Friends with benifits

intrepidity
intrepidity Posts: 110
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Do you think its wrong to have a friend that you really like and really like to be around, workout with, laugh with, but you have crazy sex? But it has no chance at a relationship as far as bf/gf marriage?
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  • DamnImASexyBitch
    DamnImASexyBitch Posts: 740 Member
    Is it wrong? No. Does it work out? No. Someone ALWAYS develops feelings.
  • pudadough
    pudadough Posts: 1,271 Member
    To each their own, I guess.

    For ME, I could never do it. I think it's wrong for my own life. But I'm sure some folks are quite happy with that arrangement.
  • bettacheckyoself
    bettacheckyoself Posts: 570
    Good luck...you will need it ...
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    Nothing wrong with that, as long as both people are exactly on the same page about it.
  • intrepidity
    intrepidity Posts: 110
    @vkaylor No disrespect, but do you know from experience? Cause I'm looking for honest advice. Theirs this girl and she wants to but I'm scared it will ruin our friendship. I really like her.
  • mndamon
    mndamon Posts: 549 Member
    Nothing wrong with that, as long as both people are exactly on the same page about it.

    This
  • emmeylou
    emmeylou Posts: 175 Member
    @vkaylor No disrespect, but do you know from experience? Cause I'm looking for honest advice. Theirs this girl and she wants to but I'm scared it will ruin our friendship. I really like her.

    I don't know from experience... but just what you wrote, right here, tells me that this would be a BAD idea. It seems to me like you would be the one to develop deeper feelings and she would eventually hurt you, even if it was not on purpose. I don't know why it could never develop into a relationship, as you mentioned in your first post., but maybe you should tell her this.
  • sm1zzle
    sm1zzle Posts: 920 Member
    Nothing wrong with it at all.

    The female will almost always end up wanting more though and ruin it.
  • lovelyMYlovely
    lovelyMYlovely Posts: 1,066 Member
    no this is hard to do... someone always develops feelings... i wouldnt.. because someone will get hurt... i had a friend who was in this situation... and she was very sad that he wouldnt want her....... u said it wont work out.. why?.. maybe u guys will be perfect.... :) but as of friends with bebefits its dangereous... i wouldnt..
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    This was in "Muscle & Fitness Hers", Nov/Dec 2012 issue... I tend to believe they're right...

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  • intrepidity
    intrepidity Posts: 110
    Really appreciate the honesty and good feedback. Thanks so much.
  • Lift_This_
    Lift_This_ Posts: 2,756 Member
    if you are asking us, then you subconsciously think its a bad idea...stay friends for a bit longer, or go out on few dates and then see what that leads to...if you don't want to ruin it go slow for a while.
  • vanguardfitness
    vanguardfitness Posts: 720 Member
    not at all wrong. We're human. Life is much more enjoyable when you give in to carnal desires.
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    That never works out.
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    Sorry. Need to resize it... right click and view image in new tab lol

    Sorry also for the dupe post... I better get to a computer and off my android!
  • vanguardfitness
    vanguardfitness Posts: 720 Member
    Nothing wrong with it at all.

    The female will almost always end up wanting more though and ruin it.

    QFT
  • LowcarbNY
    LowcarbNY Posts: 546 Member
    Do you think its wrong to have a friend that you really like and really like to be around, workout with, laugh with, but you have crazy sex? But it has no chance at a relationship as far as bf/gf marriage?

    Since you asked. Yes I think it is wrong. Objectively wrong and immoral. There is a reason why morality exists. It is good for us and good for society. The destruction of traditional values is freedom but is is the freedom to be destructive, not just to oneself but also to the fabric of community.
  • mdyorston
    mdyorston Posts: 158
    Is it wrong? No. Does it work out? No. Someone ALWAYS develops feelings.


    Not necessarily. I've had a friend with benefits for years. We see each other infrequently and if either of us starts seeing someone we take a break. When we reconnect we have a don't ask, don't tell policy. It works for us.
  • Jonesingmucho
    Jonesingmucho Posts: 4,902 Member
    Aww! Slippery slopes are SO much fun on the way down but really impossible to get back to the top. I hope it works out but I have never seen it work in real life. Tell me again why u two wont date?
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Is it wrong? No. Does it work out? No. Someone ALWAYS develops feelings.

    Yeah, no such thing as no strings attached if it ends up being a longer than a week friends with benefits deal.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    @vkaylor No disrespect, but do you know from experience? Cause I'm looking for honest advice. Theirs this girl and she wants to but I'm scared it will ruin our friendship. I really like her.

    Just to let you know....if you tell her no, that'll put a damper on your friendship anyways. Not saying you can't move past it and still be platonic friends, but telling you to prepare yourself for a little awkwardness.

    Then again, better than doing it and a month later one of you wants something more and the other doesn't.
  • Just_do_it_xo
    Just_do_it_xo Posts: 30 Member
    Is it wrong? No. Does it work out? No. Someone ALWAYS develops feelings.

    ^^^This
    Someone ALWAYS CATCHES FEELINGS! & I speak this from experience. bestfriends before & now 9 months later after not speaking to eachother still heartbroken. careful with that.
  • RECowgill
    RECowgill Posts: 881 Member
    Things cannot be won unless action is taken. :brokenheart:
  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    Do you think its wrong to have a friend that you really like and really like to be around, workout with, laugh with, but you have crazy sex? But it has no chance at a relationship as far as bf/gf marriage?

    Since you asked. Yes I think it is wrong. Objectively wrong and immoral. There is a reason why morality exists. It is good for us and good for society. The destruction of traditional values is freedom but is is the freedom to be destructive, not just to oneself but also to the fabric of community.

    So, you would equate something like a friends with benefits relationship to, I don't know, murder? I mean, murder is pretty immoral.
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    This was in "Muscle & Fitness Hers", Nov/Dec 2012 issue... I tend to believe they're right...

    2012-12-29223419.png

    Sorry. Need to resize it... right click and view image in new tab lol
    What i get from this is that people are more likely to develop feelings for their friend with benefits if they have orgasms. So OP..if you decide to go for it..keep that in mind haha
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    Sexually Transmitted Diseases.
  • ryanb80
    ryanb80 Posts: 2
    Ive done it and am currently doing it now for the last year with a younger friend. Its just like anything you just have to get the right setup and it works. Never had major problems, but if one develops feelings then the friendship stops cold in my setup, Ive been on both sides of the feelings part myself. My reasons for being in this type thing is I work away from home, never home basically so I found a person who works like me but could be around in town when I come. Having a loved one at home alone is miserable so I wont do that to anyone, and will not let them come to work with me either.
  • intrepidity
    intrepidity Posts: 110
    Aww! Slippery slopes are SO much fun on the way down but really impossible to get back to the top. I hope it works out but I have never seen it work in real life. Tell me again why u two wont date?

    Well for starters she's a student in my crossfit class. I know her parents and she's about 12 yrs younger than me :/ She wants to and she's really hot but I respect her parents and the ethics of student/teacher relationship.
  • pudadough
    pudadough Posts: 1,271 Member
    not at all wrong. We're human. Life is much more enjoyable when you give in to carnal desires.

    False. This attitude is why a lot of us here are fat. Food and sex are both "carnal" desires and lack of caution can lead to unintended and unpleasant consequences relating to both.
  • childermass
    childermass Posts: 115 Member
    THREE TIME RULE!
    Heard of it? seen it in action...usually from the girl's side.
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