Mrs. Robinson Syndrome? What's it all about?

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  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    I found this a lot on internet dating sites. Despite stating that I was only interested in men over 40, I got an awful lot of very persistent 20 somethings. In theory, the exchange is somehting like:

    Woman - gets attention from younger male, feels flattered and sexy and attractive, gets to have sex with someone with no bagage and a fair bit of stamina.

    Man - gets to have sex.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    IT is fascinating. The older I ge the more attention I get whether it's wanted or not. Perhaps some of it can be chalked up to taking care of ourselves, and the self confidence. And the no games thing..
  • Swissmiss
    Swissmiss Posts: 8,754 Member
    Your translation says it all.
  • Scott_Chaput
    Scott_Chaput Posts: 114
    I don't think that men are attracted to older women because you're easy prey. I don't think that men think its easier to get into your pants. I don't know though I can't speak for all men but I think it would be MORE difficult to get with an older woman.

    You're more experienced, something about being out of reach makes you sexier. Its hard to describe and put into words.

    Cougars rule!
  • darisey
    darisey Posts: 228 Member
    Part of it might be that you don't look anything close to 43. I would have guessed a decade or more younger.

    This is what I was thinking... You look 20 at the most. A very beautiful 20 at that! :)
  • ravengirl1611
    ravengirl1611 Posts: 285 Member
    I think it's a few things - an older woman is usually more confident with herself which is sexy in and of itself - also as has been said we've been there done that so although on one had we may have more baggage we've also had more time to deal with it and get over a lot of it.

    A 20ish woman (real or imagined) seems to be looking for the future husband/father/paycheck and the older woman (again real or imagined) usually isnt - the perception is that if we're out in a club or what not we're out just looking for a good time which is usually what a 20ish man wants - fun with no strings.

    Also as mentioned - the older you get the more of a conversationalist you are - usually.

    As for c-section scars - my scars are just another piece of who I am - without those c-section scars I wouldnt have my great kids and I wouldnt give them up just to have 2 less scars - if you cant deal with the scars then you cant deal with me - they're part of me and a big part of how I came to be who I am. And if a man is so shallow that he's got issues with the scars isnt going to be around long. Shallow is fine for puddles not for a partner.
  • AnahitaCanDoIt
    AnahitaCanDoIt Posts: 448
    Aw thanks! :) That's so sweet of you to say...I've had no 'work' done but not because I'm against it....just can't timetable it in!
    But I so would! But gracefully towards old age I shan't go. I plan on going kicking and screaming. I'll stop when my ears meet in the middle of my face. (JOKING)....
  • Scott_Chaput
    Scott_Chaput Posts: 114
    I think to sum it up isn't isn't the ease of catching the prey but the QUALITY of the prey.
  • tabinmaine
    tabinmaine Posts: 965 Member
    Older woman = Less games, better educated,,,,can actually have a conversation!! Believe it or not an educated woman is hot!!


    and that.....is a smart man lol
  • AnahitaCanDoIt
    AnahitaCanDoIt Posts: 448
    I think to sum it up isn't isn't the ease of catching the prey but the QUALITY of the prey.

    Top drawer!
  • sho3girl
    sho3girl Posts: 10,799 Member
    I think to sum it up isn't isn't the ease of catching the prey but the QUALITY of the prey.

    Top drawer!

    i think youve got an admirer there!
  • dorothytd
    dorothytd Posts: 1,138 Member
    IT is fascinating. The older I ge the more attention I get whether it's wanted or not. Perhaps some of it can be chalked up to taking care of ourselves, and the self confidence. And the no games thing..

    Agreed. And it doesn't just attract the 20-somethings. You also see it in the posts where people ask what a guy wants in a girl. The answer, in general, is not a physical trait - it is confidence.
  • xo_Sarah_xo
    xo_Sarah_xo Posts: 308 Member
    Older woman = Less games, better educated,,,,can actually have a conversation!! Believe it or not an educated woman is hot!!

    I didn't know you were so "deep" Everlast.....(insert innuendo here, lol).

    As a newly separated 34 year old mother of 2 I hope to someday be considered a MILF (I even chose that as my "stripper name" in another thread :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: ).
  • cutchro
    cutchro Posts: 396 Member
    I am one of those "older" woman out on the market now and get hit up by very young men... I ask them also what they want an older woman for! Can't they find anyone their own age... I have gotten the following responses:

    1. There is no drama with older women
    2. There is no pressure with older women
    3. Older women know what they are doing
    4. Older women know what they want and are not afraid to ask for it
    5. There are no expectations with older woman.

    So in a sense... we are comfortable in our own skin and they wanna see what that is like!
  • elprincipito
    elprincipito Posts: 1,200 Member
    this is all bs. there is attractive older and younger women
    /thread
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    I found this a lot on internet dating sites. Despite stating that I was only interested in men over 40, I got an awful lot of very persistent 20 somethings. In theory, the exchange is somehting like:

    Woman - gets attention from younger male, feels flattered and sexy and attractive, gets to have sex with someone with no bagage and a fair bit of stamina.

    Man - gets to have sex.

