Friends with benifits

@vkaylor No disrespect, but do you know from experience? Cause I'm looking for honest advice. Theirs this girl and she wants to but I'm scared it will ruin our friendship. I really like her.

Just to let you know....if you tell her no, that'll put a damper on your friendship anyways. Not saying you can't move past it and still be platonic friends, but telling you to prepare yourself for a little awkwardness.

Then again, better than doing it and a month later one of you wants something more and the other doesn't.

Things cannot be won unless action is taken. :brokenheart:

This was in "Muscle & Fitness Hers", Nov/Dec 2012 issue... I tend to believe they're right...



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What i get from this is that people are more likely to develop feelings for their friend with benefits if they have orgasms. So OP..if you decide to go for it..keep that in mind haha

Ive done it and am currently doing it now for the last year with a younger friend. Its just like anything you just have to get the right setup and it works. Never had major problems, but if one develops feelings then the friendship stops cold in my setup, Ive been on both sides of the feelings part myself. My reasons for being in this type thing is I work away from home, never home basically so I found a person who works like me but could be around in town when I come. Having a loved one at home alone is miserable so I wont do that to anyone, and will not let them come to work with me either.

not at all wrong. We're human. Life is much more enjoyable when you give in to carnal desires.

False. This attitude is why a lot of us here are fat. Food and sex are both "carnal" desires and lack of caution can lead to unintended and unpleasant consequences relating to both.

I think frequency plays into it. If you're sleeping together every day, spending the night at each other's houses, then going out to catch dinner and a movie, it's really hard to distinguish between a hookup and a relationship. If it's a once or twice a month kind of thing, it keeps some distance between you and gives you a chance to see other people if you want.

If you're not sure you or her can do it without getting emotionally involved, just don't. It gets messy.

ETA: Based on the following, just don't. That can't end well, the emotional maturity is too different.

Well for starters she's a student in my crossfit class. I know her parents and she's about 12 yrs younger than me She wants to and she's really hot but I respect her parents and the ethics of student/teacher relationship.

@vkaylor No disrespect, but do you know from experience? Cause I'm looking for honest advice. Theirs this girl and she wants to but I'm scared it will ruin our friendship. I really like her.

It could work. one of you will develop feelings (maybe you!), but that's not necessarily the end of the world. And if she wants to have crazy sex with you, but you're like thanks but no thanks, that's probably going to start putting a crimp in the friendship anyway. women tend to take the turning down of their sex kinda personal.

Well for starters she's a student in my crossfit class. I know her parents and she's about 12 yrs younger than me She wants to and she's really hot but I respect her parents and the ethics of student/teacher relationship.

the HELL?!?!?!? No. Just NO. This is all wrong

Do you think its wrong to have a friend that you really like and really like to be around, workout with, laugh with, but you have crazy sex? But it has no chance at a relationship as far as bf/gf marriage?

Since you asked. Yes I think it is wrong. Objectively wrong and immoral. There is a reason why morality exists. It is good for us and good for society. The destruction of traditional values is freedom but is is the freedom to be destructive, not just to oneself but also to the fabric of community.

So, you would equate something like a friends with benefits relationship to, I don't know, murder? I mean, murder is pretty immoral.

That escalated quickly.

I vote no. Speaking from experience, someone always falls in love. Sometimes it was the guy/other girl, other times it was me, the common denominator is that it ended badly and wasn't worth the hassle.

Excuse me, but don't ALL relationships carry the inherent risk of someone getting hurt? We would never fall in love, have a baby, make a close friend, if the main concern was the possibility of heart break.

I've done it...and it's worked out great...but you have to be very honest and you have to be very honest from the beginning and all during it....

also...she's your student...that doesn't bode well, she's mentally placed you in a position of authority by virtue of being a teacher, someone who shows her things and she learns from...

this almost ALWAYS ends badly......plus you seem to know her parents...if you were in a relationship that would be fine...

but just as FWB, wouldn't that be awkward?

I know I sure as hell wouldn't want to meet the parents of any person I was FWB with...

jus some food for thought