I'm never going to be thin or fit...

robin820 · October 2012

A negative atttude is recipe for destruction. Think positive and baby steps, try one meal at a time. It just means you need to find what will work for you. Only bring in healthy foods, surround yourself by postivity and move on. Eat 6 smaller meals so you do not feel the need to chow down endlessly. You can do it, you've already took the biggest stepping, joining!

Healthy_gms · October 2012

Hunny, you've got to change your perspective. I don't know what you need to do to change that mindset you've got, but find some stories, find some inspirational shows online (assuming you have good internet access, you're posting here, so I think the internet can be a good resource), reach out like you're doing here but ask for or give yourself room for hope. I give you propers for giving us bare bones honesty, but you've got to believe in yourself, own your situation, choices, and feel powerful enough to over come them.

I live with a roommate who makes different diet choices than me, and feels differently about her weight than I do though we're a similar size. I have a serious social relationship with food. I'm uncovering a lot of yucky feelings to make this journey. I've enlisted a friend that has lost 100 lbs to be my accountability coach in October. Her belief in me makes a huge difference. I'm just starting out, and it looks like you've made a lot of progress with 45 lbs lost, did I read that right?!?

Gym - I let my memberships lapse for financial reasons a couple months ago. I am learning yoga poses online for strength, and to increase flexibility. Doing a plank challenge, and sit ups are all things you can do at home, there's lots of things you can do at home with very low cost things (can't buy weights? Fill gallon milk jugs with water, use bags of rice for lower weights). I'm getting out to walk more, walking is great. Add some stairs, add a hill or two, vary your terain, do walking fast and walking slower, borrow a friends bike perhaps. If you don't know anyone with a bike -- www.meetup.com is a free site to join local meetups around your area. You can start making friends that have done what you want to do, or are in a similar boat as you. Eventually, you'll make a friend that will loan you a bike.

It's that type of determination and positive feelings that will help you feel better and not so doomed.

Make a list of barriers, and then brain storm (with help or by yourself or both!) ways to solve all the barriers for yourself.

If I can help you, please feel free to add me on MFP. I'm a processed foods junkie, slowly getting off it. I'm not a 'short and sweet' responder, as you can tell. But, please feel positive about your life, your choices, and how you want to live. You can do anything you put your mind to. It was my roommate that pointed out to me several places I'd succeeded at life (a move, education, work, etc.) and deBUNKED my fear of failure (at starting with a personal traininer a few years ago), and that's stuck with me (seeing as how that conversation was in a women's restroom at large chain hardware store, beside the gym I was going to 'interview')!

You can do this, we all can, with a little help from our friends - as the song goes, right?
Keep us all posted when you start to feel better!! We'll all want to know.

~Gretchen~
gretchen.schmitt@gmail.com
E-mail if you'd like.

joyous504 · October 2012

Sounds like a lot of "can't" and not enough "CAN". I don't have a gym membership - I walk M-F, 3.5 miles at 5:50 in the morning before work because my evenings are unpredictable and no one will want to make plans that early in the morning. You CAN afford healthy food. Shop a local farmers markets, fruit baskets or WalMart for that matter, you don't have to shop at Whole Foods. Fruits and veggies aren't expensive, what kind of healthy food are you looking to buy?

I have been at this since January 2nd. I woke up that morning and said I'm NOT going to be fat anymore. I have 20 lbs to go, but for the first time I can walk into a store with my skinny sister and fit into the same clothes just a larger size. I fit into clothes at the Gap for the first time in my life.

I get upset when people say they can't lose weight, when really they just aren't trying hard enough. Bottom line is, you have to make a concious choice as to what you put into your mouth every single day, all day long. If you won't do that, then you won't lose weight. Once you get the hang of it, you can have whatever you want in moderation. Simple as that.

RhonndaJ · October 2012

And that attitude is what got me to the weight I was when I started MFP.

Don't be like I was, because you don't want to get where I've been, weight wise.

