Why do people.......

Tenster
Tenster Posts: 278 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
....Not have their food diary available for friends to see, the amount of knowledge on this site will be vast and by scrutinising your diary's people will be able to give you some great advice.

basically.....get your diarys out!
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  • SueGremlin
    SueGremlin Posts: 1,066 Member
    Because I am not here to get advice or feedback on my diary. Not everyone works the same way.
  • Breadoholic
    Breadoholic Posts: 75 Member
    I don't have my diary available because people are judgmental!!!!
    I remember once I sent a msg to this girl asking how she got such great abs. Anyway she added me as a friend and once she saw my diary she decided that my way of eating (I was consumed far less calories than her - she literally ate like 2000 a day and was like 100 pounds :S) was "unhealthy"... she couldn't be associated with someone who ate like me LOL - her words, not mine. It was weird and I was like... um I'm sticking to a 1200 calorie diet, that's normal for a 5 foot 3, 24 year old girl!
    So never again!
  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
    Agreed!
  • Tenster
    Tenster Posts: 278 Member
    I don't have my diary available because people are judgmental!!!!
    I remember once I sent a msg to this girl asking how she got such great abs. Anyway she added me as a friend and once she saw my diary she decided that my way of eating (I was consumed far less calories than her - she literally ate like 2000 a day and was like 100 pounds :S) was "unhealthy"... she couldn't be associated with someone who ate like me LOL - her words, not mine. It was weird and I was like... um I'm sticking to a 1200 calorie diet, that's normal for a 5 foot 3, 24 year old girl!
    So never again!

    That is only a certain amount of people, others including myself would try and give you advice and help if you wanted it
  • MrsWilsoncroft
    MrsWilsoncroft Posts: 968 Member
    Who cares, each to their own lol
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    Agreed but I understand at the same time. I know a couple of friends I've managed to convince to open their dairies because they got scrutinized for eating to much (still under 2000 calories). People have different ideas of what healthy is and there's some bad advice going around because of it if you ask me.

    But if you have your dairy closed because you feel bad for eating that bag of chips, then open it. Because if you're feeling bad about it you don't want to be eating it and when people call you on it (nicely) it's great support...and if you're the person who eats chips or whatever and you're not planning to get rid of them then you shouldn't be ashamed of it.
  • SueGremlin
    SueGremlin Posts: 1,066 Member
    I don't have my diary available because people are judgmental!!!!
    I remember once I sent a msg to this girl asking how she got such great abs. Anyway she added me as a friend and once she saw my diary she decided that my way of eating (I was consumed far less calories than her - she literally ate like 2000 a day and was like 100 pounds :S) was "unhealthy"... she couldn't be associated with someone who ate like me LOL - her words, not mine. It was weird and I was like... um I'm sticking to a 1200 calorie diet, that's normal for a 5 foot 3, 24 year old girl!
    So never again!

    That is only a certain amount of people, others including myself would try and give you advice and help if you wanted it
    I don't get why it even matters. There are plenty of members who do share their diaries. If you don't like it when people don't show their diaries, don't have them as MFP friends.

    I don't understand why you find it important that everyone think just like you do. That's what makes the world go around! :flowerforyou:
  • Tenster
    Tenster Posts: 278 Member
    Because I am not here to get advice or feedback on my diary. Not everyone works the same way.

    Thats fair enough although i think since you have lost 60Lbs it would be massively beneficial to other people who are at the same weight as you started. It could help them.
  • SueGremlin
    SueGremlin Posts: 1,066 Member
    Because I am not here to get advice or feedback on my diary. Not everyone works the same way.

    Thats fair enough although i think since you have lost 60Lbs it would be massively beneficial to other people who are at the same weight as you started. It could help them.
    There are lots of other people here. I don't feel comfortable talking to other people about what I eat nor do I want to talk to others about what they eat. That's pretty much the long and short of it. I find it to be a very private matter. I understand what you are saying and that's great if it works for you. But it doesn't work for me. I respect your decision to show your diary and interact. Why not respect the decision of others not to do so?
  • Breadoholic
    Breadoholic Posts: 75 Member
    I think people here all think they're health experts lol. I find it amusing when people give me advice. If I stuck to the diet of course I would lose weight, I just haven't stuck to it :P
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    If you're struggling and asking for advice, it's best to have it open.

