What's the meanest thing someone said to you?

A speaking scale told me, "hey, one person at a time, PLEASE!"

This made me pause. Surely that's a joke, right?

ummm.... yes. And a fairly old one. ;-)

My soon to be ex looks at me in the car one day and says, 'do you seriously want to be unattractive to your wife?'. This after going from 250 to 175 and running marathons! Like I said, soon to be ex-wife! WTF?

My soon to be ex looks at me in the car one day and says, 'do you seriously want to be unattractive to your wife?'. This after going from 250 to 175 and running marathons! Like I said, soon to be ex-wife! WTF?

If I ever see her, I'm going chola on her *kitten*. *cracks knuckles*

I dealt with a LOT of bullying in elementary/middle school. It died down by the time I hit high school, for some reason. I got into a lot of fights with boys that would hang up and call me fat names/throw rocks at my head in elementary school, and my bus made school absolutely intolerable for me during middle school. I tried to skip class almost every other day because riding the bus was a torturous and terrifying experience for me.

Nearly all of the kids on my bus then when call me fat, chubby, "Twinkie Girl", ask me if I wanted a Snickers because they knew I was hungry, et cetera. No one would let me sit next to them, ever. When I walked down the bus aisle, kids would make sound effects of a dinosaur crushing the earth under its weight. It was pretty horrible, and the bus driver just let it all happen. I remember crying almost every day.

When I broke up with my first boyfriend, he used a lot of fat insults to hurt me, despite the fact that he had been loving and supportive when we were together. He told me that I was fat and disgusting and that he was dating a girl that wasn't Shamoo, and they had ALSO had sex (something that was very hurtful for me, as we were both each other's firsts and the immediacy of a new relationship).

Men also think it's funny to mock hit on a girl. It really has influenced how I deal with men now. Being genuinely approached now, at a lower weight, and constantly - I am so unfamiliar with that experience. Guys catcall me often now, and I instinctively am offended/distrustful because I recall the time when catcalls were a mocking joke in order to ridicule my size and desirability.

In my case, it wasn't what was said but what was expressed.

I had a knack for frightening small children with just my presence alone when I was at my heaviest. It was probably a combination of my weight, hairiness, and acne... looking back on it though is quite funny.

well this might come off bitter.... my ex and i broke up like 2 months ago.... and when i confronted on him cheating on me he says this to me in text. you GOT bigger not smaller. when do i get what i want from you.... mind you i just had surgery and was on rest for two months and once i was able to workout again i got into a car accident which was another 2 months..... o the drama.... it kills me now....

When I was in the beginning of my last year at highschool my mum told me I was so fat nobody would ever find me attractive and I'd never get married. I stopped eating right away lost lots of weight and became very sick.

I was waiting in line at a department store to pay for some clothes after losing weight from having a baby six months prior, when a lady behind me asked "when are you due?"

I was so embarassed that I just went along with it and said "in six months". I felt really low after that and stuffed myself with chinese food to feel better.

Ofcourse it didn't. It made me feel worse instead.:sad:

That was 16years ago.

Now...my co-worker said to me a few days ago "Eat something. You look anorexic." That is the first time someone's told me I'm too skinny.

It's always been "I'd look prettier if I'd just lose weight". :huh:

I'd had a miscarriage, and had just gotten out of the hospital from a D&C that was gutwrenching. My son came home from a boyscout trip and climbed into my lap, then put his head on my chest.

My then MIL took one look and said to me: "It's a good thing that baby died". When I looked at her she made the comment again and said how I couldn't possibly have time for another child when I spoiled the ones I had like that.

Possibly the meanest thing I've ever read in my life. I could cry.

Bump..

Mum in 2002: "You too skinny."

Mum in 2012: "You getting fat."

Sending out love and support to all. Hope you can all heal, rise about these things and meet your goals!

I agree 100% with this sentiment. It's heart breaking to know that so many people have been hurt to such staggering degrees. Mean people stink! It's nice of everyone to share their stories so that others won't feel alone in their pain. All I can say is "put all of this hate out of your minds." The people who attack are miserable in some regard or completely oblivious to the their mean spirit, either way, they lose out for not taking the time to get to know you in the first place. You are on this site to strengthen and make healthy choices in life, keep up your hard work! For the record, some of us think you are fabulous, sight unseen. I wish you strength and inner peace! :flowerforyou:

This thread makes me sad. I know these comments cut very deeply, but let's all try to remember that we're making positive changes in our lives, and hanging on to horrible things that people have said is unproductive.

Forgive them. Living life being insensitive to others keeps them at arms length from people who could love them. They miss out. You don't.

"Holding on to anger is like picking up a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one who gets burned." The Buddha

Actually I'm motivated by reading them.
We've all heard them in various degrees, and it sucks, but when I read about the mean thing people have said to all of you, I feel like 1. I'm really not alone here, and 2. I want to try harder.

I was bullied pretty much around the clock as a kid- parents, sisters, kids on the school bus, kids at school, kids after school... you get the idea. I've managed to forgive most of the stupid schoolyard stuff and have even become friendly with a few of the kids from back in the day. Harder to forgive is the stuff from my family. Calling me out on my weight and then pressuring me to eat more. Getting hauled into the Juniors' Plus section at a very young age. Having my mother constantly tell me to "suck it in" whenever we were in public and having her tell the seamstress for my prom dress to just "let it out as far as it will go".

Looking back at pictures (which slowly ceased to exist as my body image and self-esteem crumbled and burned), I was not a fat kid. I sure as hell wasn't as skinny as my precious sisters, but at most I had about 20 extra pounds on me. I was active as hell until i was 14 and even then I maybe weighed 135. I constantly hid my body under obscenely baggy clothing because I was horribly self-conscious about every part of my body. I eventually fell out of my active lifestyle and graduated high school at 174 and 5 feet tall. As they say, if only I were as skinny as when I thought I was fat.

Since then I've "ballooned" up to 205 and am slowly drifting back down and am GETTING MORE COMPLIMENTS ABOUT MY BODY THAN ANY OTHER TIME IN MY LIFE. Those hateful people who call themselves family are out of my life and I choose to surround myself with those who care about me. It's not just about how you look but how you feel. You may feel good with vindication for a little while but there is nothing quite like realizing that hot piece is genuinely interested in you.

I cant feel your pulse, there is too much fat. Im not going to be able to take your blood pressure as there is so much fat covering the pulse and im used to doing it on skinny arms.

This was by a student nurse. I was only a little bit over weight at the time too.