ADT83 · October 2012

I made a soup last week, with all organic ingredients for $25... and ate it every night for a 5 days in a week. That is $5 a meal. I also do the same thing for lunch everyday at week, and for breakfast too. It would be awful if I didn't enjoy the things I'm eating, but thankfully I do. You just need to get creative.

Do Yoga at home, on your computer.
Buy some free weights from a 2nd hand store or a garage sale.
Check out local gyms and/or classes for special deals and discounts.

Your ego is too loud today. If you want it bad enough, you can do it. Simple as that.
We all have hard and bad days. Times where we fall out of motivation, but all and anything is possible. There is no room for negativity in self improvement, it will out make all that weight feel heavier on you.

jedikrissy · October 2012

Wow!!! I don't mean to be harsh but it sounds like you need a cold hard slap of reality in your life right now!!!!!! It is your choice not to be healthy!!!! NO one forces you to eat like a cow! How about stop eating like one!!!! Healthy food is not more expensive, I spend less on food now than I did when I ate bad food. You don't need money to lose weight. There are tons of videos of yoga, and aerobics and so on for FREE on the internet! I am poor as crap, I have student debt up to my eyeballs and have two part time jobs and I am looking for a third. SO STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOUR SELF!!!! You are just looking for the easy way out, and to do it without feeling like your giving up.

New's flash if you quit for these reasons, you are giving up and are choosing to be unhealthy. I used to have the exact same attitude, it was everything and everyone's fault I couldn't lose weight. Then I finally decided to really try and not make excuses. And wouldn't you know it, I have saved money by eating healthy, I have lost 45lbs and 22inches off my body in six months! Oh and all I did was walk, ride my bike and did FREE yoga off of YouTube!

Sorry if this seems a little harsh but it needs to be said. YOU are in control of your life! YOU control what you eat and how active you are in your life!

SO DON'T GIVE UP!!!! Pull yourself out of your pity party and take charge of your weight loss goals!

YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU SET YOUR MIND TO!!!!!

DO OR DO NOT! THERE IS NO TRY!

OfficiallySexyVal · October 2012

I have tried to lose weight and failed so many times! This time I am finally sticking with it and just because you are eating healthy doesn't mean you can't have a slice of pizza or ice cream one day. It just means you have to eat these things in moderation.
I have lost 53lbs on MFP but 87lbs overall so far. I still have 63lbs to go but I am not going to let that get in my way of succeeding and finally feeling good about myself! You can do this, it may take a while but it is doable! Best of luck to you!

msaestein1 · October 2012

I can't afford alot of that stuff either, so I do workout videos. You can get one, like Jillian Michaels for $10-15. Keep the walking up and walk longer until you can afford what you need. The bad food you can afford, eat less of that. Replace it with cheap good foods: Fruit, salad, etc. Focus on what you CAN do and what you HAVE accomplished, not the negative.

kenazfehu · October 2012

You've got access to a computer, looks like. There are a lot of free workouts on YouTube. I'm doing the 30-day Shred from there.

Walking is good. Walking fast is better.

Do the best you can with the foods you can afford, and remember - packaged, processed food costs more per pound than simple food (potatoes much cheaper than potato chips, for example). Look into frozen vegetables. They are often cheaper than fresh and maintain a good percentage of nutrition.

Treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated.

Charlie003 · October 2012

Okay. This is clearly a pity party. Boo hoo poor you. Yes, you will never be thin and you will always be fat. Why, because you have already decided that, so that is your fate. No one can do the job for you. So, suck it up. Eat right and do your exercise. And, you do not need a gym.

1. Run around the block once
2. 25 - 50 pushups
3. 25 - squats
4. 25 to 50 lunges
5. 25 - 50 crunches.
6. Plank for 5 min

Repeat for one hour.

You will lose like crazy.

