What's the meanest thing someone said to you?

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  • Clemsonlkg
    Clemsonlkg Posts: 66 Member
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    A bagger at a local grocery store went on and on about how I looked like this girl from a specific episode of "Saved by the Bell." I went home and looked it up and it was the one where an overweight girl had a crush on Zack and he did not want to go to a dance with her. Guess who that guy thought I looked like? (Hint: it was not Zack.) I don't know why, but it really hurt my feelings to be singled out and compared to a person whose only function on the show was to be fat and undesirable. I wished he could have kept that thought to himself.
  • melsmith612
    melsmith612 Posts: 727 Member
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    My grandmother has been known to say, "You'd be so pretty if you just lost a little weight."
  • MzKel
    MzKel Posts: 3
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    #1 When are you due? (...& all variations of it like "What are you having?" , "I heard caffine is bad for people in your condtion" "Congratulations on your baby", "how many months are you?") :angry:

    #2 My ex used to say stuff like you shouldn't wear that, it makes you look fatter or flat out "you need to lose some weight" :mad:
    (side note: i'm 5"4' & the most I've ever weighed was 180lbs) ...notice I said he was my EX!! :laugh:
  • Lisa760
    Lisa760 Posts: 113 Member
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    Ok.. depends where do you come from or what are you trying to achieve. The Hungarian lady probably didn't mean to be mean. Just wanted to help. Remember that in East Europe people are more direkt but that doesn't mean they're rude.
    Yes, I heard from my husband bad things about my size too, and my son commented on my belly too.. but shall I be angry about it, do I really want them to lie to me and say "you look beautiful". I know I don't .. why don't we face the truth and do something about it.. Agree, sometimes the words could have been better than the ones we get to hear, but I think that we all (being here and trying to be a size, two or more smaller) do have selfesteem problems and whatever we hear about us will hurt us. So please do not take those comments as an attact, just try to understand why do they say it, maybe they want to help, motivate but they don't know how....
    Rude is rude, it doesn't matter if it intended that way or not. It's NOT my burden to be understanding or tolerant of another person's unsolicited comments or opinions. The best thing for my "self esteem problems" is to tell an offensive person to mind their own damn business. And if that hurts someone's feelings, I'll just say please don't take my comment as an attack just try to understand why I'm saying it because I just want to help and motivate you so you don't go through the rest of your life as an insensitive idiot.
  • testease
    testease Posts: 220
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    Are you getting smaller?
  • matchbox_girl
    matchbox_girl Posts: 535 Member
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    My crush in high school called me a "fat, red faced elf" behind my back. That killed me.

    A few summers ago my dad said to me (while I was in the middle of eating healthy and working out to lose weight) "Now when guys looks at you, you'll be able to know you can have them cuz you'll be just like the other skinny girls!"

    I know it didn't mean to come out that way, but DAMN.

    And, needless to say, I found the love of my life who DOES love me unconditionally without seeing size. Take that, dad.
  • Kaydoggie
    Kaydoggie Posts: 98 Member
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    "I don't know why I kissed you when I could have been kissing someone pretty"

    .....yeah.
  • Graceious1
    Graceious1 Posts: 716 Member
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    "Are you pregnant?" This was when I wasn't actually pregnant and it's happened twice.
  • joanthemom8
    joanthemom8 Posts: 375 Member
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    Been there, heard that! :(
  • Twyla17
    Twyla17 Posts: 9 Member
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    "Would it be easier if I was on top?"

