Class Reunions: To go or not to go?
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I just recently missed my 20 year reunion. I was honestly considering going until I found out they wanted to charge $60 a piece and have an open bar! UGH! I can't stand open bars because people get WAY too drunk. I'm thinking, why not just charge for the cost of the space then have a cash bar? It's not surprising though because they were a bunch of drunks back in high school too. :laugh:0
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Go.
Well if you reunions are like mine...go.
Mine have been held in a bar thus far. So it is casual dress, sharing appetizers, and playing pool. No division of popularity. Just a big mix and everyone having a nice relaxing time. Every time I hear about reunion where you have to dress up, wear a name tag, and play 'games' I CRINGE.
Yours definitely sounds like more fun than mine!0 -
I just went to my 10 year reunion a few weeks ago. I wasn't sure I wanted to go, but a former classmate that I see regularly now talked me into it. I haven't kept in touch with my group of friends from school (except casually through facebook).
I am so glad I went! I had a great time - we had about 40 people show up (out of 200+) and everyone talked, mingled, laughed and told stories. I spent a little time with several groups of people. We all went to a local bar after the event. It was seriously great and I'm glad I went. If it's awful, you can leave. But you might regret not going.
Thanks, Lora:) I like that..."If it's awful, you can leave. But you might regret not going." If there's a bad vibe, I can always make a beeline for the door!! Amen, sista:)0 -
I went to my 10 year reunion, and was ignored by almost everyone (just as I was in high school). Needless to say, I stayed 45 minutes and left to go hang out with my real friends! My advice? DON'T GO!!0
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Would I go if that were the case for me? No. Why take the risk especially when it was a difficult time for you.
Did I go to my reunions? No. And not because I was unpopular or picked on. Waste of time and money and not much fun. (I've talked to classmates who DID go to the reunions.) Also, I never received an invitation for my 20 or 25 year reunion. I guess because I'm not on Facebook I don't exist. I mean come on, my parents still live in my hometown. It wouldn't that difficult to track me down! No invitation = guess you don't want me there, so F you!
You are correct, people are not much different than H.S. days. I've run into some classmates over the years and the mean ones are still mean. (substitue "mean" with any other adjective)
On the other hand, if you're wildly successful you might want to go just to rub it in their mean faces!0 -
I was a pretty quiet guy in H.S. but still popular by virtue of my involvement in sports and other groups. I missed my 10 year H.S. reunion and made a promise not to miss the 20th next year. Understanding that everyone has to make their own decision concerning to go or not to go, I would encourage you to go. The last thing you would want to do is regret not going and wish you had. Besides, you and all of your classmates are adults and while you may get there and realize some folks have not changed since high school you can find comfort knowing you have risen above some of the immaturity some folks continue to demonstrate. So go man! Have a good time -- even if you become the butt of some jokes. You never know, you may get there and realize while you have moved forward in your life, many of your classmates may be stuff in the rut of theirs.
I love this!! ^^ I believe I will go:) Someone else said that if it sucked, I could always leave!! Thanks so much for your input:)0 -
Nope. I will never go, absolutely no desire.
I also didn't go to my prom, or my graduation. I can't stand cliques, and I'd just rather not be amongst the "popular people" again, if I don't have to be
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I went to the 10 year, and people were still d!cks. I spent $100 to walk into a stuffy ballroom filled with sh!tty appetizers, overpriced beer, and a room full of one uppers who were still competing with everyone just like in high school. I spent 45 minutes too long and finally my best friend and our significant others decided to get drunk in the hotel bar. A few hours later after everyone from the reunion was drunk, they decided to come to the bar too and started talking to us then. I guess we weren't cool enough to talk to when they were sober.0
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I went to my HS reunion a couple of years ago. It was fantastic, and I got to reconnect with people I care about. The one Nazi-*kitten* didn't show up but had a party at his mansion the week before and this was much talked about. I just grinned (or grinded my teeth, the ninth time I heard it.) and danced the evening away...
The hot chick is still hot and finally getting together (since married) with her senior year love after a hurtful life. Loved that.
My best friend got to come out to everyone, finally.
My ex-gf and friend is now dating a woman and is trying to deal with the closed community she lives in.
Kids, deaths, life. It's all good.
Next April is my college reunion 25! - already booked a room! And will fly across an ocean to see the people I care about in one place.
Good motivation too to get my butt in gear.0 -
I avoided both my 5 and 10 year reunions like the plague. Everyone from my HS class is friends on Facebook and I made the mistake of adding them all at one point (because somehow that seemed like a good idea). I found out very quickly that I still had nothing in common with the people that didn't continue to be my friends after high school and decided that reunions are just not meant for people like me who never saw the point of trying to get everyone else to like you in the first place.0
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I was a loner pretty much through school. I had a few friends but they were outsiders too. We didn't fit into a clique. I hated sports, wasn't artistic, and had no money. I was teased and bullied for the way i was brought up. (Parents were on welfare, i had hand-me-down everything). Despite all this, I was still friendly and polite to everyone.