Stop the pity party and just get it done.

kenazfehu · October 2012

P.S. - I'm talking cost per pound, not cost per package. A package of chips is less expensive than a pound of potatoes (to stick with the same example), but a pound of chips would be much more expensive than a pound of potatoes.

guardian419 · October 2012

It's hard being fat
It's hard staying in shape
It's hard either way, pick your hard, or press the Esc key.

leomom72 · October 2012

bump

juliec33 · October 2012

This is a great post by one of my MFP buddies. Remember that each meal, each snack is your chance to turn it around and make the healthy decisions.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/767624-lapse-vs-relapse

smantha32 · October 2012

I lost 50 pounds just walking. I've gained some back because I stopped.

and I eat mostly fast food and frozen, because I don't have anyplace I can really cook. Just pay attention to the calories and you'll get there. You don't have to eat clean or have a gym membership to lose weight.

ifixyospeech · October 2012

then eat less!!!!!! put the money you save on not pigging out on a ****-ton of food toward a proper sports bra! buy veggies in season (significantly cheaper). do some research, for ****'s sake. clearly you have internet access. put in some time and find out how to make the best of what you've got. whining and giving up aren't going to change anything. sorry for the tough love, but some people need a reality check and i HATE excuses!

eleanorgrant · October 2012

I go to the local meat shop where the meats and poultry are much cheaper than in a super market, me and my husband have joined together as a buddy system and motivate each other. I am the one that prepares our meals everyday and count the calories.... He works so I =pack his lunch everyday as well.. We have a budget I have to meet every week so I get creative ALOT,
Try these simple things for maximum food benefit for the dollar,,, for meats, go to your local butcher shop or meat market( I can get 40 lbs. of chicken for$ 25.00..... AND your local fruit and veggie stand instead of super market....I spend about $20.00 there every time I go and fill up my frig... all together under $50.00 and still have money for the dollar tree for spices and odds and ends. MOST of all my husband leaves his car at work and we walk together in the morning to his job and I turn around and come home and I do the same at night as well ...(and I have a new car ) my car stays parked in front and I use my two feet on nice days... Try it,
GOOD LUCK......BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.....WISH YOU SUCCESS....:happy:

mrstravisjones · October 2012

i understand what you're saying. junk food and fast food, are cheap and convenient. but they don't keep you full. healthy food seems more expensive but it takes less to fill you up. you just have to adjust to it. a lot of times people don't eat out of hunger, but for any other number of reasons. if you try to only eat when hungry, and stick to the healthy food, a lot less will make you more full than the junk. farmer's markets are inexpensive and you can get tons of fresh produce. chicken is almost always on sale! just look for the cheapest cut. bone in chicken breast was $.99/lb the last time i went to the store. that's much cheaper than most bad food. popcorn is cheap. stay away from the butter and salt. water is always cheaper than every other beverage. i make my own bread for about $1 a loaf. eggs are about $1.79 a dozen. and peanut butter is a must have.

fruit
veggies
chicken
bread
eggs
peanut butter
popcorn
water

this takes care of meals any time of day - and a week's supply for just 1 person would cost you about $25-30. do you spend less than that on junk food and fast food each week? probably not.

also - free exercises:
walking - including walking up and down stairs - don't do it leisurely, you have to get you heart rate up
planks
crunches
body weight squats
push ups
lunges - and walking lunges (and try them weighted, meaning hold something above your head- a textbook, your laundry basket, anything)
flutter kicks

good luck to you and don't give up

kelseyhere · October 2012

if you keep that attitude you will be fat forever. but if you just realize this is a lifelong journey, and everyday you have to work at it, you can be thin. you will have bad days, you'll want to pig out and not exercise. but it get's easier. challenge yourself. don't give up

sissypunks · October 2012

i don't have that stuff either wear 2 sports bras 3 for 10 at wallmart go outside and walk get on utube they have many FREE video workouts some food is cheep that is good for u oatmeal plain min oats and a small bottle of honey great breakfast keep u full and taste good to u can do it i know what u mean about the money thing but it is possible just walking and watching portions take a good look at the grocery bill and cost of some low cal food that is what i had to do also my hubby is the only one working and we have 4 kids stuff is not cheep i get it but anyone can do it if they want to bad enought only U can make the disision if u r ready or not slipp ups will happen but just get back up and start over it is possible !!