    -Classic Burn
    LMAO!
  • YaGigi
    YaGigi Posts: 817 Member
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    Wow, some people really had issues with parents...
    My dad tells me sometimes "honey, you've gained weight", or "you eat too much" but I don't take it close to heart.
  • tmfrater77
    tmfrater77 Posts: 26 Member
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    Yesterday I was at a store browsing through racks of clothes. A store employee came up to me-- an old lady with a strong Hungarian accent-- and attempted to help me, unsolicited, by saying, "The plus sizes are over here, sweetheart," and then motioned in the direction of that department. I wasn't looking for plus size clothes. Seriously, if you work in retail, never, EVER assume you know someone's size by directing them to a specific department. It's not helpful-- it's just embarrassing. I can read signs. I know where the plus size department is. I don't need you to tell me. Ugh. Even my eight year old daughter said, "Mom, shouldn't she have just said 'is there anything I can help you with?'" LOL... yeah, a third grader GOT it.

    A few years ago, while standing in line for a movie with my mom, she said to me, "you know, if you'd just lose 50 pounds, you could be engaged in no time. You're pretty enough for it." Again.... SERIOUSLY?! (I met my husband three months after she said that and married him last September. Thanks, mom.)

    What about you? Has anyone ever said anything flat out mean to you regarding your weight, or perhaps tried to be helpful but ended up overstepping a boundary?

    That was an awful thing for that lady to say. I'm an plus sized but one of my cousin's is junior sized and I often shop for for her gifts in the junior dept. I may need to get escorted out by security if a salesperson ever says something as rude as this to me. The comments I constantly hear are "you look like you've lost weight" when I hadn't lost a single pound in months. It's so super frustrating because it seems as if other people focus solely on my weight. Why can't they just tell me I look good instead of making it purely based on whether or not I lose a few lbs?
  • zealousmissjj_wechange
    zealousmissjj_wechange Posts: 445
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    "I don't know why I kissed you when I could have been kissing someone pretty"

    .....yeah.

    WHAT???? *Storms out to kick that person in the *kitten**
  • bleacheblonde
    bleacheblonde Posts: 333
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    Sounds a lot of us need to be kicking some people's a$$es, seriously!

    A random girl at the grocery store asked if I was pregnant once....that stung. In 7th grade I had to stand next to this really mean popular kid during a choir class picture, and he told his friends he didn't want to be standing next a fat *kitten*. That one still stings years later. I know I should get over it, but given the chance, I would still step on his face wearing stiletto heels. There are other reasons why he is a piece of crap, not just that comment.
  • stephdeeable
    stephdeeable Posts: 1,407 Member
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    I get the "You have such a pretty face, if only you'd lose some weight" quite a bit, from strangers, not my friends or family. Which is the most backhanded compliment you can give.

    Strangers also like to give me unsolicited diet advice. It's not even good advice, haha.
  • wow29
    wow29 Posts: 283 Member
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    My best friend told me that I should give up trying to lose weight on my own (because it would never work long term) and go get surgery.
    Please get another friend:grumble: :brokenheart: :huh:
  • mtritz
    mtritz Posts: 2
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    I've had lots of hurtful things said.
    You'd be so beautiful if you lost 50 pounds. You're already gorgeous but you'd be a stone cold fox. :-S
    Or just get a gastric bypass.
    Or you're online dating profile should read BBW not a few extra pounds. (I'm not actually a BBW).
  • Dark_amethyst
    Dark_amethyst Posts: 20 Member
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    My Grandmother used to tell me that no man wants someone as fat as me... and since she didn't want me to end up alone that she would pay for my weight loss surgery. She kept at it for about 3 years. Finally realized how mean she was and stopped doing it.
  • Eat_clean_stay_tiny
    Eat_clean_stay_tiny Posts: 67
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    " No one will ever love you "

    I was 6 at the time and a bit overweight and going through bone surgeries, I couldn't move so obviously I wasn't in the greatest shape. Then she made me go on the tredmill and cried when she looked at me because I was chubby.

    Now I have an eating disorder and am very thin and she says " your so disgustingly thin now ew "
    I can never win.
    My sister said that to me. Still haunts me to this day. I'm getting better now though and rarely speak to her now
  • Angie_1991
    Angie_1991 Posts: 447 Member
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    When are you due?


    >.<

    This........I was like, I just lost 40 pounds...are you serious.........?

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