Ladies, how do u feel about your man having female friends?

Ive always been friendly with girls, abit like a tomgirl if you like? In primary school I was very friendly with a few girls, after school I would hang out with girls and boys. In high school I was exactly the same, and became very close with a few girls, they were my best friends.. especially one of them who really was my best friend. We would hang out together always in school and after school, always together. She would help me with my relationships and I would help her with hers, we told each other everything and shared everything.
Even now I am in college and I sometimes find myself just with girls.

I could not live without girls in my life, lads are kinda boring.

I am no cheat. I have never cheated on a girl in my life.

Ive been with my current girlfriend for 19 months now and sometimes its hard for her to know about me being friendly with girls, but shes ok with it or pretends to be at least.

Its true and I promise you, not all lads are jerks, and it is possible for a male and female to just actually be really good friends and nothing more.

My advice to you is.... The fact you know about girls he speaks too.... At least he isnt trying to hide it from you?
You have to trust him and stop worrying. You may begin to worry and stop trusting him when he gives you a reason too

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gahhh I can't get into it. Makes me literally sick lol

No disrespect but I do not have female friends outside of family and the friends we hangout together with. From the beginning of our relationship we discussed this issue and decided to NOT have opposite sex friends because eventually it will cause problems down the road.

I have a hard time with it. I have a number of personal, mental issues that are part of the problem, including a traumatic divorce, and low self-esteem issues. I always feel threatened by female friends he has. I have no reason to worry, at least not with him. But the past sticks in my head, and I have a really hard time with it, especially if I see anything I construe as flirting. Which is silly because I'm a flirty type, so I understand that not all flirting has anything to do with pursuing someone.

My current boyfriend and I started as a LDR. We did the back and forth thing for 4 years before I finally moved to the east coast to be with him.

There were some things in the beginning that made me suspicious, but I think that was really before we'd solidified as a couple, and I've been able to (mostly) let those things go. But my own issues still remain.

If you ever want/need to talk about this, feel free to PM me anytime. I totally understand.

Pull a robbery. Dump him and take his girls.

Our friends are generally shared (male and female) so I don't currently have this going on. But I can say with certainty the times I've tried to have exclusive male friends I've been burned. Even at my age (39) it recently happened. My guy "friend" ended up just wanting to sleep with me (kept doing inappropriate things--ugh had to drop him). I am the social one in my relationship, so friends usually come around via me. I have decided no more male friends unless they are friends with my DH too/first and no more of me going out with just a guy friend (he better have his SO or my DH needs to be there). I worry zero about my DH because he has built up a ton of trust with me over the years. He doesn't hide anything from me plus he is a stand up guy and a feminist. We also have a larger than usual percentage of gay friends so I don't usually worry about the girls (the guys are a different story though).

I think you should trust your instincts. You haven't been together long so there may be nothing to worry about with this friend of his. You may end up being great friends with her (and like I said shared friends are usually no problem). But of course if you think he is being a dog that is something entirely different. Why don't you all go out? You like him, he likes her, so you'll probably end up liking her too.

And last thing, my partner has a lot of other "options" because of the nature of his work. But the women there all know and like me (we also happen to represent some sort of mythological relationship to them but that is a different story entirely only relevant because they are less likely to want to see us break up). So while I know there are a lot of ladies with crushes on my man (he's gorgeous and sensitive so I totally get that) I think women (in general) find it harder to screw over other women who they know and like. Not that I think my man would do this, but I think a few of the women might at least try if they didn't know me. So yeah, get to know her.

Pull a robbery. Dump him and take his girls.

Lol, or this^

GUYS AND GIRLS CANNOT BE "JUST FRIENDS".

There is no way. If he is truly devoted to you, tell him that the female friends will have to stop. Also, if he wants to hang out with them, then ask to meet them first. If you like her, then maybe it's okay. If you don't, then he should respect and trust that you are doing what is best for your relationship.

Word it well like "you know, I just want our relationship to continue in the right direction. I trust you, and I don't want anything to come between us." say it with a smile!

I COMPLETELY DISAGREE WITH THIS!!!! If you are not mature enough to handle a friendship with the opposite sex then that is just sad!! My best friend from high school, whom I still talk to and hang out with (both with and without my husband) is a guy. We NEVER liked each other. I have numerous friends from college that are guys and we, again, never liked each other.

It is sad that 2 people can't be friends with one another because of gender. Of course secrecy shouldn't happen and open communication should be a part of the relationship!!! I would be more than pissed if my husband had ever told me that I had to stop talking to/hanging out with my guy friends. With immaturity like this then you shouldn't be in a relationship because you aren't mature enough to handle a grown up relationship.

Exactly. I can have guy friends without wanting to rip their clothes off them. I mean seriously?

I trust him 100%.