are all men the same?!!
untouchable86
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so im having a hard time with my ole man right now.. just dont know what to do.. he seems to think that spending time with his friends is more important than spending time with me and the kids.. your not single anymore your engaged for crying out loud!! this is getting old fast and to be honest its kinda making me re think getting married. cause i sure as hell am not putting up with this for the rest of my life. i will not be put 2nd!! i know that sounds bad... 
am i going to far with this? am i in the wrong/ what would you do?
am i going to far with this? am i in the wrong/ what would you do? 0
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haha this was actually a serious question0
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Men come in many different varieties. Maybe yours is trying to take a break from being family man.0
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i realize he needs guy time but when you work out of town 5 days a week and your only at home on the weekends and the first thing thats on your minds is hanging with your friends! somethings gotta give0
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you cant be a part time family man,Men come in many different varieties. Maybe yours is trying to take a break from being family man.0 -
Ya gotta talk to him about it, not us. That's the wisest thing anyone is going to tell you on here
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haha this was actually a serious question
this is just my personal opinion your question is why i dont believe people should get married in their 20's. men and women need to get all their games out of their system before settling down. your fiance dont want to be at home doing family stuff while all his friends are out bar hopping picking up chicks and doing whatever else and i'm sure you dont want to be doing the same either but since there is a child involved someone has to be the responsible party...
maybe you two need to work out a schedule so he can go out sometimes and you can go out sometimes.0 -
how old is he?0
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ugh0
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Maybe yours is defective. Does it have a warranty or a return policy?
you cant be a part time family man,Men come in many different varieties. Maybe yours is trying to take a break from being family man.0 -
ill be 26 in dec. and hell be 26 in jan.how old is he?0 -
lol no...
Maybe yours is defective. Does it have a warranty or a return policy?
you cant be a part time family man,Men come in many different varieties. Maybe yours is trying to take a break from being family man. 0 -
Engaged and already nagging, no wonder he wants to go out with his friends.
You should encourage him. That'll mind trip him0 -
wow so now wanting to spend time with your man is now considered nagging?!Engaged and already nagging, no wonder he wants to go out with his friends.
You should encourage him. That'll mind trip him0 -
My husband and I go through this too. He just doesn't seem to get that I might need a break from time to time too. I do not mind if he wants to spend some time with the guys, but nearly every night gets old quick! We sit down and talk about it time and again, then things get better for awhile. You just have to get and keep the lines of communication open. He cannot read your mind, and I do not think men are as family oriented as women (at least most of them anyway).0
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No, we're not all the same.... You certainly have a valid concern...0
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wow so now wanting to spend time with your man is now considered nagging?!Engaged and already nagging, no wonder he wants to go out with his friends.
You should encourage him. That'll mind trip him
It can seem that way, yes0 -
Engaged and already nagging, no wonder he wants to go out with his friends.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
If you're having questions this early on in, you may seriously want to put things on hold. You try to tame him, there may be resentment down the road. You let him run wild, and you'll never be happy.0 -
he knows how i feel weve been through this in the past.. talking to him does no good! im about to just give up and just stop careingMy husband and I go through this too. He just doesn't seem to get that I might need a break from time to time too. I do not mind if he wants to spend some time with the guys, but nearly every night gets old quick! We sit down and talk about it time and again, then things get better for awhile. You just have to get and keep the lines of communication open. He cannot read your mind, and I do not think men are as family oriented as women (at least most of them anyway).0 -
So when exactly is he allowed to go out with his friends? Should this be scheduled on days that you don't want him around?0
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thanks glad someone understands my sideNo, we're not all the same.... You certainly have a valid concern...0 -
well thats bull****
wow so now wanting to spend time with your man is now considered nagging?!Engaged and already nagging, no wonder he wants to go out with his friends.
You should encourage him. That'll mind trip him
It can seem that way, yes0 -
Physically speaking its pretty easy to say all men are the same... We come with the same parts...
But in this case... No, not all men are the same. Sounds like he's not ready to grow up and be a man or a father. You could wait for him to come around but that may never happen.
Sit down have a solid talk with him, tell him exactly how you feel...
After its all in the open, he will either step up, or you will have the freedom to do whats best for you and the kids.0 -
i dont are for him going out with his friends but when he does this every night all damn night it gets old..So when exactly is he allowed to go out with his friends? Should this be scheduled on days that you don't want him around?0 -
thank youPhysically speaking its pretty easy to say all men are the same... We come with the same parts...
But in this case... No, not all men are the same. Sounds like he's not ready to grow up and be a man or a father. You could wait for him to come around but that may never happen.
Sit down have a solid talk with him, tell him exactly how you feel...
After its all in the open, he will either step up, or you will have the freedom to do whats best for you and the kids.0 -
let me guess all the guys reading this think im a nagging b***h now right?0
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Every night is not acceptable, a couple times a week isn't the end of the world.0
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i agreeEvery night is not acceptable, a couple times a week isn't the end of the world.0 -
Clearly it's about balance. He's only home on weekends... he has lots of relationships to maintain and while I'm sure you are important to him his friends are too.
Perhaps he shouldn't be trying to do it all every weekend... prehaps he is spreading himself too thin. Try to negotiate with him. See if he will agree to 'family only' weekends reserved for you and the kids. But then allow him to have weekends where he is free to see his friends.0 -
that is a very good idea, thank youClearly it's about balance. He's only home on weekends... he has lots of relationships to maintain and while I'm sure you are important to him his friends are too.
Perhaps he shouldn't be trying to do it all every weekend... prehaps he is spreading himself too thin. Try to negotiate with him. See if he will agree to 'family only' weekends reserved for you and the kids. But then allow him to have weekends where he is free to see his friends.0 -
So when he does decide to stay home with the you and the family, how is it? Is it enjoyable or a complete pain in the butt for him?0
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