My Husband called me a fat @zz yesterday

28 or 8?

Calling someone names isn't acceptable, ever. Even in anger.

Your husband sounds like he has some issues of his own. What he is doing is abusive & manipulative-and its working.

The only advice I can suggest is to see a counselor/therapist-even if its on your own. You do not deserve that treatment.

And if you'll notice, I haven't mentioned anything about weightloss. There's a reason for that. His comments have NOTHING to do with your weight, and everything to do with controlling you.

*snip*

I have to disagree here(married 30+ years here). He aaid what he did to wound her. There lies rhe issue, not whether she is indeed indeed fat. Calling someone names in anger is not constructive. It is childish and hateful.

you are probably not going to like my reply, I was married 25 yrs so kinda think I know what I am talking about.
people let names hurt but really, is he telling you something you dont already know? Is it really a big deal?
you are in mfp for a reason, so dont act offended or shocked when someone who loves you says you are fat.'
They are simply pointing out the obvious to you incase you didnt see it and want you to change before you suffer long term health damage and self esteme issues from being overweight.

Most of us are here because we are overweight trying to lose, not all of us.
Now, could your hubby have said something a little more tender sugar coating it, sure
but in my experience men speak from the heart before thinking of how its gonna sound and
do not generally tend to offend us, they are trying to motivate us, maybe even through making us pissed off.
It usually backfires on them because we do get upset and then internalize and become self destructive instead of
the reaction they desired which was to set us up on the right track and get us going.
They are just more straight foward and blunt about things.

Take this moment to change, dont get all bent over it.
Its a moment that wont matter in the scheme of your entire life in the long term but your weight will matter.
Its not that big of a deal, really.

If you cant cope with that, maybe your both better off not being married cus trust me there are alot worse things
to be called then a fat *kitten* by your spouse and give it time you will both get to those pet names too!
It happens, one day he will call you the B word, you will call him a P, and then you will wanna divorce.
Cus omg thats so unacceptable, is it? when you live with someone with the goal being for life,
you are bound to get hurt feelings and get on eachothers nerves,
but over all its how you solve these problems together and rebound from them
more aware and stronger as a couple because of it. If you cant handle that you should prolly divorce sooner than later.
He isnt being abusive, he is just being the guy you married.

You are fat, he called you out on it, frustrated at perhaps you werent doing anything
to help yourself and he might have a point, cus instead of discussing this with him and taking a proactive approach to fixing
your body or confronting him on this issue, you are here in mfp venting which is perfectly okay too, we all need a place to vent
but if you came here instead of him first, you guys have bigger issues than him just calling you a name. toughen up and get busy!in the time it took to post you could of burned 100 calories taking a walk to decompress!

I did my workout before logging into mfp today, lets go girl , get serious and if the issues with hubby dont resolve you will be fit and fab and move on. Take control of your life do not let it control you!

You can do it!

Seriously??

WHy stick up for him? What he did was wrong. It was hurtful. THere is no excuse for a husband to speak to his wife like that. I have no idea what kind of marriage you had but I would never let my husband say anything like that to me and I wouldn't say anything like that to him.