I actually went to my 10 year reunion and was one of the few that flew in for it. That trip set me back like $600. It was really great to see a lot of my friends that I did hang out with. What was really funny was that I stood there and looked around at the crowd ( only 19 people showed) and ironically everyone formed back into their old cliques. Nothing had changed. So it made me to start wondering if they still thought badly of me after all these years and why they weren't talking to me much. Had they not grown up and out of that evil and childish behavior? I left there with an accomplished feeling and yet was still saddened.
I guess it depends on how you feel about the people you attended school with. After experiencing mine, I don't know if I would ever attempt another.0 -
Would I go if that were the case for me? No. Why take the risk especially when it was a difficult time for you.
Did I go to my reunions? No. And not because I was unpopular or picked on. Waste of time and money and not much fun. (I've talked to classmates who DID go to the reunions.)
You are correct, people are not much different than H.S. days. I've run into some classmates over the years and the mean ones are still mean. (substitue "mean" with any other adjective)
On the other hand, if you're wildly successful you might want to go just to rub it in their mean faces!
That is a very valid point. I think the reason I would go is to see some of my friends I haven't seen in years and to just say that I did it, or at least I tried. I can always leave if it sucks. I am not wildly succesful by most people's standards, but I am very content with who I am and where I'm at in life:) Thanks so much for your input!!0 -
Most people ignored me in high school because I was quiet, nerdy, and fat, and I don't live too far away from my hometown so even when I go back, many of them don't recognize me because I look (and act) like a different person. I'd like to go to my 10-year as the new sexy red-headed me and see how many of the idiots that never paid attention to me suddenly want my number (this happened one summer at a wedding I went home for after college). So that I could refuse them point-blank, because it would bring me fun and pleasure 0
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Class reunions seem like a waste of time to me. If anyone was important to me and my life, I am already still in contact with them.0
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I was aprehensive about attending my 25th class reunion, and was happy I did. Our professors were invited, and the turn out was great, and like one of the other responders, I got to make peace with folks I did not get along with. We are now older, and things do not seem as dramatic and important as they did back then. Most everyone was happy to see everyone else, and bygones were truly bygones. I say you go, let people see how happy your life is, and just enjoy the old stories.
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I was going to go to my 20 year reunion. I joined the facebook group that the organizers were using to get info out.
Then I remembered why I hated highschool. The same feelings all came crashing back.
F**K that. If I didn't want to hang out with these people THEN, why would I want to see them NOW?
Same exact situation only 10 year. I got super excited then I was like I am not spending $400 on a round trip flight to go hang out with people who treated me awful. If you're friends are going, make the best of it. If not, then maybe have an anti-reunion night out with all of your friends at a local bar or something!0 -
I say - if you don't feel good or right about going then don't.
I didn't go to my 10, 20, or 30 yr reunion - for many reasons, didn't know about it or was having my son or didn't feel right about going. But next year is my 40th Class Reunion and I plan on going! It just feels right!
Good luck with making your decision!0 -
I was a loner pretty much through school. I had a few friends but they were outsiders too. We didn't fit into a clique. I hated sports, wasn't artistic, and had no money. I was teased and bullied for the way i was brought up. (Parents were on welfare, i had hand-me-down everything). Despite all this, I was still friendly and polite to everyone.
I actually went to my 10 year reunion and was one of the few that flew in for it. That trip set me back like $600. It was really great to see a lot of my friends that I did hang out with. What was really funny was that I stood there and looked around at the crowd ( only 19 people showed) and ironically everyone formed back into their old cliques. Nothing had changed. So it made me to start wondering if they still thought badly of me after all these years and why they weren't talking to me much. Had they not grown up and out of that evil and childish behavior? I left there with an accomplished feeling and yet was still saddened.
I guess it depends on how you feel about the people you attended school with. After experiencing mine, I don't know if I would ever attempt another.
Thanks so much for sharing:) It must've been so hard to experience that rejection after all those years and after spending all that money!! I am sorry you had that experience, but the fact that you left with an accomplised feeling is awesome:) You did it. You rose above it:)0 -
Most people ignored me in high school because I was quiet, nerdy, and fat, and I don't live too far away from my hometown so even when I go back, many of them don't recognize me because I look (and act) like a different person. I'd like to go to my 10-year as the new sexy red-headed me and see how many of the idiots that never paid attention to me suddenly want my number (this happened one summer at a wedding I went home for after college). So that I could refuse them point-blank, because it would bring me fun and pleasure
Lol...they probably will want your number!!! You are so beautiful:) Thanks for responding!0 -
What do you guys think? Would you go if this were the case for you? Do you plan to go to your H.S. Reunion?