    But otherwise, I can understand why someone wouldn't. It's none of my damn business what or how anyone else eats.

    I do LIKE open diaries, because I like getting ideas. And some of my friends have diaries that read like food porn.
  • SueGremlin
    SueGremlin Posts: 1,066 Member
    If you're struggling and asking for advice, it's best to have it open.

    But otherwise, I can understand why someone wouldn't. It's none of my damn business what or how anyone else eats.

    I do LIKE open diaries, because I like getting ideas. And some of my friends have diaries that read like food porn.
    :laugh:
  • Tenster
    Tenster Posts: 278 Member
    I think people here all think they're health experts lol. I find it amusing when people give me advice. If I stuck to the diet of course I would lose weight, I just haven't stuck to it :P

    I totally agree however i think you can get a good idea of the people that do have an idea regarding nutrition by profile pictures etc. People should be smart enough to realise who is speaking sense
  • becomingkateblog
    becomingkateblog Posts: 30
    I didn't realize there was a setting for that. Just made mine public, thanks!
    I'm hoping showing how I balance the good stuff with the indulgent stuff can help others. Like all week I've been planning to have a cheeseburger from Sonic (lol I know, but we don't have one anywhere near us so it's a treat and I NEVER eat fast food) so I made sure to plan accordingly and have excercise scheduled to compensate.
  • Tenster
    Tenster Posts: 278 Member
    Because I am not here to get advice or feedback on my diary. Not everyone works the same way.

    Thats fair enough although i think since you have lost 60Lbs it would be massively beneficial to other people who are at the same weight as you started. It could help them.
    There are lots of other people here. I don't feel comfortable talking to other people about what I eat nor do I want to talk to others about what they eat. That's pretty much the long and short of it. I find it to be a very private matter. I understand what you are saying and that's great if it works for you. But it doesn't work for me. I respect your decision to show your diary and interact. Why not respect the decision of others not to do so?

    I totality appreciate that. I'm not hating on the people who don't show them, its just my opinion. I respect yours although i can't agree.
  • cravingskinnybody
    cravingskinnybody Posts: 109 Member
    I agree with the opinion of open diaries. BUT there are some people who struggle with unhealthy choices and don't want people to think like "she eats it, she loses weight, that's healthy then"
  • Tenster
    Tenster Posts: 278 Member
    I didn't realize there was a setting for that. Just made mine public, thanks!
    I'm hoping showing how I balance the good stuff with the indulgent stuff can help others. Like all week I've been planning to have a cheeseburger from Sonic (lol I know, but we don't have one anywhere near us so it's a treat and I NEVER eat fast food) so I made sure to plan accordingly and have excercise scheduled to compensate.

    Not a problem. You go and enjoy your cheeseburger! people need treats to keep them on the straight and narrow. I had a chinese last night!
  • Tenster
    Tenster Posts: 278 Member
    I agree with the opinion of open diaries. BUT there are some people who struggle with unhealthy choices and don't want people to think like "she eats it, she loses weight, that's healthy then"

    Great point!
  • Tenster
    Tenster Posts: 278 Member
    If you're struggling and asking for advice, it's best to have it open.

    But otherwise, I can understand why someone wouldn't. It's none of my damn business what or how anyone else eats.

    I do LIKE open diaries, because I like getting ideas. And some of my friends have diaries that read like food porn.

