What's the meanest thing someone said to you?

Wow - I can't believe how mean some parents are. I always thought my #1 job as parent was to love my children unconditionally and guide them kindly.

I am reminded of being a teenager and sitting in the rec room with 2 of my aunts. Two of my uncles were outside the door, and one of them commented loudly "when you have 2 or 3 Smith women in a room, you have a room FULL of women." Then my fat old uncles laughed and laughed. I felt so humiliated.

He had a point, though. We were all fat.

As a single mother for 14 years several friends said to me, "Your son doesnt' have a great future, he has the odds stacked against him--you being a single mother and all". They underestimated me...I put myself through nursing school with a 4am paper route, home catering business and raised that boy on my own with no support but lots of love and guidance from me.

Update: My awesome 6'5" son beat 11,000 applicants for a spot at the US Naval Academy, honors in aeronautical engineering, speaks fluent Mandarin chinese, doesn't smoke, drink and helps little old ladies across the street
I always told him if you put your mind to it, you can do anything....and he did.

Okay, mother horn tooting done for another day.

Without a doubt it was a comment on one of my youtube videos (they are Christian faith based). The commenter (of another faith) said in his country I would not be tolerated due to my disgusting body size. He further dug it in by saying I am shame to my husband, and a shame to my faith.

I cried for a couple days. I know it is youtube, the home of trolling at it's best. But that one really cut me deep, because my husband and my faith are vitally important to me. To think of shaming either, made my heart bleed. It also hurt because I felt there was truth in it. I did have a problem. I do struggle with gluttony. I could be so much better in health and appearance for my husband. And my morbid obesity isn't exactly a positive reflection on my faith. I am not a perfect person. Just as I have been forgiven, I chose to forgive him for his unkindness.

I moved on. Since then, not because of him, I have lost a lot of weight. So that makes me smile. And for the first time in many years, I feel like I have a control on my gluttony. I call it for what it is, even with a hypothyroid problem, I admit my responsibility in the gluttony I certainly participated in...and I am desperately working daily at changing it.

That is completely and absolutely awful! But your incredible forgiving reaction THAT is testimony to you as a wife, as someone with faith and as a beautiful human being.

My story is much less mean and more comical:

Me: Would you say these glasses suit me?
Specsavers staff member: No they make your face look rounder
Me: .....*stunned silence*..... er... ok.....

When I was 15 a girl commented on the size of my *kitten*, little did she know that would be the point where I started to criticize myself so much that it would lead to 3 years worth of eating disorders.

But now I have discover that no one has the right to put you down unless you let them so say **** YOU to people you think they have the right to judge you you only have one life so live it. RANT OVER!

I had just lost my son in automotive accident. A few days after we buried my son remains. I was told me to be thankful for my family. They know that we had just buried my son, because they were there at the graveside service.

1) I've always danced,...ballroom,salsa,hip hop,..etc..,my Mom says Wow!!.I cant get over how agile you are for being so big,or ya know a "larger" woman,!!!....I was 180lbs. at the time,.NOT..bed bound for cryin out loud!!



2) Years ago as a teen,.. my big bro(who I love like a Dad) once said ,Damn Ame,...u might wanna slow down on the icecream....,when his wife spoke up & said leave her alone..she Has a small waist,(28)....she just has really BIG HIPS!(36)...He
says "I'll say 50 footer!!! laugh,laugh.laugh- I was 15,...and cried that night.

3) Mom putting me on my very first diet - at age 10. Nothing needed to be "said"

Remember this is coming from a 5'10" guy who weighed 320lbs.....If you are fat you are fat! I tell people i went from a fat pig to just fat and will soon be normal sized.`

All the crap fat people say, even me in the past, about being comfortable with their wieght, or this is who I am; know deep down they are kidding themselves.

The best thing my doctor said to me is you MUST lose some weight, you are way to heavy.

I am now down alomost 55 lbs and feel so much better.

If you don't like what people say then change your lifestyle to a more healthy one and lose the weight.

You know -- you folks that come in here to tell others to suck it up and take the comments as motivation, don't you see that that's why people are on MFP in the first place?

It's wonderful that you all have the most amazing self-esteem that you don't let comments hurt you. Obviously, they hurt other people.

Move along, now.

I went into Victoria Secret when I was smaller than I am now. I had to have been a size 18 at most. When I asked what the largest size they had was the employee looked me up and down with a sneer. I was told 'Oh honey you need to look somewhere else. The only thing you'll fit into are granny panties.' I wanted to slap her. Instead I demanded a manager and proceeded to file a major complaint. I can't stand attitudes like that.

I walked into the retail store I used to work at and before saying hello, one of my former co-workers came up to me and said "WOW! You've gained a LOT of weight!" I just wanted to punch him in the face. He's the kind of person that likes to instigate and gossip, but that just really really hurt.