    That's a pretty broad assumption..
  • AnahitaCanDoIt
    AnahitaCanDoIt Posts: 448
    I know I am certainly more confident than I was in my 20s, especially in the sex department. Now, if we could create a time machine where I could have the life/sex experience I have NOW but in my 25yr old body (which I didn't appreciate at the time!!)...now yer talkin'! For starters, I'd take zero rubbish from lads...mind you, I don't think I could make it in the FB/text/email era...in my day, if you dumped someone, you did it in person or by post (snail mail, ye youngins call it)...

    PartyTime!!
  • AnahitaCanDoIt
    AnahitaCanDoIt Posts: 448
    I am one of those "older" woman out on the market now and get hit up by very young men... I ask them also what they want an older woman for! Can't they find anyone their own age... I have gotten the following responses:

    1. There is no drama with older women
    2. There is no pressure with older women
    3. Older women know what they are doing
    4. Older women know what they want and are not afraid to ask for it
    5. There are no expectations with older woman.

    So in a sense... we are comfortable in our own skin and they wanna see what that is like!

    Enjoy yourself!! :)
  • jpfister1966
    jpfister1966 Posts: 7
    As a single\divorced male of 46 years of age here is my take:
    I will take a 46 year old over a 26 year old ANY DAY!

    Women that take care of themselves and have confidence trumps a younger woman everytime. It is the life experiences that make an older woman more attractive to me.

    And don't think that for a second that some older women don't play games or have drama, you can only hide crazy for so long!
  • bricktowngal
    bricktowngal Posts: 206
    I think the younger guys are attracted to older woman for one reason and that is to gain experence. Once that's accomplished they ditch us to move on to the younger woman and settle down, get married and have children. That's my opinion, don't beat me up for it!
  • BEAUTY4UBEAST
    BEAUTY4UBEAST Posts: 372
    <~~~ envy's Mrs. Robinson :grumble:
  • joeysox
    joeysox Posts: 195 Member
    Part of it might be that you don't look anything close to 43. I would have guessed a decade or more younger.

    have to agree, you look very young! x
  • RunningDirty
    RunningDirty Posts: 293
    This thread is full of awesome. :heart:
  • GamerGurl729
    GamerGurl729 Posts: 286 Member
    I don't really think of myself as a cougar, but I'm 32 and my husband is 27. It just works of us. I'm definitely more aware of our age difference than he is. But I can agree that he loves the fact that I'm educated, I don't play games and I know what I want.
  • AnahitaCanDoIt
    AnahitaCanDoIt Posts: 448
    Part of it might be that you don't look anything close to 43. I would have guessed a decade or more younger.

    have to agree, you look very young! x

    Thanks! It's probably a combo of giddiness and doing a job I love, having a great family and friends and never ever missing an opportunity to have a laugh....

    All this positive feedback is not what I planned for this thread but I have to say, it's made me feel great before starting my four week boot camp challenge!

    You said in another thread no one flirts with you? How could that be? I don't get it!
  • joeysox
    joeysox Posts: 195 Member
    I don't really think of myself as a cougar, but I'm 32 and my husband is 27. It just works of us. I'm definitely more aware of our age difference than he is. But I can agree that he loves the fact that I'm educated, I don't play games and I know what I want.

    similar age gap to me and my husband im 27 hes 22....i very much noticed the age difference as he tells me how close to 30 i am! xx
  • AnahitaCanDoIt
    AnahitaCanDoIt Posts: 448
    This thread is full of awesome. :heart:

    All women of all ages rule.... especially YOU if you can run... it's something I would love to be able to do. Seems as unattainable as me starting to fly spontaneously.
  • joeysox
    joeysox Posts: 195 Member
    Part of it might be that you don't look anything close to 43. I would have guessed a decade or more younger.

    have to agree, you look very young! x

    Thanks! It's probably a combo of giddiness and doing a job I love, having a great family and friends and never ever missing an opportunity to have a laugh....

    All this positive feedback is not what I planned for this thread but I have to say, it's made me feel great before starting my four week boot camp challenge!

    You said in another thread no one flirts with you? How could that be? I don't get it!

    lol ive just always been the 'nice' friend kinda thing the one people 'awww' at haha. never been chatted up, i asked my friend last night if maybe i have a '**** off' aura? lol xxx
  • Allie_71
    Allie_71 Posts: 1,063 Member
    Jumping in because I've wondered this as well. I get slightly uncomfortable when someone younger approaches me (I'm 41) and always feel like I have to blurt out how old I am.:indifferent: Very smooth. :ohwell:
  • AnahitaCanDoIt
    AnahitaCanDoIt Posts: 448
    I don't really think of myself as a cougar, but I'm 32 and my husband is 27. It just works of us. I'm definitely more aware of our age difference than he is. But I can agree that he loves the fact that I'm educated, I don't play games and I know what I want.

    similar age gap to me and my husband im 27 hes 22....i very much noticed the age difference as he tells me how close to 30 i am! xx

    Love it! 22! and that's not a big age gap, really...my hub is 2.75yrs younger, for the few months I'm 3 yrs older I get some slagging. Though I look younger than he does (in my own head), he will always be my boytoy!

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