What's the meanest thing someone said to you?

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  • have my baby.

    FAWWWWK YOUUUUUU. Growing another human for nearly ten months is NOT my idea of a good time. That was just mean. He knew what it was going to do to my body. :angry:
  • ksmiley412
    ksmiley412 Posts: 274 Member
    My wife told me once that her worst fear in life was that our son was going to grow up and be just like me.

    FMN.

    Ouch!
  • jlapey
    jlapey Posts: 1,850 Member
    Walking into Old Navy a few years ago and held the door open for the woman who was right behind me. I know she meant no disrespect but her response was: "OH, I should be holding the door for you. You're the pregnant one....I think?" :noway: :angry: :huh:
  • :cry:
  • VeeGeeMom
    VeeGeeMom Posts: 21 Member
    I do agree with your mom LA! You are very pretty!
  • want2belean
    want2belean Posts: 124 Member
    What an awful thing to say to a child...I'm glad those words your mother told you didn't damage you.
  • sobriquet84
    sobriquet84 Posts: 607 Member
    i ran cross-country and track in high school. i will never forget this...

    its not exactly what was said, but how it was said/how publicly it was said.

    my cross-country team and i were all on the bus on our way to an invitational one saturday. i was a junior. i wasn't the fastest, but i wasn't the slowest.

    in front of everyone on the bus (about 20 boys and 20 girls) my coach said to me "you know, you could probably shave 2 minutes off your 5k if you just lost some weight in your legs."

    the entire bus was like "he did NOT just say that publicly in front of everyone!". even a bus of 15-18 year olds new that embarrassing. he could have said that privately.
  • "Would it be easier if I was on top?"

    -Classic Burn

    OMG :noway:
  • VeeGeeMom
    VeeGeeMom Posts: 21 Member
    How sad... My hubster and I agree that if we could do it differently we would have had MORE! Parenting do FUN and they are a delight to us now.
  • OllyReeves
    OllyReeves Posts: 579 Member
    Most of the things on here aren't mean, they're stupid or misguided.

    Asking someone 'when is it due?' isn't mean unless they know you're not pregnant.

    Pointing you to the plus size clothes isn't mean, it's thoughtless.

    When I went into a clothes shop a few years ago, and without even asking me what size I was the guy told me that they didn't have anything for me, I didn't run to the internet and boohoo about how mean he was, I thought, 'bloody hell have I got that big?' and moved on.

    Get some perspective!!
  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    "I have a whole bag of Reeses' Cups..."

    ....

    ..

    .

    "And you can't have any!"

    :sad:
  • OllyReeves
    OllyReeves Posts: 579 Member
    Hmmmm.... Can't say I have ever taken words poorly...action is far greater....but then, I dont give a **** what other people say about me.

    Thank God someone has some sense
  • lenniebus
    lenniebus Posts: 321 Member
    One I can recall is my former MIL asking me if I had stretch marks when she came to visit her new grandaughter. I said no...I didn't get any, and she said that was because I was already fat so my skin had stretched. WTF???!!!
  • I'd get a strike if I made a list of the things people have said to me over my lifetime but. the one that I will never forget was when my mental ill, morbidly obese mother said to me:

    "I hope you get AIDS and die." Wow, thanks.

    I haven't spoken to her in 14 years. Good riddance.
  • jesse1379
    jesse1379 Posts: 239 Member
    I was the only Asian kid in my grade in a African American majority school. At some point, someone said that I used the N-word. All my friends turned on me or did nothing. I got called every name in a take-out menu, told to go back home to my country (I was born here) and endured slanted eyed jeers and a couple death threats... all within about 15 minutes. I didn't get control of the rumor until I hit a guy in the face and asked him "Who said I did that? Why would I do that?" I was angry and in tears. To top it off, I nearly got suspended.

    Wow that irony at its finest.
  • ahviendha
    ahviendha Posts: 1,291 Member
    boyfriend when i was 15 told me i had cankles.

    in reality, i had strong, muscular calves (still do, bulge my jeans out) without much ankle bone showing.

    still echoes in my head sometimes! i should have slapped him.

    i guess he also told me i had the kind of beauty which only improved with age and maturity. that also has stuck with me.
  • CrisN99
    CrisN99 Posts: 159 Member
    My mother:"If I could do it all again differently, I wouldn't have kids."

    :( Some women have the maternal instinct of alley cats. I'm sorry she said that to you.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    When I was about 9-10 yrs old.
    My Mom told someone that if she didn't know that I was her child.
    She would not like me.
    She knew I could hear her.
  • schell81
    schell81 Posts: 187 Member
    My daughter was 5 weeks old and I still looked 5 months pregnant and was wedding dress browsing to get out of the house. The store owner put herself between me and the normal sized dresses and pointed at the rack that started at size 22. ( I was more like a 18, even with the belly ) I told her that I planned on losing weight and I had just had a baby 5 weeks before and she shook her head and told me I needed at least a size 20. I walked out in tears
  • a very close friend was trying to motivate me when i mentioned needing a personal trainer. the response i got was "you're weak...you need a trainer to push you because you're weak." note that this was one year into my "healthy me" journey and 40 pounds lighter. i had a goal and couldn't quite finish on my own. i used all the tools i had and needed an extra push. i am NOT weak and worked hard to overcome that mindset for a week or so.
  • LATeagno
    LATeagno Posts: 620 Member
    These comments have stirred up so many old memories. For some reason, being directed to the plus size department seemed really bad at the time. Like many of you, though, I had a mom who was constantly telling me I was fat and worthless. She put me on diet pills in fourth grade (ugh) and forced me to run laps on the track behind my middle school on weekends, telling me it was for my own good.