{{{{{ HUGS to everyone for mean things said--I literally can feel "some" of your pain I say "some of your pain, because the Bible says "no man "TRULY" knows another person's pain. I agree with that :flowerforyou:

Reading these replies makes my heart hurt for you all. I'm so sorry!


What life has taught me (and I haven't "mastered" the lessons in the least, I'm still learning), but I like to look at this type of meanest as a blessing in disguise as sheer unadulterated pain and a shove to do something about it--if at all possible. I try to look at meanest as the cliche "what does kill you will make you stronger and others like this:

"You shall know the truth, and the truth will MAKE you free"--Jesus

“Pain is only what you allow it to be”
― Cassandra Clare, City of Ashes


You know why we live in a world full of lies and deception? Because the truth hurts. People seem to believe lies like it's nothing but when I'm blatantly honest and it's not what they wanna hear they convince themselves it's a lie. Life doesn't stop for anybody. The sooner you accept the reality of whatever situation you may be in the happier you will be. Brian Zilinek quotes

“The keenest sorrow is to recognize ourselves as the sole cause of all our adversities.”
― Sophocles



The truth hurts but making the right choice is harder..

“Forgiveness has nothing to do with absolving a criminal of his crime. It has everything to do with relieving oneself of the burden of being a victim--letting go of the pain and transforming oneself from victim to survivor.”
― C.R. Strahan


The truth hurts but it doesn't kill. The lie pleases but it doesn't heal.

“Turn your wounds into wisdom.”
― Oprah Winfrey


Truth hurts - not the searching after; the running from!

“Pain will leave you, when you let go”
― Jeremy Aldana


“Behind every beautiful thing, there's some kind of pain.”
― Bob Dylan

“When someone stabs you it's not your fault that you feel pain.”
― Louise Penny,


OK, so truth hurts - but what else does truth do?--Teena Marie

“And so I wait. I wait for time to heal the pain and raise me to me feet once again - so that I can start a new path, my own path, the one that will make me whole again.”
― Jack Canfield


The truth hurts for a little while, but lies hurt forever.
- Eileen Parra

“The cure for pain is in the pain.”
― Rumi


I was running toward my dreams, tripped over reality and hit my head on the truth
- Unknown

“In order to rise from its own ashes, a Phoenix first must burn.”
― Octavia E. Butler


its easy to believe someone
when they’re telling you
exactly what you wanna hear
- Unknown

“Don't make light of any man's pain.”
― Patricia Briggs,

A boy in junior high told me I was shaped like a brick, geez thanks. Or that I have HUGE thighs or calves.

Now its comments like, "Boy you better be careful so the wind doesn't blow you away" or people telling my husband he should get his "poor tiny wife out of the cold before she freezes to death" pretty sure I'm not a child and that I can take care of myself or that the wind isn't going to blow a 100 pound object away--snarky comments like that really irk me.

Not fitness related but...

F!@# you and your dead husband.

From my maid of honour and ex best friend a year after my husband died.

Oh..there's a bunch of them.
My mother tried to get me to get surgery for years, and for some reason it really hurt me.Kind of...'Wow my being fat bothers you so much you'd let me go under the knife?' (NOT bashing anyone who's had surgery, I was just too afraid, I have an extreme fear of hospitals and being put under.)
I realize now that she was worried about my health, and it IS horrible... but trying to push me into something I don't want to do...well I don't react well to it. She's very happy I'm doing it on my own now.

At the gym I was on the treadmill and some 'bros' said 'Wow that poor treadmill, what's the weight limit on those things?'
And because I'm an apple I've been asked when I'm due like two billion times. I used to lie and give a fake date because I was too embarrassed. Haven't gotten those comments in a while though!

Mean people do suck though- I wish they'd just stay in their little 'elite' circles and leave me alone. I find that wearing black and having headphones in the entire time I'm at the gym helps. They might be saying it, but I don't hear it. If I don't hear it- it doesn't matter.

The meanest thing anyone ever said to me was "I will," after I proposed. That is now number one on the list of things I will never say again.

Mine really wasn't a weight thing, but I believe it created an eating disorder.

I started breaking out with acne when I was about 8 years old. Yes, 8. I have been seeing derms on and off for a very long time. I was called pizza face, ugly, etc.

The worst was when my grandma created "cures." She told me to put fermented (rotten) strawberries on my face. She even told me to put first morning URINE on my face. When I refused her "cures" she told me that I was just going to keep ruining my skin. I love her more than anything, but she actually did those things.

When I turned 16, I decided that I COULD control my weight and I got very skinny. I figured if I was very skinny, then people wouldn't notice my face as much. I ended up in a treatment center and the rest is history.

My skin is MUCH better now, and looking back I don't think it was ever as bad as I imagined.