Boyfriend is a Job Jumper

sounds like a loser, sorry, dump him. you think its bad now? imagine being married to him and having to support him because he has issues.

^^this

I married a job jumper and it was extremely stressful. He eventually got to a point where he just stopped working all together which caused our separation. We're divorced now. I realize now that he switched jobs so frequently because he really didn't want to work. At first, he would leave one and go right to another, but as time went on, the time between jobs got longer and longer until he just decided he didn't have to work. He told me he was not going to work anymore. We lost our home and I left him. Of course, my advice is to you is to leave him like yesterday. It's not worth it.

He says "I will never let a job define me". Uhhh, okayy?

He isn't. He is defined by his inability to keep one.

[Um... are you sure he's really HAD these jobs?
Saw a woman on Dr. Phil the other day - her husband FAKED having a job for over a year.... would call/text her on his supposed "breaks" and on his "lunches"....... no joke.

Why would he keep quitting jobs he doesn't have?

You need/want a MAN, not a boy in the costume of a 30 year old guy. If he doesn't care enough about you to want to take care of you, then he doesn't love you, only the sex. Their are many great men out there who are looking for a really good woman to marry, raise kids and grow old together with. They just don't have a lot of time to look for a woman bcause they work 40+ hours a week, spend a few hours a month paying their bills, maintaining their house and vehicles and generally being responsable men. Find yourself one. They are worth keeping because they love and give, not use and take.

As to the original question, people jump job to job because they are lazy. It is different than moving from job to job every couple of years with each new job being a step up. But job to job in the fast food business is just laziness.

Go forth young lady and find yourself a real man, leave them kids in mens bodies alone!

It could be that he hasn't found the right job. I learned bookkeeping shortly out of high school and am good at it so those are the jobs I was able to easily get. I don't really enjoy it so I would switch companies hoping the next one would be better. I eventually got a job bookkeeping at a swimming pool company and after about 6 months I talked them into letting me try swimming pool maintenance. I LOVED it and did that for 4 years. I was really good at it and wound up being the one they would send to the customers that were mad, I could usually fix the problem. I'm pretty sure they only let me try to shut me up not really thinking I could do it. It's extremely hard work and not anything I had ever even thought about doing. I was also in the best shape of my life, if you look at my pics the ones where I was in shape were during those 4 years. Unfortunately I'm now being treated for cancer and cannot do physical labor. Once I get through this I'm hoping to get back to that kind of work. Maybe he just needs to find something he loves.

Without reading the rest of the comments.. I have to say..

In this economy it's not exactly easy to get a job. It says a lot about somebodys maturity to not be able to hold a job.

You really need to think of what's going to happen if he all the sudden wants to quit you, years later when you are married with kid.

I want updates!

flip the script and QUIT that mofo!

He says "I will never let a job define me". Uhhh, okayy?

He isn't. He is defined by his inability to keep one.

^^^^Yes! Awesome response!

You are not overreacting. Clearly he has problems if he has been fired from multiple jobs.

Lol. He has actually already worked at Sonic as a GM. Thats the thing... he's 30 years old and has probably had 100 jobs in his life! Its freaking crazy.

If this is how he is while he's still in the "boyfriend" phase, imagine him in the "husband" and/or "father" phase.
It's hard to think that he would change much given the current level of stability he is showing.

'Dump him'?

What terrible advice. Things get hard, just give up and let go. Sure!! Don't work on your relationship, just jump ship :P

He is an adult just like you, he has to find out what he wants in life and if you love him, you support him and ENCOURAGE him to change, not just get rid of the man.

It is that simple.

Depending on height and weight...you could easily lose weight. Just find a soccer ball to practice with and see how that works!

Who cares if he is a job hopper if he is paying his side of the bills? If you love him, deal with it. He is probably young and figuring it out. Everyone goes through it.

This. It is so immature and irresponsible to give up on a relationship based on JOBS. It would be different if he never bothered to anything at all - clearly, he just needs to find something that fits and that is not always easy. Just because you have found it, does not mean others have.

I can't believe people actually break up over these things.. .I must be living in a completely different world to most if I think a relationship is for better and the worst of the worst.

Please don't offer any more advice....EVER.

No one is talking about divore and separating kids, this is boyfriend/girlfriend issues, would you really stay with someone who just quit bathing because he was too lazy just because you "love him"?