nope! You're not being played YET! Get over him before you get into him. Something else and yes more important to him, is occupying his time. Either, he's got somebody else or he's on drugs. Believe it!
  • fkeehnen
    fkeehnen Posts: 9 Member
    Sounds married
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    He doesn't want an exclusive relationship with you -- in fact, I suspect he has one with somebody else. What he does want is a FWB arrangements -- or more specifically somebody to use as a "back up" when other plans fall through.
  • 76tech
    76tech Posts: 1,455 Member
    You should totally call and text him every 5 seconds. And when he doesn't reply, ask him why he's mad at you. Do this over and over again. Dudes love that.

    *swoon*
  • DrMAvDPhD
    DrMAvDPhD Posts: 2,097 Member
    He's just not that in to you. Find a new guy.
  • lamoursuffit
    lamoursuffit Posts: 267 Member
    If you have to ask, the answer is yes!
  • RyanDanielle5101
    RyanDanielle5101 Posts: 533
    MOVE ON.

    If a guy wants to see you, he will. If he wants to spend time with you, he'll make time. Unless he's running a small country or a member of the CIA, he has time. Chances are you're one of many in his pocket.

    ^ This,

    If the guy wants to see you he will make an effort and even go out of his way to do so. Hell I'd jump on a plane and fly to a half way around the world or across the country to see the person I want to be with if I had too. If this guy makes no effort to see you, he is not worth waiting for


    :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:
  • futurestarz
    futurestarz Posts: 510
    Unless I was officially boyfriend/gf with a guy, I never called or texted them first. If they want to spend time with you, they will make the time. If a guy really likes a girl he is NOT going to ignore her. It kind of hurt a few times when the guy didn't call me, but you'll get over it.

    you are very pretty.

    thanks! just made my day :)
  • MFPBrandy
    MFPBrandy Posts: 564 Member
    Always remember... you should be pursued by a guy.. not played. You're worth it. If you're not a priority to him then he shouldn't be an option to you.
    ^^Truth.
  • MFPBrandy
    MFPBrandy Posts: 564 Member
    You should totally call and text him every 5 seconds. And when he doesn't reply, ask him why he's mad at you. Do this over and over again. Dudes love that.

    *swoon*
    HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! :laugh:
  • Sweetpea472
    Sweetpea472 Posts: 229 Member
    Chances are you're one of many in his pocket.

    ^This. He likes you enough that he doesn't want to let you go, but he's a douche. You'll have no trouble finding a guy that will share his time with you (and only you)! :flowerforyou:
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    You should totally call and text him every 5 seconds. And when he doesn't reply, ask him why he's mad at you. Do this over and over again. Dudes love that.


    this made me snort out my Lean Body shake, lmfao!
  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
    Babe.... DON'T CHASE.... REPLACE!

    Live by this.

    Always.

    GOD!! I love this!!
  • jasonr1009
    jasonr1009 Posts: 342 Member
    this is the gospel.....

    a man will ONLY treat you as bad as you let him. I read this in a book. the exact quote was (not for the faint of heart lol )

    "if you let a man come over, drink all your beer, eat all your food, f@ck you in the *kitten*, then leave..... he will! "
  • LadyHouse
    LadyHouse Posts: 7
    Love it!
  • Great_Mazinga
    Great_Mazinga Posts: 214 Member
    I just noticed OP's ticker is my Avatar. :)

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