emmagallo · October 2012

Waaaah. Stop making excuses. Either you want it... Or you don't. There is hiking... Which is FREE. Walking... Which is FREE. Go to a community pool... Which is FREE. You work hard for what you want. BTW- I've lost 85 lbs in about 8 months. Yes, its hard... But its sooooo worth it if you just TRY. I have my days where all I want to do is eat CRAP, but then I pick myself back up and keep moving along.

Don't mean to be so harsh... But people need to stop candy coating it. Life is hard...

Cage the Elephant... Ain't No Rest for the Wicked:
Oh, there ain't no rest for the wicked,
Money don't grow on trees,
I got bills to pay,
I got mouths to feed,
There ain't nothing in this world for free.
I know I can't slow down,
I can't hold back
Though you know I wish I could,
Oh no there ain't no rest for the wicked,
Until we close our eyes for good.

bodyjammin85 · October 2012

How much do you spend on other things? I mean internet, cellphone, other food, video games, dvds, any other expenditures. How is it expensive to eat right? If you don't spend the money on junk, you will have some money to buy veg, even if you can't buy organic, you can buy the regular stuff. Don't buy soda, drink water from the faucet.

As for exercise, others have already said that you don't need a gym to workout. Body weight exercises, local parks with monkey bars and other equipment.

If you want it, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse.

AngryDiet · October 2012

Walking is free and if you won't buy anything but bad food, fine - eat less of it. This site is free; count your calories and eat a deficit every day.

moreORless50 · October 2012

take some time and look at what cheaper foods there are thats what i did your be surprised what meals you can make on a small budget . i dont go to a gym all i do is walk watch what i eat and have lost 20 lb since august 10th its doable even on a tight budget and dont punish yourself for haveing some bad days we all been there its gone and done with, tomorrow is a brand new day :happy:

Nerdybreisawesome · October 2012

Good luck with your hospital bills when you are older.

MrsGSR · October 2012

I've bought 5 cans of different beans for about £5, and whizzed them together to make a bean soup, eating it for lunch each day next week, healthy lunch for £1 a day. It counts as 2 of my 5 a day, and is low in Kcals and Carbs so for tea I can be a little bit more lenient and eat whatever I'm making my husband (just a much smaller portion!) Frozen Veg is cheaper than fresh veg and a lot nicer than canned!

As someone else has said, there are some really great exercise videos on Youtube, a lot of them just use bodyweight. Walk everywhere you can and take the stairs more. When your watching TV go up and down the stairs during ad breaks.

You will lose weight in no time

secretlobster · October 2012

I don't mean to be a d!ck but less food = less expense, and healthy food doesn't have to be difficult to afford. Single-serving, fast-food meals are actually more expensive per serving than making a pot of soup/chili, grilling some chicken breasts for the next couple days, or frozen vegetables.

Okay, so it's the truth, you'll never be thin or fit.... if you keep eating the way you do now. I don't even want to tell you how many times I cried myself to sleep *wishing* to be in a different body before I siezed control and changed it.

californiagirl2012 · October 2012

DO NOT GIVE UP! I struggled for 15 years beating my head against the wall. I didn't give up and I achieved my goal at age 50 and have been maintaining for over a year, I'm almost 52, and YES THAT AVATAR PICTURE IS REALLY ME. Please do not give up, my success story here, I hope it inspires you to not give up ===> http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/740340-i-lost-60-lbs-at-age-51-anyone-can-any-workout -Bobbie

bosslady2012 · October 2012

Dont give up two days is nothing i have been there before try a week...its ok we all get down but dont stay down

gddrdld · October 2012

This^^ is the truth.

I'm never going to be thin or fit...

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