I was so invisible, I wasn't even *invited*. Saw some pictures through Facebook - everyone who showed up is exactly the same.
I am so sorry. That hurts. I was often invisible in H.S. as well, that is, until some bully felt like being a jerk:S Anyway, it's all good...our experiences shape us into the people we are, for better or worse. Rejection sucks, but we can become stronger from it and choose to reach out to others going through similar experiences;) Thanks for sharing.
Was also invisible in HS. If we had a 5 year reunion, wasn't invited. When I was a senior in hs, there were kids in my class that I had been to school with since kindergarten and had classes with the whole time that didn't know my name (my graduating class had 140 kids). There were only 5 girls in my HS class that I was friends with. It was all we could do to keep our heads down and avoid the bullies that tormented us most of middle school and the beginning of HS; basically, survive. I've kept in touch with a couple of them and we're all more than happy to be excluded from a class reunion. We now all live different, but very happy and successful lives doing what we dreamed of doing. We still keep in touch through FB and email and phone on our own. We really don't care what the kids who spat on us, called us ugly, pushed us in the halls, spread rumors, threatened us, and made us cry until we were 16, until they'd finally had their fill and simply ignored us when we were 17 and 18 are doing at this point. And before anyone says anything--we were VERY quiet. We truly did nothing to provoke the bullying except be "the shy kids". But I also had an exceptionally mean and horrendous class. My younger brother who graduated 4 years after me said that the faculty still talked about my class and how relieved they were to have us gone. From what I've heard, most of them are burnouts, in jail, or in some other kind of trouble now. The kids that were "good" but still bullies, I still have no interest in seeing. Maybe they've grown up, maybe they're sorry, maybe they're nice now, maybe not. But it doesn't add anything to my life to find out. I'm not angry at them anymore, but I see no point using my valuable time to test the waters. I live 500 miles away from my home town now. Not worth the gas money, not worth the time.
If you had a good experience, why not go? If you had an "eh" experience, still, why not go? Might be fun to reconnect with people you were even somewhat friends with. But if it was miserable, why waste your time? Enjoy your current life, your current friends, and forget the past hurts. HS was a fraction of your life. If it was unhappy, don't dredge it up, just enjoy the rest of it. 0 -
I would legit rather eat a cockroach0
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My high school classes 20 year reunion was last weekend. I did not go. I never actually got an invite to the facebook group. I suppose I could have joined it though. Had no desire to see those people again.0
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Through Facebook, I'd become close to some former classmates. I can't even call it reconnected, because we weren't that connected way back then because I was shy and thought everyone hated me. Turns out, I was shy and people didn't realize I was shy and thought I hated everyone. Plus, the openness about bullying now made a lot of people who I never realized were bullied "come out" about it, and that connected many of us in a new way. Too bad we didn't know then... we could have banded together!
Not only that, I've realized that the "mean kids" were just as confused as everyone else. They weren't mean because they were bad people. They were mean because they were scared and insecure and acted out poorly. Because we were all dumb kids.
I went to my 20th and enjoyed it.0 -
My 10 year reunion is still a year away, and they set up a facebook page and everyone is already fighting over details (some people even wanted to bring kids to it...wtf?!) I think I'll be passing on that. I still see some of my friends from high school and the rest I can talk to on facebook and set up our own reunions. My graduating class was also almost 900 kids....0
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My 10 year reunion was lame. We had a class of 370 and 40 showed up. Lame lame lame. I only went because I'm dating a guy from my class and he wanted to go. If I wanted to talk to the people from my class, I'd friend them on Facebook.0
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I had a great time at what would have been a 30th reunion (had I not GED'd out)... It was a great time in a country club setting.0
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I never go to mine. It's so far from where I am now, and who I am now, I honestly don't really desire to go.
I'm too busy making memories with the people in my life that matter to bother with going. I see these people on facebook- that's good enough for me
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Meh...if you have some friends to go with then go. Eff what the others think or say there.
I went to my 10 year after much begging by my bestfriend...and we had a friggan blast. We met up with a group of people we all hung out with back then and ended up leaving and going to a local bar...
Granted..my husband had to come pick up his drunk wife at 2am at a city gas station but still...it was fun!0 -
I didn't go to my 5 yr... didn;'t really care now in December my 10 year one is scheduled. I may go to this. Make a apperance. pretty much everyone that i do care to see or read about is on my facebook. Others i really don't care. If anything like somebody else said, go spend a night hanging with ur friends maybe call some up if you dont talk to them as often and see if they would like to hang out instead. if you really dont want to go, I wouldn't. The hs cliques are still there, that doesn't change i dont think.0
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Didn't have trouble in high school. I was in sports and good in academics. Never had the desire or inclination to 'see what they are doing now." Never will attend one.0
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