Positive Praise for Poor Eating?

Maybe I'm way off base but...did anyone *ask* for your feedback or did it just post automatically in your newsfeed? So you've noticed that someone has come in under calories but what they ate doesn't measure up to your standards and you feel the need to show that you don't support it: it sounds as if not only are you fretting about someone else's less than stellar food choices (which seems a little co-dependent-ish) but you're also fretting about your inability to comment on it, which is just being a busybody.

Like someone else said, when you start out saying you're not trying to be offensive, trust me, you probably have already managed it.

I think we all know by now that a Big Mac meal with a milkshake is not healthy eating. It's not for you to play Olympic gymnastics judge on someone else's food diary. Who says you have to comment at all? This is why my diary is locked. I eat loads healthier than I used to and almost always come in under my calories, but sometimes I like to have a cheeseburger, or a small portion of ice cream and I'll be damned if someone else judges me on it.

And what's with "I'm just concerned that we're often sending the wrong message! " Who put you in charge?

This post has just rubbed me the wrong way. A big ol' "mind your own business" seems to be in order here.

This site is about so much more than weightloss, I think the fact that someone even opens their diary for people to see is a huge step to being accountable....we aren't here to judge people, we are here to support them, I think that's the most important thing, it's fine to make suggestions but some people don't want the advice...I would love the whole world to eat clean, since I started it it has changed my life literally, but we are all different and we need to understand that things aren't as simple as black and white, there are many more factors that come into it....I think in general people are getting through each day the best way they can, a simple comment of encouragement could brighten someones day more than we know

I think everyone on here is an adult and is allowed to make their own choices when it comes to eating. My goal is to lose weight but also to see I was eating way too much and it was things I didn't really even want. I do want an ice cream every once in a while but I am now more aware of which one to have verses three scoops of Blue Bunny Peanut Butter Panic! One of the things that drew me to this site was the fact that I can eat whatever I want but stay within my calories.

I don't see a problem giving praise to someone who set a calorie goal and stayed within that range even if they are eating a small cheeseburger for lunch. Before I would have chosen the large Big Mac extra value meal, now I might choose a small fries and side salad. So yes I may not be eathing the healthiest, but I am eathing healthier!

By the way anytime some starts out saying "I'm not trying to be offensive is a sure sign of someone being offensive."

If I do respond to someone's food diary I try to pick something positive out of it.

"Great breakfast!"
"Nice snack choices!"

Or whatever.

My food diary is by no means perfect. In fact this weekend was a complete train wreck. I'm not going to judge what others are eating unless it's pure crap and they spend hours whining about how they can't lose weight.