    I firmly believe that my weight problem began with her. She meant well, but instead of just buying healthy food, she just warped my idea of what types and amounts of food were "normal" or "acceptable." A "normal" school lunch for me was a peanut butter and jelly sandwich on white, potato chips, a Little Debbie oatmeal pie or brownie and a sugary Hi-C juice box. I was never given "healthy" food as a child. I was just told I was fat and that I ate too much of what I was given (she'd give my skinny brother a whole brownie, but then only give me half. Why was she giving us that crap at all?!). Obviously I take responsibility for myself now, but i can't help but think a lot of my issues with food are rooted from the way I was treated between the ages of 8 and 18.

    My mother would often lie to me and tell me that my extended family members had told her how fat i was so that I'd see that "others" could see it. I didn't know she was lying back then. I lived for years thinking my family members had long phone conversations about my weight, which back then, wasn't an obesity problem at all.

    :( We're all in the right place now, though, and I suppose that is what matters.
  • 00Melyanna00
    00Melyanna00 Posts: 221 Member
    "I am angry with you and your cellulite-loaded *kitten*".

    Ex boyfriend.
    There is a reason he's an ex.
  • MrsDrk
    MrsDrk Posts: 153 Member
    When I was 11, my father told me that if I didn't stop gaining weight, no one would ever love me. Now, I'm 36 and have lost 46 lbs- the other day he told me I was just finally starting to look pretty again.

    Meh. I have an amazing hubby and 3 gorgeous little spawns. I have plenty of love- even fat.
  • HypersonicFitNess
    HypersonicFitNess Posts: 1,219 Member
    A few actually:

    1) I was 12 years old - a boy in my class told me I was too fat to date...okay, I know we were only 12 and really who was dating at that time? Certainly not me.....or anyone in my class and looking back, I was no chubbier than anyone else in my class....however it led to an eating disorder.

    2) I'l call her just flat out Stupid, b/c what "friend" says such trash to her "friend" but a true stupid person.
    a. She asked me how could I possibly wear a bikini since I had no boobs? (she was busty and had a fat stomach, so she wore a full piece), I however weighed all of 100 lbs and wore a size 3; my waist was 23" so you bet I wore a bikini. I'm not sure what wearing a bikini has to do with big boobs....
    b. We were both voice majors at a Christian college (I know, funny right?) and we both auditioned for the elite ensemble group. I didn't get in; she did....she told me to hang in there, we couldn't all be talented like her.....I would just have to work and practice harder to be better. With training I might some day get into the group too.

    IDK - with friends like that; who needs enemies?
  • LATeagno
    LATeagno Posts: 620 Member
    Most of the things on here aren't mean, they're stupid or misguided.

    Asking someone 'when is it due?' isn't mean unless they know you're not pregnant.

    Pointing you to the plus size clothes isn't mean, it's thoughtless.

    When I went into a clothes shop a few years ago, and without even asking me what size I was the guy told me that they didn't have anything for me, I didn't run to the internet and boohoo about how mean he was, I thought, 'bloody hell have I got that big?' and moved on.

    Get some perspective!!


    I'm sorry, last I checked, I wasn't boo-hooing. I was just telling a story and was honestly curious about other embarrassing moments. My "mean" comment was what my mother said. Thanks for your observations, though, forum police.
  • Slavic_Spice
    Slavic_Spice Posts: 78 Member
    A friend asked me if I wanted a pair of jeans she had bought and didnt like that were 3 sizes bigger then what I wear!!


    THIS. A friend who had weight loss surgery asked if I wanted some of her old clothes. Not only have I never been her size, but she is 6 inches shorter than me and bottom heavy. I am busty, carrying weight from the waist up.
  • blackmantis
    blackmantis Posts: 165 Member
    The guy at the store told me my lotto ticket wasn't a winner. I was devastated!
  • My ex-boyfriend once said, "You could always come to the gym with me, it'd do you good to lose some weight.." My response was a slap around the face!

    I was having a catch-up with a friend, walking and talking in town as you do.. there was a group of people behind me, don't know their age but obviously immaturity affects people of all ages and I heard them say, " Oh my god, eeeewww, look at the size of her legs.. Which one?.. That one with the green shoes, look at 'em, they're massive..". Just plain cruel.

    I was getting ready for a mock crime scene at university, as part of my course - you have to put on all the gear; facemask, gloves, goggles, hairnet, suit (like you'd wear for paintballing, decorating and the likes of) and shoe covers. My lecturer opened the box of suits, started handing them round.. She handed one to me, I said thanks and she said, "Oh no, that's not for you, that's Meg's [girl sat next to me], that's a medium sized one, you'll need a large..". Everyone around me was gobsmacked, I wanted to retaliate but I was so shocked, I couldn't say anything. Actually, these suits are 'one size fits all' and you only need a large suit if you're over 6ft.. I'm 5ft1.. So what was her excuse. B****.
  • Skinny_Beans
    Skinny_Beans Posts: 405 Member
    "you used to have enourmous breasts and a nice face, now you just have a nice face"

    ...yeah, thanks, that makes me feel awesome after losing 30 pounds. *kitten*.
  • gmrgirl
    gmrgirl Posts: 50 Member
    The meanest thing anyone ever said to me was by my ex-husband:

    "Online you have an 18 Charisma but once someone meets you, they see you have a 3."

    We were (are) gamers and that comment STILL hurts. Turned me into a hermit for 6-8 years. I still have a complex and self image problems and despite the love of those around me working to build me up, that comment sticks with me