    Just had a peak at your profile. your transformation is amazing, well done!
  • Breadoholic
    Breadoholic Posts: 75 Member
    I like double standards. Love reading other's... just don't need people reading mine.
  • aStrongerSteph
    aStrongerSteph Posts: 161 Member
    I think for me I left mine open because it was requested so many times. But honestly I'm doing what's working for me and it won't work for everybody. So I always get a little nervous when somebody has a comment about it. I don't want to try to tell people how to eat. I don't know myself most days. Have gotten some great comments and some very negative ones. Like I said I leave it open because I've had so many for requests. I just hope they get bored of looking at it and stop soon after we become friends :)
  • SideSteel
    SideSteel Posts: 11,068 Member


    I totally agree however i think you can get a good idea of the people that do have an idea regarding nutrition by profile pictures etc. People should be smart enough to realise who is speaking sense

    ^ I disagree on this. I can point to people with good physiques and a head full of bro-science, and I can also point out several people that don't look like bodybuilders and have a great understanding of nutrition.
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    It's open to my friends. I have closed it in the past because of arugments I have gotten in with people about my dieting habits. It's not 100% good clean all the time. Plus I work nights and my sleep is important. I sometimes eat all of my calories for the day in 1 meal if I know I will have a busy day and not have time to eat. With going to the gym, errands etc etc I don't have the time to eat 4-6x small meals., my metabolism will go to hell! OH NOEZ!!!!! - _- I've gotten crticism for eating "dinner foods" at 3am. I shouldn't eat past a certain time, etc. etc. The typical dieting guidelines that work for most people, doesn't for a graveyarder.
  • msbeeblebrox
    msbeeblebrox Posts: 133 Member
    I'm not sure. I like having mine open, and I like seeing what other people eat as well. I like the accountability of an open diary. But then again, I've never minded sharing my weight either, and other people shy away from that as well. Everyone works in different ways.
  • SideSteel
    SideSteel Posts: 11,068 Member
    Back to the original topic, I think it's really an individual decision.

    I can think of some reasons why someone would not want an open diary:

    1) Recovering from an eating disorder. I have friends who would CONSTANTLY get somewhat ugly comments about their food intake.
    2) Opinionated about nutritional philosophy and doesn't want others criticising their methods.
    3) Some people are quite comfortable with their understanding of nutrition or their dieting method and don't want feedback from others.
    4) Some people will also just ask for help when they need it.


    This isn't to say at all, that I think everyone should have a closed diary. Many people could benefit from an open diary just as you suggest.

    But I understand why not everyone should.
  • Tenster
    Tenster Posts: 278 Member
    Well after some of the reply's i have received in this thread I can totally understand why people have theirs open or closed. I am enlightened. Each to their own
  • MDWilliams1857
    MDWilliams1857 Posts: 315 Member
    Mine is open, but I can honestly say I really dont care what anyone has to say about what I eat and also I have never, not even once, looked at someone elses diary.
  • deniseblossoms
    deniseblossoms Posts: 373 Member
    I kinda wish the few friends I have would give a tiny bit more feed back. I've had a few rough days and one day I went out for mexican with the parents and pizza for dinner I had two great jobs /: Really great job for mexican and pizza???. Not one person said something about eating more veggies, or getting more protein in.

    But I agree with having it open and tapping into some people that obviously have a lot of knowledge along with the practical application to help keep or get you on track.
  • Breadoholic
    Breadoholic Posts: 75 Member
    Sidesteel: Yep, I absolutely agree with you. Very valid points.

    Christina
  • OddballExtreme
    OddballExtreme Posts: 296 Member
    I opened mine to public recently and haven't really had a lot of comments or criticisms on it. For me personally, I want to show what I'm eating and how much I'm eating to make sure I stick to what I've done since I was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes back in January. In addition, I sometimes wonder if I'm not eating enough of something. I welcome being able to know if there's something I need to help compensate for lack of anything (my one big issue right now is not having enough potassium). Oh, and for those who don't know, I shouldn't have more than 155 grams of carbohydrates every day and 1500 mg of sodium (yup, I have the diabetes/high blood pressure combo). The one thing I do know is this is what's been working for me. To each his/her own, and go with whatever method works best. If someone isn't so sure what to do, go to the real expert: the doctor.

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