girls dont like skinny guys

Must be different around where I'm from because just about all girls I know have told me or my friend that they
Wouldn't date me because I'm too skinny. Maybe in the wrong part of the country

Well, if they're telling you it's your body type that's keeping them from dating you, then they're either not worth dating or they're trying to nicely turn you down without hurting your feelings.

It's important to get healthy because it's what you want to do, not in hopes that girls will decide to date you.

Besides, if you're hoping to eventually marry someone then this is the best thing I've heard from someone else: "If they don't care about you when you're at your worst then they don't deserve you at your best."

Good luck.

I’ve dated a woman that said the veins in my arms were disgusting, and i've had the total opposite.

But hey, I’ve been on this earth for 29 years, women – still can confuse the hell out of me Do what you want for your reasons, the rest will come. If your happy, and confident with yourself, you will get the women of your dreams. All the best in your search and the gym, if you want any mass building help feel free to add me

So uhh, Ive always sorta found those arm veins sexy for some reason... :P

I don't go for skinny guys cause I'm afraid I might accidentally crush him or something like that....

I want a guy that can run with me, and not have rolls of fat on him, but if they are lean with muscle, that's most attractive to me. Everyone is different though...

I think it really just depends on the person. I tend to date skinnier guys. My fiance is 6 foot and about 155 lbs. I am open to more muscle but dont like the muscle bound look or fat/bulky look.

Wanting to have a certain body type because then statistically more girls will find you more attractive is, to put it politely, insane. If you want to put on muscle because YOU want to be more muscular, that is a goal I can get behind. Trust me, the basic insecurity you feel about yourself (and that is encoded in your question) is what members of the opposite sex pick up on. People say they like all kinds of things when you ask them, but what goes a long way is being happy with yourself and the confidence that that radiates. The right person, will click on this when you meet them if your attitude is right.

You need to be switched on to being "more" you, not trying to morph yourself into someone else that you think that people you haven't met yet may like. That way, when you do make meaningful contact with another human being, at least they are not latching onto to something as shallow as the circumference of your bicep! If you (god forbid) sustain an injury that puts you out of training for a while and your body reverts back to its former state, what are all these people who love you for your body type going to do?

If that sounds like tough love, it is! It's the an analogue of the situation where girls feel the need to be skinny because magazines portray their role models that way. It's time we all grew up, took a step back, and stopped worrying what other people think! There's too much pressure to conform to something that's an illusion cooked up by some knob-end in Advertising (who by the way probably snorts too much coke and would have a heart attack if he tackled the stairs too vigorously!).

Hi I'm new here today. My goal is to add muscle to my frame. Currently I'm at 130 lbs Hoping to get to around 150 or so. I don't look that thin in my profile pic, think I may have zoomed in too much, but anyway I have trouble getting dates because most girls say I'm way to skinny that I need some muscle so that's why I'm here. I joined a gym last week , would it be more beneficial to get a personal trainer. Do most girls go for bigger guys?

I'm not sure if your serious......From your picture....unless you are 4'0" I have a hard time buying 130.

I've gotten a lot more attention after building a decent physique than I did being skinny. Good luck to you!

If you are finding almost every woman you approach just isn't interested, you might be approaching those who would not find you attacttive under any circumstances. Alternately, if you are getting first dates, but few second and third dates, it isn't your physique, but something you are doing that is turning them off. That isn't necesarily an immutable personality disorder. You just might be nervous, or maybe need a dating coach to walk you through a dating game plan.

Full disclosure. I am married now but when I was in my early 20s, I went through a depressing pattern with women that had nothing to do with my weight, as I ran into the same problem at 190 lbs as I did at 240 lbs. Chris Rock called it "stuck in the friend zone." Women would adopt me as a sort of older brother figure and just wouldn't see me as a possible romantic partner. I eventually figured it out. I had the ridiculous idea that I should try to become friends with women first, then make my move. It was the exact opposite of what I needed to do, which was to make my move first, and if it worked out, friendship would come after the romance.

6'1" 130 is not healthy, I would focus on getting healthy. Your arms and waist look tiny so weight training might do you good. I'm 5'6" 135 and a healthy weight. Shooting for 120

I'm doing it more for myself than anything, I don't feel good looking too thin. Right now I feel insecure and weak looking around other guys.

Don't let it get you down. First off, though cliche here we go, its not about rather or not you have a six pac abs or not? However, it would be good to add some muscles to your body as it would gift your more strength and endurance. I know someone who feels the same as you so don't let it get you down;) Good luck.

Just for the record, I cannot abide fat guys! Too skinnny is way better than too many chins and fat rolls!

Just for the record, I cannot abide fat guys! Too skinnny is way better than too many chins and fat rolls!

Aren't you a peach.

I just want to add, that my husband is 6'1" tall and about 180 lbs. He wears a 40L coat and 30-31 waist on his pants. He is quite slender and lean.

At 130 his cheeks would be sunken and he would look like a walking skeleton. I just don't think the photo attached to the OP's profile is accurate. Something just isn't right about this topic.