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Why dont girls come up to guys

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  • Posts: 1,108 Member
    They might seem to think the Guy is the one supposed to go up to them. BUT *kitten* IS CHANGING NOW!! haha,
    Us guys are having to put them girls in line first then pick ;)
  • Posts: 340 Member
    I've had plenty of women approach me - typically late 30s/early 40s are confident enough to do so and that's a turn on for me.

    Yep/this. Since I turned 30 I've had no trouble talking to anybody I wanted to. *shrugs* It's actually better because I have a particular, eccentric taste in guys, and this way, nobody feels bad.
  • Posts: 754

    Very true....and some women are cougars in training ;)

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  • Posts: 2,564 Member
    They do...
  • Posts: 830 Member
    It's your test!. . Women instinctually want to make babies with Bold, Strong men. . It's evolution. . It's why the human race survived. . Ever watch nature shows? The male is ALWAYS the aggressor and the female always seems like she's yawning. . . same with people!

    :laugh:

    Yep! The guy needs to "peacock" around her a little to draw her interest, and then when she's not looking, club her on the head and drag her back to his cave. :laugh:
  • Posts: 4,251 Member

    Yep! The guy needs to "peacock" around her a little to draw her interest, and then when she's not looking, club her on the head and drag her back to his cave. :laugh:
    works for you, right?
  • Posts: 96 Member
    Depends on the girl and her comfidence i guess! I don't mind approaching guys, I just prefer to be approached. :bigsmile:
  • Posts: 830 Member
    works for you, right?

    You've heard about my cave, no doubt. :wink:
  • Posts: 592 Member
    Of all the people I've dated, I probably initiated conversation with 75% of them. If I don't approach you, I'm not interested. Easy as that.
  • Posts: 2,121 Member
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  • Posts: 2,094 Member
    I think many men are too intimidated by a pretty girl to approach her, so they never meet! I see nothing wrong with being a confident woman and making the first move. I've done it several times and never regretted it.

    I dont think it is the intimidation factor but more of the she is too good looking to be available factor.
  • Posts: 1,682 Member
    maybe you smell funny
  • Posts: 2,094 Member
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    LMFAO!!!
  • Posts: 266 Member
    I dont have a problem with that at all. Its so liberating and sexy.
  • Posts: 1,144
    Being approached by a girl is hotttttt. :heart:
  • Posts: 21,219 Member
    I do. I'm generally the one who initiates. Although I am single and it seems like I can't make it to a second date, so maybe I scare them off. :embarassed:
  • Posts: 385 Member
    I approach guys. I just asked one out and he said yes.
  • Posts: 1,272 Member
    Biologically speaking, boys are the predators and girls are the prey. :wink:

    this is what i've found. - or maybe have a mental block with this and therefore cant just go upto guys. :smile:

    also i'm generally friendly and have had way too many experiences of friendliness being taken for the thinking 'oohh she likes me'.

    so come on, share some hints and tips on what we can do when approaching a guy?
  • Posts: 2,121 Member
    Biologically speaking, boys are the predators and girls are the prey. :wink:

    This is a turn on for some reason lol
  • Posts: 209
    I would approach a guy to start talking, but I kinda like a little eye contact first. I don't want to "bother" you :)

    I'm more confident than I used to be so I guess it's just easier now.

  • I dont think it is the intimidation factor but more of the she is too good looking to be available factor.

    REALLY? Men assume good looking women are always taken?
  • Posts: 2,094 Member
    I approach guys. I just asked one out and he said yes.

    It is much different for a guy though. Most if not all of the time we are already behind the 8 ball. Reason being because, lets keep it real, girls think that the guy is talking for them to just get into bed with them. Am I right or am I way off on this one?
  • Well I know the reason they don't come up to me (fat). Women are generally pretty shallow.
  • Posts: 209

    It is much different for a guy though. Most if not all of the time we are already behind the 8 ball. Reason being because, lets keep it real, girls think that the guy is talking for them to just get into bed with them. Am I right or am I way off on this one?

    That's what I usually presume when a guy actually talks to me?!?
  • Posts: 1,649 Member
    Honestly, entitlement. If I have to approach you, it's not worth the bother. :bigsmile:
  • Posts: 2,094 Member

    REALLY? Men assume good looking women are always taken?

    Majority of the time.....yes, this is what guys think. We assume that at all times a pretty girl is taken. It is one of our faults.
  • Posts: 166

    REALLY? Men assume good looking women are always taken?

    I'm so glad I never assumed that good looking women are taken. So many out there are single because all of the other guys are assuming otherwise...haha fools!!!
  • Posts: 3,755 Member
    Well I know the reason they don't come up to me (fat). Women are generally pretty shallow.

    And men aren't shallow? They generally approach the thinner/more attractive women as well.

    Do you know for a fact they aren't approaching you because of your weight?
  • I asked my husband out on our first date :>
  • Posts: 985 Member
    I would totally go right up to you and start talking. Maybe girls near you just suck...
    Or maybe the problem is that they're GIRLS.
    WOMEN would definitely go right up to you, we know what we want and we take it!

    AGREED!
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