Cousinly Love

Let it go. I have cousins and it's like have a twin sibling. Because you can be the same age with your cousin or just a little off by a few years and it's like having a sister brother b/c you get into trouble together and all that stuff. I call my cousins my little bro and sis, because we treat each other like that.

Don't let it bother you too much, they're family. At least you know if things get serious with you two, your children will be close to their relatives.

Sound like Y'all from Indiana :bigsmile:

I have ALOT of cousins im close with..one of my cousins had a girlfriend,she basically told me once that she didnt want us hanging out because they were having there time alone and i politely told her," that i was in this family before her,and ill be here after her,so suck it up cupcake"... but, i dont get to see alot of my cousins im close with because i live three hours away and when im home for the holidays,im SO BUSY!! the perks of being the favorite in a big family.lol.

i'm one of the older cousins and well i think of them as my brothers and sisters, they come to me for advice and all kinds of things.. im not about to sleep on the floor when theres enough room in one of my cousins beds..just throwin that out there..
so you shouldnt be worried about said sleep overs and i never call any of my family if im in town and im just gunna pop in for a visit and i dont have to its the beauty of being family, i can come over whenever i wantt!!!

so, stop stressin.

but, i do have the most adorable little cousins ever.just sayin!

I wouldn't be worried. My cousins xwife was VERY jealous of our relationship. Him and I are just very close. Always have been. My family hugs a lot and spends a lot of time together. That is our normal. Many may see it as odd or weird but It's not. I consider him to be one of my close friends. Don't get jealous over it. They're family. You may end up hurting your relationship with him.

I do BUT you have to realize they grew up together. They're family. They have a tight bond. Have you told him how you feel?

I wouldn't be worried. My cousins xwife was VERY jealous of our relationship. Him and I are just very close. Always have been. My family hugs a lot and spends a lot of time together. That is our normal. Many may see it as odd or weird but It's not. I consider him to be one of my close friends. Don't get jealous over it. They're family. You may end up hurting your relationship with him.

I wouldn't say I'm jealous.. Then again, maybe I am. I just don't like to feel like someone is more important than I am, you know?

Most likely, he doesn't understand why you're jealous of his cousin. He probably just sees her as a very good friend/family member. Like I said, its his family. Put yourself in his shoes.

I do BUT you have to realize they grew up together. They're family. They have a tight bond. Have you told him how you feel?

I wouldn't be worried. My cousins xwife was VERY jealous of our relationship. Him and I are just very close. Always have been. My family hugs a lot and spends a lot of time together. That is our normal. Many may see it as odd or weird but It's not. I consider him to be one of my close friends. Don't get jealous over it. They're family. You may end up hurting your relationship with him.

I wouldn't say I'm jealous.. Then again, maybe I am. I just don't like to feel like someone is more important than I am, you know?

I have. But he gets all weird whenever I talk about it. He gets kind of angry. Not sure why

just break up

The only comparison I have is my own family. I am Mexican, and as such we have a big family, and my cousins (all male) and I are all around the same age. We grew up together, had sleepovers, and hung out. But that was when we were kids. We act like friends now, but no more sleepovers (unless its to nurse a hangover, then its the couch, haha).

Well the only time I sleep in close quarters with my cousins is the various family trips we have. The aunts and uncles get the actual rooms, the cousins sleep on the floor (well we've upgraded to blow up mattresses). But most of the time, we're like friends, who call and hang out, but not get all up in each other's space.

So coming from a very close Mexican family, I find this behavior a little strange. Well what I find most strange is that he ignores you when she's there, and gets defensive when you challenge him on it.

I would sit him down, and have a frank talk, but proceed the conversation in terms of "I"
For example, "I feel like I'm being ignored when she's over, I feel left out....." etc etc

If you go on the offensive with you, you're spending too much time with her, you always push me aside for her, then he'll get super defensive.

I guess, another tactic you could try is to really invest time in talking with her. Like girlfriends and such. Maybe then you could let on that you'd like a little more time with your bf.

This is pretty strange, IMO.
It's one thing to have a close relationship, but to be having "sleepovers" when she lives in the same city and they are how old? I find that odd.

He is 16, almost 17. Me and his cousin are both 18.

The real question is why an 18 year old is dating someone under age...

He is only a year and a half younger, not too big of an age difference.

Lol, that's not the way the law sees it. That's statuatory rape in most states. But anyway, it doesn't make sense why you're jealous of his cousin, then again it doesn't make sense why they have sleep overs. I mean, I have cousins that live 500 miles away in PA, and we're only several years apart, and even when we were teens, we never slept in the same room. I just don't get it.

This has to be the most amusing forum I've ever read. :laugh:

I know right!

I want to say this is ok...but how you described it made me feel uncomfortable............ I understand why you feel bothered by this...especially if he ignores you when she is around? that is not right, however, some may say that you might just be imagining this all, but then I sometimes feel that we, women are right in our feelings usually... I am sorry I am not much help in this situation. I think you did the right thing to talk to him about it, but I don't like how he just got mad at you...somehow you have to get him to realize/understand how this is making you feel...hopefully he will change a bit in how he acts

This is pretty strange, IMO.
It's one thing to have a close relationship, but to be having "sleepovers" when she lives in the same city and they are how old? I find that odd.

He is 16, almost 17. Me and his cousin are both 18.

The real question is why an 18 year old is dating someone under age...

He is only a year and a half younger, not too big of an age difference.

Lol, that's not the way the law sees it. That's statuatory rape in most states. But anyway, it doesn't make sense why you're jealous of his cousin, then again it doesn't make sense why they have sleep overs. I mean, I have cousins that live 500 miles away in PA, and we're only several years apart, and even when we were teens, we never slept in the same room. I just don't get it.

Actually, the laws have changed in most of the states. That's acceptable in a lot of states.


To the OP....I don't have words to describe this situation.